Should I ask my neighbor if I can use their pool this summer?

[Anonymous]

Lol. I have a lovely in ground pool. A few weeks ago the neighbor that lives directly behind me said my pool was very nice. She has never said anything to me or my wife in the 5 years we have lived here. To be clear they rented out their house for 3 to 4 years. She goes on to say it just her and her husband. She was definitely looking for an invite over. We may actually invite them over one day

[Anonymous]

Neighbor asked to use our swim spa. They’re much smaller than pools and the more people in them, the dirtier they get (we make sure to shower thoroughly before getting in the water). Anyway, I was kind of shocked that neighbor asked. It’s like asking to use your neighbor’s hot tub...gross.

[Anonymous]

No. No. No. Just...no....

[Anonymous]

Part of being a good neighbor is never putting your other neighbors in an uncomfortable position, OP. We are in the middle of a pandemic. Your kids will survive without pool time. You really need strangers on the internet to tell you this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Sounds like there are a lot of uptight rich people in here. Surprise, surprise.

Ask. It hurts nothing.

LOL .. rich people problems are pretty amusing. Literally no pools in our neighborhood because yards aren't big enough to accommodate anything like that.

[Anonymous]

We have an in-ground pool and constantly talk about how sad it is that it doesn’t get more use. We’d love to see people enjoy it. My concerns would be kids being loud, shrieking etc. and liability. Both are probably fixable. If a neighbor brought over a pie or something and asked nicely, we would definitely work something out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have an in-ground pool and constantly talk about how sad it is that it doesn’t get more use. We’d love to see people enjoy it. My concerns would be kids being loud, shrieking etc. and liability. Both are probably fixable. If a neighbor brought over a pie or something and asked nicely, we would definitely work something out.

PP, re-thinking this a bit. The stuff people say about not putting someone on the spot is astute. So a note in the mailbox would be better. But again, we would be happy to entertain the proposal if the asker would be respectful of our concerns. And it sounds like you would!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have an in-ground pool and constantly talk about how sad it is that it doesn’t get more use. We’d love to see people enjoy it. My concerns would be kids being loud, shrieking etc. and liability. Both are probably fixable. If a neighbor brought over a pie or something and asked nicely, we would definitely work something out.

Would you let them use your bathtub for a piece of candy?

[Anonymous]

If they offer to have you over, say yes. This is your only option. Don't ask/invite yourself.

I'm not a major 'what if' person... I wouldn't even worry about liability in them using the pool with their family... but if suddenly your pool is 'allowed' it creates a situation where kids could put themselves at risk in a way kids HAVE died before- climbing a fence, unseen to get in a neighbour's pool and drowning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Sounds like there are a lot of uptight rich people in here. Surprise, surprise.

Ask. It hurts nothing.

It is so incredibly rude and entitled. I would avoid op forever if she did that to me. I had neighbors like this and they assumed everything of ours was there. Without asking, the husband starting bringing his kids into our fenced back yard to play in our yard while we were home. They never did a single nice thing for us the 5 years they lived next door but expected us to shovel their driveway when it snowed, give them our kids clothing etc. Op you are a taker.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't ask, but maybe get your kids to stare at it longingly once in a while, and maybe she'll offer.

Or maybe accept that you're not entitled to her pool just because "she doesn't have kids" and move on. She doesn't want your kids to come over and scream in her yard for a few hours every week.

[Anonymous]

No I would not ask. I would get on over there with the kids in my bathing suit and kids in their suits with snorkels and pool floats and just knock right on the door,

"We are here to use your pool. We see you are not swimming today and we thought your pool could use some cheering up!"

Then before that bitch could say anything, quickly push her out of the doorway and run to the pool.

You have to go fast - like your bootay is on fire and kids will be running and just get the fick in there before neighbor bitch can open her mouth.

If this approach does not work for you, then wait till neighbor bitch goes to church, shopping, visit a friend or family, or best would be vacation - then either go through the gate or if locked get a ladder and hop the fence. This way you guys can enjoy the pool and not have to deal with neighbor bitch. But if just a day trip - make sure you have a lookout so you can get the frick outta there when neighbor bitch gets back from the nail salon etc. so you don't gotta deal with her. This is hard with kids cuz they won't want to leave so maybe have a few practice drills with them - make a game out of it - whoever gets out the fastest will get a big bag of candy!

YAAAS! Enjoy the free pool girl!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Part of being a good neighbor is never putting your other neighbors in an uncomfortable position, OP. We are in the middle of a pandemic. Your kids will survive without pool time. You really need strangers on the internet to tell you this?

Thanks for inserting this. I think most of us were not aware.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So we have an older neighbor (no kids in the house) who has a gorgeous pool accessible via our back yard. We're not friends but friendly. With the reopening of pools still TBD, do you think it would be wildly inappropriate to ask her if I could use the pool with my two kids for a couple hours each week? Of course, I'd completely understand if she said no, would sign a liability waiver, clear dates/times with her in advance, set up clear usage guidelines, and even offer to pitch-in for pool maintenance, etc. Thoughts?

Absolutely not! I have an inground pool and periodically I have neighborhood parties. When I do I also hire two Red Cross certified life guards and also have strict rules for children--no running, no ducking other swimmers, no eating in pool. Also, no urinating in pool. If your neighbor wants you then they will invite you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So we have an older neighbor (no kids in the house) who has a gorgeous pool accessible via our back yard. We're not friends but friendly. With the reopening of pools still TBD, do you think it would be wildly inappropriate to ask her if I could use the pool with my two kids for a couple hours each week? Of course, I'd completely understand if she said no, would sign a liability waiver, clear dates/times with her in advance, set up clear usage guidelines, and even offer to pitch-in for pool maintenance, etc. Thoughts?

OMG....so tacky!