Should I ask my neighbor if I can use their pool this summer?

OMG. NO!

If you are hanging outside and she mentions come over some time- ok.

You NEVER ask. And if she offers and u do hi u damn well be neat and clean and gift her many things in return

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06/12/2020 18:18

Subject: Re:Should I ask my neighbor if I can use their pool this summer?

Anonymous

Hi, OP.

No you cannot ask this of your neighbor.

The most you can do is tell her you are thinking of putting in a pool since the community pool is closed this year and might be next summer as well; and does she like the pool she has? Where did she get it? Who does her maintenance?

That's as ballsy as you can get.

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06/12/2020 18:22

Subject: Should I ask my neighbor if I can use their pool this summer?

Anonymous

OP, during bad snowfalls have you offered to help shovel her driveway? Have you helped her out in any way in the past, or done anything kind for her?

Do not ask if you can use her pool. I get that it looks so tempting and this summer is going to be hard. But you cannot ask this of her.

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06/12/2020 19:17

Subject: Should I ask my neighbor if I can use their pool this summer?

Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So obnoxious. NO ONE wants loud kids in their yard. Are you insane????

I think it's just yet another sign of the age of entitlement that we're in these days. Some people seems to really think they're entitled to pretty much anything and everything that someone else has or has worked for. The best thing is when they say "oh yeah, but we didn't get a pool because X" where X is any number of disadvantages of pool ownership that they expect their neighbors to deal with so that they get to visit a free waterpark from their backyard.

I find it fascinating, personally.

Misguided, naive, desperate...maybe. But entitled? Not so much. It's not like she's storming over there demanding to use the pool or saying she's going to cause chaos if she says no. Take your millennial angst elsewhere. But still, OP, no...don't ask. It may be a can of worms you just don't want to open no matter how enticing that sweet pool looks.

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06/12/2020 19:25

Subject: Should I ask my neighbor if I can use their pool this summer?

Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:NO! If she's not comfortable she may not know how to say "no." Also, she'll feel guilty and awkward about using it on her own after that point.

This x10000000000

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06/12/2020 19:43

Subject: Should I ask my neighbor if I can use their pool this summer?

Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I wouldn't do it because if I had a pool, I would feel extremely uncomfortable saying no, but I would have to.

Why would you have to? If this was my pool, I would let my neighbor use the pool given the circumstances.

OP: I would ask. I'd send an email, so she could think about it w/o it being awkward. I would make it incredibly clear she could say no. I would offer to chip in for pool maintenance upfront. I would say we would use it at any time that suited her. I would bring my own chairs over/not touch any of her stuff. I would make it clear that I was only asking because of COVID, etc and 100% understood that this would not continue to any other summer, etc.

+1 all this, plus offer to cover most if not all of the pool costs for this year, assuming the neighbors will hardly use it and your kids will use it regularly for a few hours every week. Plus it's near impossible to keep kids quiet in pools. "Chip in" sounds like you're going to give a few hundred bucks to which I'd say no thanks. If noise bothers the neighbors they will say No to any amount.

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06/12/2020 20:05

Subject: Should I ask my neighbor if I can use their pool this summer?

Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I wouldn't do it because if I had a pool, I would feel extremely uncomfortable saying no, but I would have to.

Why would you have to? If this was my pool, I would let my neighbor use the pool given the circumstances.

OP: I would ask. I'd send an email, so she could think about it w/o it being awkward. I would make it incredibly clear she could say no. I would offer to chip in for pool maintenance upfront. I would say we would use it at any time that suited her. I would bring my own chairs over/not touch any of her stuff. I would make it clear that I was only asking because of COVID, etc and 100% understood that this would not continue to any other summer, etc.

+1 all this, plus offer to cover most if not all of the pool costs for this year, assuming the neighbors will hardly use it and your kids will use it regularly for a few hours every week. Plus it's near impossible to keep kids quiet in pools. "Chip in" sounds like you're going to give a few hundred bucks to which I'd say no thanks. If noise bothers the neighbors they will say No to any amount.

-1,000,000

Wtf is wrong with you people? You DO NOT put anyone in an awkward position by asking. This is basic etiquette. Please, use the common sense that the good Lord gave you.

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06/12/2020 20:10

Subject: Should I ask my neighbor if I can use their pool this summer?

Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I wouldn't do it because if I had a pool, I would feel extremely uncomfortable saying no, but I would have to.

Why would you have to? If this was my pool, I would let my neighbor use the pool given the circumstances.

OP: I would ask. I'd send an email, so she could think about it w/o it being awkward. I would make it incredibly clear she could say no. I would offer to chip in for pool maintenance upfront. I would say we would use it at any time that suited her. I would bring my own chairs over/not touch any of her stuff. I would make it clear that I was only asking because of COVID, etc and 100% understood that this would not continue to any other summer, etc.

+1 all this, plus offer to cover most if not all of the pool costs for this year, assuming the neighbors will hardly use it and your kids will use it regularly for a few hours every week. Plus it's near impossible to keep kids quiet in pools. "Chip in" sounds like you're going to give a few hundred bucks to which I'd say no thanks. If noise bothers the neighbors they will say No to any amount.