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Should I ask my neighbor if I can use their pool this summer?
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Anonymous
| So we have an older neighbor (no kids in the house) who has a gorgeous pool accessible via our back yard. We're not friends but friendly. With the reopening of pools still TBD, do you think it would be wildly inappropriate to ask her if I could use the pool with my two kids for a couple hours each week? Of course, I'd completely understand if she said no, would sign a liability waiver, clear dates/times with her in advance, set up clear usage guidelines, and even offer to pitch-in for pool maintenance, etc. Thoughts? |
Anonymous
Dont do it. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely NOT. Thick skinned woman. |
Anonymous
+1 Obnoxious, OP. You are making a TON of assumptions by asking (even if you don’t realize it). |
Anonymous
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I wouldn't do it because if I had a pool, I would feel extremely uncomfortable saying no, but I would have to. |
Anonymous
| Please do not do this. |
Anonymous
| I think if she hasn't already offered, you probably shouldn't ask. And if you or one of your kids is injured, your insurance company won't care about a waiver; they'll likely try to recoup their money by going after your neighbor. |
Anonymous
| If they wanted that they would have offered by now. I'm older and retired and our pool sits unused 90 percent of the summer and I offer it to anyone who can use it. If I havent offered it to you it's because I dont know you well enough. Dont put me in that position. |
Anonymous
| FFS, no! |
Anonymous
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Even offer?
The answer is no. If I want someone using my pool I'll let them know. It's rude to go up to someone and put them in the position of being a 'bad' person for saying no to someone they live next to. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| That would be a rude request. Fantastic if she offers on her own, though. |
Anonymous
Why would you have to? If this was my pool, I would let my neighbor use the pool given the circumstances. OP: I would ask. I'd send an email, so she could think about it w/o it being awkward. I would make it incredibly clear she could say no. I would offer to chip in for pool maintenance upfront. I would say we would use it at any time that suited her. I would bring my own chairs over/not touch any of her stuff. I would make it clear that I was only asking because of COVID, etc and 100% understood that this would not continue to any other summer, etc. |
Anonymous
| No I would never ask. If she brings it up fine. |
Anonymous
| No |