Should I ask my neighbor if I can use their pool this summer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even offer?

The answer is no. If I want someone using my pool I'll let them know. It's rude to go up to someone and put them in the position of being a 'bad' person for saying no to someone they live next to.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I wouldn't do it because if I had a pool, I would feel extremely uncomfortable saying no, but I would have to.

Why would you have to? If this was my pool, I would let my neighbor use the pool given the circumstances.

OP: I would ask. I'd send an email, so she could think about it w/o it being awkward. I would make it incredibly clear she could say no. I would offer to chip in for pool maintenance upfront. I would say we would use it at any time that suited her. I would bring my own chairs over/not touch any of her stuff. I would make it clear that I was only asking because of COVID, etc and 100% understood that this would not continue to any other summer, etc.

We dont know for sure how long covid lives in water even if chlorinated. It’s obnoxious to ask yourself over to swim regardless, but during covid, it’s even more obnoxious. Don’t do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So we have an older neighbor (no kids in the house) who has a gorgeous pool accessible via our back yard. We're not friends but friendly. With the reopening of pools still TBD, do you think it would be wildly inappropriate to ask her if I could use the pool with my two kids for a couple hours each week? Of course, I'd completely understand if she said no, would sign a liability waiver, clear dates/times with her in advance, set up clear usage guidelines, and even offer to pitch-in for pool maintenance, etc. Thoughts?

LOL while you're at it ask if you can use their lawn to play a game of football and if they have an extra space if their refrigerator to store some food!!

[Anonymous]

Don’t.

I have a pool and I’ve offered it to my neighbors I’m friends with. I’d feel put out if someone I didn’t really know asked to use it.

[Anonymous]

No, don't do this.

[Anonymous]

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. I say ask!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I wouldn't do it because if I had a pool, I would feel extremely uncomfortable saying no, but I would have to.

Why would you have to? If this was my pool, I would let my neighbor use the pool given the circumstances.

OP: I would ask. I'd send an email, so she could think about it w/o it being awkward. I would make it incredibly clear she could say no. I would offer to chip in for pool maintenance upfront. I would say we would use it at any time that suited her. I would bring my own chairs over/not touch any of her stuff. I would make it clear that I was only asking because of COVID, etc and 100% understood that this would not continue to any other summer, etc.

We dont know for sure how long covid lives in water even if chlorinated. It’s obnoxious to ask yourself over to swim regardless, but during covid, it’s even more obnoxious. Don’t do it.

NP. Aside from COVID, kids and even some adults using pools can be very loud. Neighbor may want some quiet.

[Anonymous]

NO!

[Anonymous]

Jesus, NO DO NOT ASK!

[Anonymous]

+1 that this is wildly inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

No way

[Anonymous]

Former pool owner. Do not ask. The liability concerns would kill me.

[Anonymous]

I think it's awful to put her in the position of being asked. If she wanted to offer, she would.

[Anonymous]

So obnoxious. NO ONE wants loud kids in their yard. Are you insane????

[Anonymous]

NO! If she's not comfortable she may not know how to say "no." Also, she'll feel guilty and awkward about using it on her own after that point.