We have an epidemic of terrible parenting—what is the solution?

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

+1. There was a thread yesterday about whether or not to do any SOL test prep with 3-6 graders. Most people commenting effectively said: "Why would I do that? That is the school's job." Zero supplemental learning going on. As a parent of high schoolers, I can tell you that learning how to study starts in the early grades. Helping kids go through a stack of flash cards, do some short online practice questions and so on is how they learn to study. Parents lead the way on that because no teacher has time for it.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

Lost me at the bolded. That is not what I meant.

Are you OP? Because I have to tell you, your post reads like a (probably White) teacher complaining about the behavioral problems of high-poverty (probably Black) kids. The solution that I have seen suggested on this site by people with similar complaints is sterilization of poor women. Is that what you are hoping for?

You’re responding to the wrong poster.

"I agree" poster is agreeing with the OP. I'm speaking to the OP, then. Is OP hoping for...idk....forced abortion according to IQ testing? Removal of children from their parents by force?

Not OP. I don’t know what the solution is. But I can you that throwing tons of tax payer money at it isn’t it. You can’t make up for poor parenting no matter how much money you throw at the failing schools and underperforming kids. Therefore, I would like to keep more of my money

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

+1. There was a thread yesterday about whether or not to do any SOL test prep with 3-6 graders. Most people commenting effectively said: "Why would I do that? That is the school's job." Zero supplemental learning going on. As a parent of high schoolers, I can tell you that learning how to study starts in the early grades. Helping kids go through a stack of flash cards, do some short online practice questions and so on is how they learn to study. Parents lead the way on that because no teacher has time for it.

Holy eff, you think we shouldn't provide school breakfast and lunch?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

+1. There was a thread yesterday about whether or not to do any SOL test prep with 3-6 graders. Most people commenting effectively said: "Why would I do that? That is the school's job." Zero supplemental learning going on. As a parent of high schoolers, I can tell you that learning how to study starts in the early grades. Helping kids go through a stack of flash cards, do some short online practice questions and so on is how they learn to study. Parents lead the way on that because no teacher has time for it.

I think there's a difference between prepping for a test and doing zero supplemental learning. You can't assume they're the same thing.

Yes, if the school wants to do test prep to achieve some kind of metric, that's their job. And yes, if my daughter needs help with fractions, I do flash cards.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

Lost me at the bolded. That is not what I meant.

Are you OP? Because I have to tell you, your post reads like a (probably White) teacher complaining about the behavioral problems of high-poverty (probably Black) kids. The solution that I have seen suggested on this site by people with similar complaints is sterilization of poor women. Is that what you are hoping for?

You’re responding to the wrong poster.

"I agree" poster is agreeing with the OP. I'm speaking to the OP, then. Is OP hoping for...idk....forced abortion according to IQ testing? Removal of children from their parents by force?

Not OP. I don’t know what the solution is. But I can you that throwing tons of tax payer money at it isn’t it. You can’t make up for poor parenting no matter how much money you throw at the failing schools and underperforming kids. Therefore, I would like to keep more of my money

You would like to defund public schools? Ok, Jan. I would like a green pony that poops money.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

Lost me at the bolded. That is not what I meant.

Are you OP? Because I have to tell you, your post reads like a (probably White) teacher complaining about the behavioral problems of high-poverty (probably Black) kids. The solution that I have seen suggested on this site by people with similar complaints is sterilization of poor women. Is that what you are hoping for?

You’re responding to the wrong poster.

"I agree" poster is agreeing with the OP. I'm speaking to the OP, then. Is OP hoping for...idk....forced abortion according to IQ testing? Removal of children from their parents by force?

Not OP. I don’t know what the solution is. But I can you that throwing tons of tax payer money at it isn’t it. You can’t make up for poor parenting no matter how much money you throw at the failing schools and underperforming kids. Therefore, I would like to keep more of my money

Yes, only “good” students should get to school /s

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

Lost me at the bolded. That is not what I meant.

Are you OP? Because I have to tell you, your post reads like a (probably White) teacher complaining about the behavioral problems of high-poverty (probably Black) kids. The solution that I have seen suggested on this site by people with similar complaints is sterilization of poor women. Is that what you are hoping for?

You’re responding to the wrong poster.

"I agree" poster is agreeing with the OP. I'm speaking to the OP, then. Is OP hoping for...idk....forced abortion according to IQ testing? Removal of children from their parents by force?

Not OP. I don’t know what the solution is. But I can you that throwing tons of tax payer money at it isn’t it. You can’t make up for poor parenting no matter how much money you throw at the failing schools and underperforming kids. Therefore, I would like to keep more of my money

You would like to defund public schools? Ok, Jan. I would like a green pony that poops money.

Defund no, but tons of money is wasted on extra programs with zero benefit

[Anonymous]

no one else seeing all the racist dog whistles in this thread?

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

+1. There was a thread yesterday about whether or not to do any SOL test prep with 3-6 graders. Most people commenting effectively said: "Why would I do that? That is the school's job." Zero supplemental learning going on. As a parent of high schoolers, I can tell you that learning how to study starts in the early grades. Helping kids go through a stack of flash cards, do some short online practice questions and so on is how they learn to study. Parents lead the way on that because no teacher has time for it.

Holy eff, you think we shouldn't provide school breakfast and lunch?

Of course not. That is the parents job. Feed your kid before sending them to school. Send them with a lunch or buy one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

+1. There was a thread yesterday about whether or not to do any SOL test prep with 3-6 graders. Most people commenting effectively said: "Why would I do that? That is the school's job." Zero supplemental learning going on. As a parent of high schoolers, I can tell you that learning how to study starts in the early grades. Helping kids go through a stack of flash cards, do some short online practice questions and so on is how they learn to study. Parents lead the way on that because no teacher has time for it.

Holy eff, you think we shouldn't provide school breakfast and lunch?

Of course not. That is the parents job. Feed your kid before sending them to school. Send them with a lunch or buy one.

Yeah just let kids starve in class if their parents don’t pack one, genius.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

+1. There was a thread yesterday about whether or not to do any SOL test prep with 3-6 graders. Most people commenting effectively said: "Why would I do that? That is the school's job." Zero supplemental learning going on. As a parent of high schoolers, I can tell you that learning how to study starts in the early grades. Helping kids go through a stack of flash cards, do some short online practice questions and so on is how they learn to study. Parents lead the way on that because no teacher has time for it.

Holy eff, you think we shouldn't provide school breakfast and lunch?

Of course not. That is the parents job. Feed your kid before sending them to school. Send them with a lunch or buy one.

Yeah just let kids starve in class if their parents don’t pack one, genius.

That will solve the behavior issues and increase test scores, surely.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

+1. There was a thread yesterday about whether or not to do any SOL test prep with 3-6 graders. Most people commenting effectively said: "Why would I do that? That is the school's job." Zero supplemental learning going on. As a parent of high schoolers, I can tell you that learning how to study starts in the early grades. Helping kids go through a stack of flash cards, do some short online practice questions and so on is how they learn to study. Parents lead the way on that because no teacher has time for it.

Holy eff, you think we shouldn't provide school breakfast and lunch?

Of course not. That is the parents job. Feed your kid before sending them to school. Send them with a lunch or buy one.

Yeah just let kids starve in class if their parents don’t pack one, genius.

There are programs in place for people that can’t afford food. But free breakfast and free lunch for all total waste of money. Plus, no starving kids here. There are more obese kids then ever.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

+1. There was a thread yesterday about whether or not to do any SOL test prep with 3-6 graders. Most people commenting effectively said: "Why would I do that? That is the school's job." Zero supplemental learning going on. As a parent of high schoolers, I can tell you that learning how to study starts in the early grades. Helping kids go through a stack of flash cards, do some short online practice questions and so on is how they learn to study. Parents lead the way on that because no teacher has time for it.

Holy eff, you think we shouldn't provide school breakfast and lunch?

Of course not. That is the parents job. Feed your kid before sending them to school. Send them with a lunch or buy one.

Yeah just let kids starve in class if their parents don’t pack one, genius.

That will solve the behavior issues and increase test scores, surely.

And has all the free food schools throw at kids fixed any of that?

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

+1. There was a thread yesterday about whether or not to do any SOL test prep with 3-6 graders. Most people commenting effectively said: "Why would I do that? That is the school's job." Zero supplemental learning going on. As a parent of high schoolers, I can tell you that learning how to study starts in the early grades. Helping kids go through a stack of flash cards, do some short online practice questions and so on is how they learn to study. Parents lead the way on that because no teacher has time for it.

Holy eff, you think we shouldn't provide school breakfast and lunch?

Of course not. That is the parents job. Feed your kid before sending them to school. Send them with a lunch or buy one.

Yeah just let kids starve in class if their parents don’t pack one, genius.

That will solve the behavior issues and increase test scores, surely.

And has all the free food schools throw at kids fixed any of that?

"Fixed"? No. Can't. And isn't the objective of really any program anywhere ever.

"Mitigated the worst effects and provided better opportunity/results for kids who would otherwise be undernourished and face additional struggle through no fault of their own"? Yes, absolutely.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. Parents are addicted to screens too and spend a lot of time on their phone instead of parenting. They are totally checked out from their kids. They don’t correct behavior, they don’t supplement education at home, there is no learning going on home bc kids are plopped in front of TV/iPad the minute they return home from school or an activity. There is very little parental engagement going on. Parents are even too lazy to actually cook food for their kids too now. Free school breakfast, free lunch, what next?

Lost me at the bolded. That is not what I meant.

Are you OP? Because I have to tell you, your post reads like a (probably White) teacher complaining about the behavioral problems of high-poverty (probably Black) kids. The solution that I have seen suggested on this site by people with similar complaints is sterilization of poor women. Is that what you are hoping for?

You’re responding to the wrong poster.

"I agree" poster is agreeing with the OP. I'm speaking to the OP, then. Is OP hoping for...idk....forced abortion according to IQ testing? Removal of children from their parents by force?

Not OP. I don’t know what the solution is. But I can you that throwing tons of tax payer money at it isn’t it. You can’t make up for poor parenting no matter how much money you throw at the failing schools and underperforming kids. Therefore, I would like to keep more of my money

You would like to defund public schools? Ok, Jan. I would like a green pony that poops money.

Defund no, but tons of money is wasted on extra programs with zero benefit

So, you want the "wasted money" reallocated to teachers or other "non-wasteful" (by your opinion) school programs? Or do you want it back into your pockets as you indicated you'd like to do?

If the latter, then that's the literal definition of defunding.