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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents were like this. At 23, I moved to the opposite coast and didn’t tell them until months afterward. I also informed them at that point that I’d traveled to another country.

Play stupid games (be too controlling of your daughters), win stupid prizes. [/quote]
It would be a shame to ruin what OP says is otherwise a good relationship with her parents, but this response doesn’t surprise me from DCUM. They are quick to cut people off. OP no relationship is perfect but it sounds like your parents come from a good place. I don’t exactly understand what you want other than their blessing to explore in another city? [/quote]

I had a roommate with parents like this in college. They would call regularly at 7am weekdays and weekends to make sure she was in her dorm not spending the night with someone. This was prior to cell phones and they would wake everyone up. If ever she wasn't there to answer and one of the other roommates did, they would scream and yell at us. They continued to do this through our early 20s when we moved to an apt. They would show up there at 7am to check on her. She had to cut them off to get them to back off. They would call her work and tried to be involved in ever aspect of her life. They were creepy rednecks and I suspect the dad abused my roommate. I threatened to call the police on them if they showed up again and tried to get in our apt. She had to take a strong line to get them to back off. People this controlling won't respond to reason. Op you need to become independent asap because they are going to try to keep you as a child forever. [/quote]
Huh. What made you think this is applicable to her situation at all? Just like extreme examples?[/quote]

She is not going to be able to have a reasonable discussion with these people. She needs to get a degree that will allow her to get a job and not be dependent upon them. She is going to have to fight them to have reasonable boundaries. You think they're going to stop controlling her life just because she graduates from school?

Her parents are extreme. We all know she isn't going to be able to have a reasonable conversation with them. She needs to get a degree an[/quote]
She said “they are a bit controlling”. That’s her side of the story. How you get from there to her needing to fight them is not a reasonable conclusion..  Encouraging a college student to be so extreme with their parents just isn’t healthy. There are lots of steps she can take before that. 
The mother of one of my kids roommates set Life360 to alert her every time she left or returned to the dorm. I was like OMG. She loosened up after a few months and honestly they have a great relationship - that roomate says her mom is her best friend. The answer to every relationship issue shouldn’t be boundaries and cut them off. That’s Tik tok relationship advice. [/quote]

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