Female college student—my parents track me on Life360

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents were like this. At 23, I moved to the opposite coast and didn’t tell them until months afterward. I also informed them at that point that I’d traveled to another country.


Play stupid games (be too controlling of your daughters), win stupid prizes.

It would be a shame to ruin what OP says is otherwise a good relationship with her parents, but this response doesn’t surprise me from DCUM. They are quick to cut people off. OP no relationship is perfect but it sounds like your parents come from a good place. I don’t exactly understand what you want other than their blessing to explore in another city?

I had a roommate with parents like this in college. They would call regularly at 7am weekdays and weekends to make sure she was in her dorm not spending the night with someone. This was prior to cell phones and they would wake everyone up. If ever she wasn't there to answer and one of the other roommates did, they would scream and yell at us. They continued to do this through our early 20s when we moved to an apt. They would show up there at 7am to check on her. She had to cut them off to get them to back off. They would call her work and tried to be involved in ever aspect of her life. They were creepy rednecks and I suspect the dad abused my roommate. I threatened to call the police on them if they showed up again and tried to get in our apt. She had to take a strong line to get them to back off. People this controlling won't respond to reason. Op you need to become independent asap because they are going to try to keep you as a child forever.

Huh. What made you think this is applicable to her situation at all? Just like extreme examples?

[Anonymous]

Their money, their rules.

Once you pay for your own school and phone then your rules. Seems like a small price to pay for the next 1.5 years of phone and tuition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents were like this. At 23, I moved to the opposite coast and didn’t tell them until months afterward. I also informed them at that point that I’d traveled to another country.


Play stupid games (be too controlling of your daughters), win stupid prizes.

It would be a shame to ruin what OP says is otherwise a good relationship with her parents, but this response doesn’t surprise me from DCUM. They are quick to cut people off. OP no relationship is perfect but it sounds like your parents come from a good place. I don’t exactly understand what you want other than their blessing to explore in another city?

I had a roommate with parents like this in college. They would call regularly at 7am weekdays and weekends to make sure she was in her dorm not spending the night with someone. This was prior to cell phones and they would wake everyone up. If ever she wasn't there to answer and one of the other roommates did, they would scream and yell at us. They continued to do this through our early 20s when we moved to an apt. They would show up there at 7am to check on her. She had to cut them off to get them to back off. They would call her work and tried to be involved in ever aspect of her life. They were creepy rednecks and I suspect the dad abused my roommate. I threatened to call the police on them if they showed up again and tried to get in our apt. She had to take a strong line to get them to back off. People this controlling won't respond to reason. Op you need to become independent asap because they are going to try to keep you as a child forever.

Huh. What made you think this is applicable to her situation at all? Just like extreme examples?

She is not going to be able to have a reasonable discussion with these people. She needs to get a degree that will allow her to get a job and not be dependent upon them. She is going to have to fight them to have reasonable boundaries. You think they're going to stop controlling her life just because she graduates from school?

Her parents are extreme. We all know she isn't going to be able to have a reasonable conversation with them. She needs to get a degree an

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Their money, their rules.

Once you pay for your own school and phone then your rules. Seems like a small price to pay for the next 1.5 years of phone and tuition.

And that’s fine if that’s your style of parenting, but don’t expect much interaction, if any, from your kids post-college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents were like this. At 23, I moved to the opposite coast and didn’t tell them until months afterward. I also informed them at that point that I’d traveled to another country.


Play stupid games (be too controlling of your daughters), win stupid prizes.

It would be a shame to ruin what OP says is otherwise a good relationship with her parents, but this response doesn’t surprise me from DCUM. They are quick to cut people off. OP no relationship is perfect but it sounds like your parents come from a good place. I don’t exactly understand what you want other than their blessing to explore in another city?

I had a roommate with parents like this in college. They would call regularly at 7am weekdays and weekends to make sure she was in her dorm not spending the night with someone. This was prior to cell phones and they would wake everyone up. If ever she wasn't there to answer and one of the other roommates did, they would scream and yell at us. They continued to do this through our early 20s when we moved to an apt. They would show up there at 7am to check on her. She had to cut them off to get them to back off. They would call her work and tried to be involved in ever aspect of her life. They were creepy rednecks and I suspect the dad abused my roommate. I threatened to call the police on them if they showed up again and tried to get in our apt. She had to take a strong line to get them to back off. People this controlling won't respond to reason. Op you need to become independent asap because they are going to try to keep you as a child forever.

Huh. What made you think this is applicable to her situation at all? Just like extreme examples?

She is not going to be able to have a reasonable discussion with these people. She needs to get a degree that will allow her to get a job and not be dependent upon them. She is going to have to fight them to have reasonable boundaries. You think they're going to stop controlling her life just because she graduates from school?

Her parents are extreme. We all know she isn't going to be able to have a reasonable conversation with them. She needs to get a degree an

She said “they are a bit controlling”. That’s her side of the story. How you get from there to her needing to fight them is not a reasonable conclusion.. Encouraging a college student to be so extreme with their parents just isn’t healthy. There are lots of steps she can take before that.
The mother of one of my kids roommates set Life360 to alert her every time she left or returned to the dorm. I was like OMG. She loosened up after a few months and honestly they have a great relationship - that roomate says her mom is her best friend. The answer to every relationship issue shouldn’t be boundaries and cut them off. That’s Tik tok relationship advice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious what area you live in?
The steps you take - vary route? - do give the sense that it’s not a safe area. And it’s reasonable to ask young females to explore with another person. I may be biased, but the number of adults here encouraging a burner phone boggles my mind.

Many women are not risk adverse at all. They travel the world, do adventure sports, and live their own lives. They do not need to live in a shadow of fear. Should they take basic precautions - as in don't get drunk at a bar by yourself in an unknown neighborhood and accept a ride home from a stranger - yes. Do they need to live as though danger is lurking around every corner - no.

The number one piece of advice they get at college orientation is some variation of safety in numbers. That doesn’t make someone risk averse or scared. It makes them smart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious what area you live in?
The steps you take - vary route? - do give the sense that it’s not a safe area. And it’s reasonable to ask young females to explore with another person. I may be biased, but the number of adults here encouraging a burner phone boggles my mind.

Many women are not risk adverse at all. They travel the world, do adventure sports, and live their own lives. They do not need to live in a shadow of fear. Should they take basic precautions - as in don't get drunk at a bar by yourself in an unknown neighborhood and accept a ride home from a stranger - yes. Do they need to live as though danger is lurking around every corner - no.

The number one piece of advice they get at college orientation is some variation of safety in numbers. That doesn’t make someone risk averse or scared. It makes them smart.

That’s nice but not always possible. I’d still be living in my childhood bedroom in Appalachia if I followed that advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious what area you live in?
The steps you take - vary route? - do give the sense that it’s not a safe area. And it’s reasonable to ask young females to explore with another person. I may be biased, but the number of adults here encouraging a burner phone boggles my mind.

Many women are not risk adverse at all. They travel the world, do adventure sports, and live their own lives. They do not need to live in a shadow of fear. Should they take basic precautions - as in don't get drunk at a bar by yourself in an unknown neighborhood and accept a ride home from a stranger - yes. Do they need to live as though danger is lurking around every corner - no.

The number one piece of advice they get at college orientation is some variation of safety in numbers. That doesn’t make someone risk averse or scared. It makes them smart.

There is lots of safety in numbers in a city, you just might now know the people around you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious what area you live in?
The steps you take - vary route? - do give the sense that it’s not a safe area. And it’s reasonable to ask young females to explore with another person. I may be biased, but the number of adults here encouraging a burner phone boggles my mind.

Many women are not risk adverse at all. They travel the world, do adventure sports, and live their own lives. They do not need to live in a shadow of fear. Should they take basic precautions - as in don't get drunk at a bar by yourself in an unknown neighborhood and accept a ride home from a stranger - yes. Do they need to live as though danger is lurking around every corner - no.

The number one piece of advice they get at college orientation is some variation of safety in numbers. That doesn’t make someone risk averse or scared. It makes them smart.

That’s nice but not always possible. I’d still be living in my childhood bedroom in Appalachia if I followed that advice.

It’s very possible here though and would even benefit her to make friends. Win-win. Pick and choose your battles, you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Their money, their rules.

Once you pay for your own school and phone then your rules. Seems like a small price to pay for the next 1.5 years of phone and tuition.

Our college kids also have Life 360. We rarely "track them" except when they are driving home (5 and 8 hours respectively) so we can see when they'll be home. Although every once in a while, when we are missing them, we look to see where they are (usually in class or in their dorm or in another part of each of their respective locations).

We always made the kids have it, and have it turned on, due to the Whitman HS student who passed away a few years back who no one could find (apparently left a party, cut through the woods and passed out and died). No one could find him and the parents were frantic. That is why we require it.

And, agree with the above. If you don't ever want them to track you, pay for your own phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious what area you live in?
The steps you take - vary route? - do give the sense that it’s not a safe area. And it’s reasonable to ask young females to explore with another person. I may be biased, but the number of adults here encouraging a burner phone boggles my mind.

Many women are not risk adverse at all. They travel the world, do adventure sports, and live their own lives. They do not need to live in a shadow of fear. Should they take basic precautions - as in don't get drunk at a bar by yourself in an unknown neighborhood and accept a ride home from a stranger - yes. Do they need to live as though danger is lurking around every corner - no.

The number one piece of advice they get at college orientation is some variation of safety in numbers. That doesn’t make someone risk averse or scared. It makes them smart.

+1 very!

[Anonymous]

The app shouldn’t exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Their money, their rules.

Once you pay for your own school and phone then your rules. Seems like a small price to pay for the next 1.5 years of phone and tuition.

Our college kids also have Life 360. We rarely "track them" except when they are driving home (5 and 8 hours respectively) so we can see when they'll be home. Although every once in a while, when we are missing them, we look to see where they are (usually in class or in their dorm or in another part of each of their respective locations).

We always made the kids have it, and have it turned on, due to the Whitman HS student who passed away a few years back who no one could find (apparently left a party, cut through the woods and passed out and died). No one could find him and the parents were frantic. That is why we require it.

And, agree with the above. If you don't ever want them to track you, pay for your own phone.

+1
Plus there is nothing better than seeing all their little blobs all at home over summer and Christmas breaks!

[Anonymous]

OP here. Looks like I’ll be getting a new phone!

[Anonymous]

We do life 360 whole family including grown daughter, kid in college kid in HS and me and wife.