We have an epidemic of terrible parenting—what is the solution?

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

Lost me at the bolded. That is not what I meant.

Are you OP? Because I have to tell you, your post reads like a (probably White) teacher complaining about the behavioral problems of high-poverty (probably Black) kids. The solution that I have seen suggested on this site by people with similar complaints is sterilization of poor women. Is that what you are hoping for?

Uh, no. This is mostly about ill-parented, overindulged white rich kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it any different now than it used to be?

it has taken me until March this year to get every parent to join Class Dojo. This is how our school communicates with parents. In January, I still had 6 parents out of 22 who hadn't joined despite phone calls home, notes in the child's folder, etc. Of course, just because parents have the app doesn't mean they look at it.

There are multiple permission slips for various trips and activities that are blank.

This is just how contact (or lack of) has gone downhill over the years. I will post about other aspects of parenting another day.

Ok, we move a lot but I have been on Class Dojo, Infinite Campus, Canvas, Power School, Remind, blackboard, google classroom, I'm probably not getting them all. Some schools are using multiple apps. I am down to one child currently in school and this year we have remind, canvas, infinite campus, and a fourth app for bus notifcations. More than one child and more than one school, it gets even worse. I am very involved and I lose track of stuff in these! I get it but I don't want to join any more of them!

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It's not terrible parenting, it's terrible woke admins

Used to be if you were disruptive in class you got kicked out, now nothing happens or even worse it's somehow the teachers fault

Used to be if you didn't do work you failed, now you get an automatic 50 for nothing and unlimited chances to redo stuff

Kids aren't dumb, they know they can get away with everything now.

And yes no consequences for anything is probably true for many parents too, but it used to be teachers could call the shots and enforce rules, now their hands are completely tied by clueless admin.

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Anonymous wrote:It's not terrible parenting, it's terrible woke admins

Used to be if you were disruptive in class you got kicked out, now nothing happens or even worse it's somehow the teachers fault

Used to be if you didn't do work you failed, now you get an automatic 50 for nothing and unlimited chances to redo stuff

Kids aren't dumb, they know they can get away with everything now.

And yes no consequences for anything is probably true for many parents too, but it used to be teachers could call the shots and enforce rules, now their hands are completely tied by clueless admin.

I wouldn’t call it “woke,” rather, just lazy admin.

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right if everyone were just meaner to kids they would buck up and things would be great!

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Anonymous wrote:right if everyone were just meaner to kids they would buck up and things would be great!

spoken like a true sjw liberal

do whatever no consequences for anything

get a clue idiot

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let the beatings begin!

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Anonymous wrote:Is it any different now than it used to be?

it has taken me until March this year to get every parent to join Class Dojo. This is how our school communicates with parents. In January, I still had 6 parents out of 22 who hadn't joined despite phone calls home, notes in the child's folder, etc. Of course, just because parents have the app doesn't mean they look at it.

There are multiple permission slips for various trips and activities that are blank.

This is just how contact (or lack of) has gone downhill over the years. I will post about other aspects of parenting another day.

Ok, we move a lot but I have been on Class Dojo, Infinite Campus, Canvas, Power School, Remind, blackboard, google classroom, I'm probably not getting them all. Some schools are using multiple apps. I am down to one child currently in school and this year we have remind, canvas, infinite campus, and a fourth app for bus notifcations. More than one child and more than one school, it gets even worse. I am very involved and I lose track of stuff in these! I get it but I don't want to join any more of them!

Our school chose one method of communication- Dojo. That's it. Parent's can login into IC but most don't. We send paper copies of progress reports and report cards home.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

+ 1,000 I WAS one of these parents until I became chronically ill and had to give up my job to take care of myself so that I can live. Wow! I had NO idea how much time was spent carting kids from place to place, zoning out on my phone, watching TV, and doing anything but being engaged with my kids. When I was ill, I had to stop and slow down. I began to form relationships with my kids again. They were good kids but now they are great kids! We talk, garden, cook, do crafts, and I even do homework with them (I let them quiz me or play student). WE focus on staying healthy and cook meal together, eat together, and go to bed at decent times, which I could not do working until 5p, running them to practice by 6p until 7:30p, grabbing Chipotle and CFL on the way home. I am so thankful for my illness because it illuminated a lot of shortcomings in me. Now, I cringe when I see parents doing the same thing I do because I know how they got there and it will take something catastrophic to change it. I am not going to lie and say it is easy though. When I was working, it seemed like time flew and I NEVER had enough time to do anything.

I'm sorry about your illness but what do you live on? Do you understand how difficult many of these things are for people who have jobs? Who have to work for various reasons?

Yeah, not having a job gives you a lot more time. Duh.

I went back to work part-time. My husband makes a very handsome salary so that I can stay home. I stated that I know how it is. Duh to you. I said I was a working parent for most of my parenthood. This is an illness that started 2 years ago. I stated that I WAS one of those parents. Calm down. Take a coffee break.

Do you have an ability to self-reflect? damn. "I was a bad parent, and then I started working part time, and that was possible because my husband makes a lot of money, so now I'm not a bad parent because I work part time, but parents with no time are still bad parents."

+1. PP is a dope. “Everyone should quit their jobs like me!”

Signed, FT working mom who outsources everything and under-schedules my kids so I can actually spend time with them

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

+ 1,000 I WAS one of these parents until I became chronically ill and had to give up my job to take care of myself so that I can live. Wow! I had NO idea how much time was spent carting kids from place to place, zoning out on my phone, watching TV, and doing anything but being engaged with my kids. When I was ill, I had to stop and slow down. I began to form relationships with my kids again. They were good kids but now they are great kids! We talk, garden, cook, do crafts, and I even do homework with them (I let them quiz me or play student). WE focus on staying healthy and cook meal together, eat together, and go to bed at decent times, which I could not do working until 5p, running them to practice by 6p until 7:30p, grabbing Chipotle and CFL on the way home. I am so thankful for my illness because it illuminated a lot of shortcomings in me. Now, I cringe when I see parents doing the same thing I do because I know how they got there and it will take something catastrophic to change it. I am not going to lie and say it is easy though. When I was working, it seemed like time flew and I NEVER had enough time to do anything.

I'm sorry about your illness but what do you live on? Do you understand how difficult many of these things are for people who have jobs? Who have to work for various reasons?

Yeah, not having a job gives you a lot more time. Duh.

I went back to work part-time. My husband makes a very handsome salary so that I can stay home. I stated that I know how it is. Duh to you. I said I was a working parent for most of my parenthood. This is an illness that started 2 years ago. I stated that I WAS one of those parents. Calm down. Take a coffee break.

Do you have an ability to self-reflect? damn. "I was a bad parent, and then I started working part time, and that was possible because my husband makes a lot of money, so now I'm not a bad parent because I work part time, but parents with no time are still bad parents."

+1. PP is a dope. “Everyone should quit their jobs like me!”

Signed, FT working mom who outsources everything and under-schedules my kids so I can actually spend time with them

Is there an element of truth to her observation? Maybe it is better for kids if one parent works part time or not at all. There must be research (or maybe not, if no one really wants to know what I suspect is true).

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

Lost me at the bolded. That is not what I meant.

Are you OP? Because I have to tell you, your post reads like a (probably White) teacher complaining about the behavioral problems of high-poverty (probably Black) kids. The solution that I have seen suggested on this site by people with similar complaints is sterilization of poor women. Is that what you are hoping for?

You’re responding to the wrong poster.

"I agree" poster is agreeing with the OP. I'm speaking to the OP, then. Is OP hoping for...idk....forced abortion according to IQ testing? Removal of children from their parents by force?

Not OP. I don’t know what the solution is. But I can you that throwing tons of tax payer money at it isn’t it. You can’t make up for poor parenting no matter how much money you throw at the failing schools and underperforming kids. Therefore, I would like to keep more of my money

You would like to defund public schools? Ok, Jan. I would like a green pony that poops money.

Defund no, but tons of money is wasted on extra programs with zero benefit

So, you want the "wasted money" reallocated to teachers or other "non-wasteful" (by your opinion) school programs? Or do you want it back into your pockets as you indicated you'd like to do?

If the latter, then that's the literal definition of defunding.

It isn’t defunding. Pay for the teachers, staff, buildings, materials, sports...normal school stuff. Stop inviting and funding additional “special programs” that are targeting to help further benefit and elevate poor kids and underperforming schools. They don’t work bc the root problem, as the topic says, is poor parenting.

Ok, so redirect the funds to go directly to parents to pay for food for kids, instead of funneling it through school. Then parenting classes, more supports for parents because 90% of poor parenting (as you put it) is just the result of parents not having time because they are working.

Solved.

Except that wouldn’t work. Because 90% of poor parenting isn’t bc of money- as pointed out early. Being a good parent is actual hard work. And parents- of all income levels are lazier than ever now. There are plenty of terrible wealthy parents too.

We can’t just put our hands in the air, though.

So if you've identified the problem as "lazy" parents, what is your solution to "lazy" parents? Tell us plainly, please. Or are you just complaining incessantly?

(I don't agree with this; I think parents are often exhausted, or maybe were never shown how to be supportive parents, and therefore just don't have the abilities and resources to do what you'd like.)

The children of lazy parents serve as examples to my boys of how not to act.

again, what's your suggestion?

Parents need to make sure homework is done. Tell their kids to behave in the classroom and pay attention. Ask the teacher for help, there is plenty of supplemental assistance available. If a parent can’t manage to do this, then all the money in the world isn’t going to help,

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

Lost me at the bolded. That is not what I meant.

Are you OP? Because I have to tell you, your post reads like a (probably White) teacher complaining about the behavioral problems of high-poverty (probably Black) kids. The solution that I have seen suggested on this site by people with similar complaints is sterilization of poor women. Is that what you are hoping for?

You’re responding to the wrong poster.

"I agree" poster is agreeing with the OP. I'm speaking to the OP, then. Is OP hoping for...idk....forced abortion according to IQ testing? Removal of children from their parents by force?

Not OP. I don’t know what the solution is. But I can you that throwing tons of tax payer money at it isn’t it. You can’t make up for poor parenting no matter how much money you throw at the failing schools and underperforming kids. Therefore, I would like to keep more of my money

You would like to defund public schools? Ok, Jan. I would like a green pony that poops money.

Defund no, but tons of money is wasted on extra programs with zero benefit

So, you want the "wasted money" reallocated to teachers or other "non-wasteful" (by your opinion) school programs? Or do you want it back into your pockets as you indicated you'd like to do?

If the latter, then that's the literal definition of defunding.

It isn’t defunding. Pay for the teachers, staff, buildings, materials, sports...normal school stuff. Stop inviting and funding additional “special programs” that are targeting to help further benefit and elevate poor kids and underperforming schools. They don’t work bc the root problem, as the topic says, is poor parenting.

Ok, so redirect the funds to go directly to parents to pay for food for kids, instead of funneling it through school. Then parenting classes, more supports for parents because 90% of poor parenting (as you put it) is just the result of parents not having time because they are working.

Solved.

Except that wouldn’t work. Because 90% of poor parenting isn’t bc of money- as pointed out early. Being a good parent is actual hard work. And parents- of all income levels are lazier than ever now. There are plenty of terrible wealthy parents too.

We can’t just put our hands in the air, though.

So if you've identified the problem as "lazy" parents, what is your solution to "lazy" parents? Tell us plainly, please. Or are you just complaining incessantly?

(I don't agree with this; I think parents are often exhausted, or maybe were never shown how to be supportive parents, and therefore just don't have the abilities and resources to do what you'd like.)

The children of lazy parents serve as examples to my boys of how not to act.

again, what's your suggestion?

Parents need to make sure homework is done. Tell their kids to behave in the classroom and pay attention. Ask the teacher for help, there is plenty of supplemental assistance available. If a parent can’t manage to do this, then all the money in the world isn’t going to help,

Nope. I am not willing to let kids get neglected if their parents don’t help.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

Lost me at the bolded. That is not what I meant.

Are you OP? Because I have to tell you, your post reads like a (probably White) teacher complaining about the behavioral problems of high-poverty (probably Black) kids. The solution that I have seen suggested on this site by people with similar complaints is sterilization of poor women. Is that what you are hoping for?

You’re responding to the wrong poster.

"I agree" poster is agreeing with the OP. I'm speaking to the OP, then. Is OP hoping for...idk....forced abortion according to IQ testing? Removal of children from their parents by force?

Not OP. I don’t know what the solution is. But I can you that throwing tons of tax payer money at it isn’t it. You can’t make up for poor parenting no matter how much money you throw at the failing schools and underperforming kids. Therefore, I would like to keep more of my money

You would like to defund public schools? Ok, Jan. I would like a green pony that poops money.

Defund no, but tons of money is wasted on extra programs with zero benefit

So, you want the "wasted money" reallocated to teachers or other "non-wasteful" (by your opinion) school programs? Or do you want it back into your pockets as you indicated you'd like to do?

If the latter, then that's the literal definition of defunding.

It isn’t defunding. Pay for the teachers, staff, buildings, materials, sports...normal school stuff. Stop inviting and funding additional “special programs” that are targeting to help further benefit and elevate poor kids and underperforming schools. They don’t work bc the root problem, as the topic says, is poor parenting.

Ok, so redirect the funds to go directly to parents to pay for food for kids, instead of funneling it through school. Then parenting classes, more supports for parents because 90% of poor parenting (as you put it) is just the result of parents not having time because they are working.

Solved.

Except that wouldn’t work. Because 90% of poor parenting isn’t bc of money- as pointed out early. Being a good parent is actual hard work. And parents- of all income levels are lazier than ever now. There are plenty of terrible wealthy parents too.

We can’t just put our hands in the air, though.

So if you've identified the problem as "lazy" parents, what is your solution to "lazy" parents? Tell us plainly, please. Or are you just complaining incessantly?

(I don't agree with this; I think parents are often exhausted, or maybe were never shown how to be supportive parents, and therefore just don't have the abilities and resources to do what you'd like.)

The children of lazy parents serve as examples to my boys of how not to act.

again, what's your suggestion?

Parents need to make sure homework is done. Tell their kids to behave in the classroom and pay attention. Ask the teacher for help, there is plenty of supplemental assistance available. If a parent can’t manage to do this, then all the money in the world isn’t going to help,

Nope. I am not willing to let kids get neglected if their parents don’t help.

NP. But the solution is hard. Because a government “program”, with paid administrators and workers, doesn’t solve this. The kids need a mentor and someone to invest their own time and resources.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

Lost me at the bolded. That is not what I meant.

Are you OP? Because I have to tell you, your post reads like a (probably White) teacher complaining about the behavioral problems of high-poverty (probably Black) kids. The solution that I have seen suggested on this site by people with similar complaints is sterilization of poor women. Is that what you are hoping for?

You’re responding to the wrong poster.

"I agree" poster is agreeing with the OP. I'm speaking to the OP, then. Is OP hoping for...idk....forced abortion according to IQ testing? Removal of children from their parents by force?

Not OP. I don’t know what the solution is. But I can you that throwing tons of tax payer money at it isn’t it. You can’t make up for poor parenting no matter how much money you throw at the failing schools and underperforming kids. Therefore, I would like to keep more of my money

You would like to defund public schools? Ok, Jan. I would like a green pony that poops money.

Defund no, but tons of money is wasted on extra programs with zero benefit

So, you want the "wasted money" reallocated to teachers or other "non-wasteful" (by your opinion) school programs? Or do you want it back into your pockets as you indicated you'd like to do?

If the latter, then that's the literal definition of defunding.

It isn’t defunding. Pay for the teachers, staff, buildings, materials, sports...normal school stuff. Stop inviting and funding additional “special programs” that are targeting to help further benefit and elevate poor kids and underperforming schools. They don’t work bc the root problem, as the topic says, is poor parenting.

Ok, so redirect the funds to go directly to parents to pay for food for kids, instead of funneling it through school. Then parenting classes, more supports for parents because 90% of poor parenting (as you put it) is just the result of parents not having time because they are working.

Solved.

Except that wouldn’t work. Because 90% of poor parenting isn’t bc of money- as pointed out early. Being a good parent is actual hard work. And parents- of all income levels are lazier than ever now. There are plenty of terrible wealthy parents too.

We can’t just put our hands in the air, though.

So if you've identified the problem as "lazy" parents, what is your solution to "lazy" parents? Tell us plainly, please. Or are you just complaining incessantly?

(I don't agree with this; I think parents are often exhausted, or maybe were never shown how to be supportive parents, and therefore just don't have the abilities and resources to do what you'd like.)

The children of lazy parents serve as examples to my boys of how not to act.

again, what's your suggestion?

Parents need to make sure homework is done. Tell their kids to behave in the classroom and pay attention. Ask the teacher for help, there is plenty of supplemental assistance available. If a parent can’t manage to do this, then all the money in the world isn’t going to help,

Nope. I am not willing to let kids get neglected if their parents don’t help.

You don’t have a choice. You can’t make parents do the hard work that being a good parent is. All the paid programs in the world won’t do it. But go ahead and keep thinking up new ways you can spend tax dollars. It won’t fix it.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

Lost me at the bolded. That is not what I meant.

Are you OP? Because I have to tell you, your post reads like a (probably White) teacher complaining about the behavioral problems of high-poverty (probably Black) kids. The solution that I have seen suggested on this site by people with similar complaints is sterilization of poor women. Is that what you are hoping for?

You’re responding to the wrong poster.

"I agree" poster is agreeing with the OP. I'm speaking to the OP, then. Is OP hoping for...idk....forced abortion according to IQ testing? Removal of children from their parents by force?

Not OP. I don’t know what the solution is. But I can you that throwing tons of tax payer money at it isn’t it. You can’t make up for poor parenting no matter how much money you throw at the failing schools and underperforming kids. Therefore, I would like to keep more of my money

You would like to defund public schools? Ok, Jan. I would like a green pony that poops money.

Defund no, but tons of money is wasted on extra programs with zero benefit

So, you want the "wasted money" reallocated to teachers or other "non-wasteful" (by your opinion) school programs? Or do you want it back into your pockets as you indicated you'd like to do?

If the latter, then that's the literal definition of defunding.

It isn’t defunding. Pay for the teachers, staff, buildings, materials, sports...normal school stuff. Stop inviting and funding additional “special programs” that are targeting to help further benefit and elevate poor kids and underperforming schools. They don’t work bc the root problem, as the topic says, is poor parenting.

Ok, so redirect the funds to go directly to parents to pay for food for kids, instead of funneling it through school. Then parenting classes, more supports for parents because 90% of poor parenting (as you put it) is just the result of parents not having time because they are working.

Solved.

Except that wouldn’t work. Because 90% of poor parenting isn’t bc of money- as pointed out early. Being a good parent is actual hard work. And parents- of all income levels are lazier than ever now. There are plenty of terrible wealthy parents too.

We can’t just put our hands in the air, though.

So if you've identified the problem as "lazy" parents, what is your solution to "lazy" parents? Tell us plainly, please. Or are you just complaining incessantly?

(I don't agree with this; I think parents are often exhausted, or maybe were never shown how to be supportive parents, and therefore just don't have the abilities and resources to do what you'd like.)

The children of lazy parents serve as examples to my boys of how not to act.

again, what's your suggestion?

Parents need to make sure homework is done. Tell their kids to behave in the classroom and pay attention. Ask the teacher for help, there is plenty of supplemental assistance available. If a parent can’t manage to do this, then all the money in the world isn’t going to help,

Nope. I am not willing to let kids get neglected if their parents don’t help.

You don’t have a choice. You can’t make parents do the hard work that being a good parent is. All the paid programs in the world won’t do it. But go ahead and keep thinking up new ways you can spend tax dollars. It won’t fix it.

We need to get to a point where teachers can tell administrators / parents that a student is not well-behaved but in class and the parent owns it.