SAHM shaming

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Anonymous wrote:I’m rarely uncomfortable with people criticizing my SAHM status. In fact, I embrace it! If they ask what I do all day, I say I run errands, laundry, clean up a little bit, go to the gym, play a whole lot of tennis, cuddle with my dogs. Sometimes I’m nap, sometimes I read, go to lunch or coffee with my girlfriends (a mix of SAH and working moms), go on field trips and volunteer at school.

I don’t pretend that it’s the hardest job in the world and I’m not looking for praise from others. It is what it is and it works for my family. Other families are different and I respect that.

Totally serious question and I respect your answer. Are you OK with this as your life? Did you go to college? Do you have daughters and expect them to excel academically? What are your life goals?

Not everyone lives to work.

I can tell you're a workaholic whose identity is wrapped up in what they do for money. That's fine but, if you were truly as smart and perceptive as you think you are, you'd realize not everyone wants to live that way.

And don't bother responding back to deny your workaholism. I can tell because you seem unable to acknowledge why many people don't want to waste their one precious life in an office pushing paper.

It's fine if you feel purpose in what you do. But you can't even acknowledge that other people feel differently. That's a problem.

Read these first before responding.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/annehelenpetersen/millennials-burnout-generation-debt-work

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/01/opinion/burnout-hustle-culture-gentrification-work.html

https://www.theguardian.com/money/shortcuts/2019/jan/28/work-life-balance-thankgoditsmonday

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/religion-workism-making-americans-miserable/583441/

https://www.theatlantic.com/letters/archive/2019/03/readers-respond-workism-is-making-americans-miserable/584377/

You could not be more wrong. Still waiting for an answer to the questions rather than a bunch of defensive bs.
*Insert article about kids of working moms blah blah

I'm a new poster but I happen to agree with the PP. The fact that you can't seem to wrap your head around why someone might choose to live differently from you is very telling.

Fwiw, a person can have hobbies that they're very involved with that are fulfilling and yet don't pay money. Do you really not get that?

[Anonymous]

I'm a SAHM of school aged kids. I fill my time with barre, yoga, pilates, cooking, reading, and quilting. I took up tennis and skiing as an adult and I've been getting more involved in both. I volunteer at my kids' school. I'm also very interested in photography and travel blogging/influencing. I recently hit 50k followers on IG. It barely pays but it's fun for me.

I'm just lucky that my husband makes a lot of money and I can choose to live anyway I want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a SAHM of school aged kids. I fill my time with barre, yoga, pilates, cooking, reading, and quilting. I took up tennis and skiing as an adult and I've been getting more involved in both. I volunteer at my kids' school. I'm also very interested in photography and travel blogging/influencing. I recently hit 50k followers on IG. It barely pays but it's fun for me.

I'm just lucky that my husband makes a lot of money and I can choose to live anyway I want.

you sound insufferable. 50K on IG is something to aspire to? Hope you don't have daughters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a SAHM of school aged kids. I fill my time with barre, yoga, pilates, cooking, reading, and quilting. I took up tennis and skiing as an adult and I've been getting more involved in both. I volunteer at my kids' school. I'm also very interested in photography and travel blogging/influencing. I recently hit 50k followers on IG. It barely pays but it's fun for me.

I'm just lucky that my husband makes a lot of money and I can choose to live anyway I want.

you sound insufferable. 50K on IG is something to aspire to? Hope you don't have daughters.

You're the one tearing down other women online. Look in the mirror. I hope YOU don't have daughters.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m rarely uncomfortable with people criticizing my SAHM status. In fact, I embrace it! If they ask what I do all day, I say I run errands, laundry, clean up a little bit, go to the gym, play a whole lot of tennis, cuddle with my dogs. Sometimes I’m nap, sometimes I read, go to lunch or coffee with my girlfriends (a mix of SAH and working moms), go on field trips and volunteer at school.

I don’t pretend that it’s the hardest job in the world and I’m not looking for praise from others. It is what it is and it works for my family. Other families are different and I respect that.

Totally serious question and I respect your answer. Are you OK with this as your life? Did you go to college? Do you have daughters and expect them to excel academically? What are your life goals?

Not everyone lives to work.

I can tell you're a workaholic whose identity is wrapped up in what they do for money. That's fine but, if you were truly as smart and perceptive as you think you are, you'd realize not everyone wants to live that way.

And don't bother responding back to deny your workaholism. I can tell because you seem unable to acknowledge why many people don't want to waste their one precious life in an office pushing paper.

It's fine if you feel purpose in what you do. But you can't even acknowledge that other people feel differently. That's a problem.

Read these first before responding.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/annehelenpetersen/millennials-burnout-generation-debt-work

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/01/opinion/burnout-hustle-culture-gentrification-work.html

https://www.theguardian.com/money/shortcuts/2019/jan/28/work-life-balance-thankgoditsmonday

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/religion-workism-making-americans-miserable/583441/

https://www.theatlantic.com/letters/archive/2019/03/readers-respond-workism-is-making-americans-miserable/584377/

You could not be more wrong. Still waiting for an answer to the questions rather than a bunch of defensive bs.
*Insert article about kids of working moms blah blah

I'm a new poster but I happen to agree with the PP. The fact that you can't seem to wrap your head around why someone might choose to live differently from you is very telling.

Fwiw, a person can have hobbies that they're very involved with that are fulfilling and yet don't pay money. Do you really not get that?

I never said I didn’t. I just want people to answer those questions. What they obviously are not comfortable doing. You do you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a SAHM of school aged kids. I fill my time with barre, yoga, pilates, cooking, reading, and quilting. I took up tennis and skiing as an adult and I've been getting more involved in both. I volunteer at my kids' school. I'm also very interested in photography and travel blogging/influencing. I recently hit 50k followers on IG. It barely pays but it's fun for me.

I'm just lucky that my husband makes a lot of money and I can choose to live anyway I want.

you sound insufferable. 50K on IG is something to aspire to? Hope you don't have daughters.

Sure it is. If you’re 21.

[Anonymous]

People can actually make a lot of money on Instagram these days. It's nothing to look down on.

Ya'll are really showing your age on this one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m rarely uncomfortable with people criticizing my SAHM status. In fact, I embrace it! If they ask what I do all day, I say I run errands, laundry, clean up a little bit, go to the gym, play a whole lot of tennis, cuddle with my dogs. Sometimes I’m nap, sometimes I read, go to lunch or coffee with my girlfriends (a mix of SAH and working moms), go on field trips and volunteer at school.

I don’t pretend that it’s the hardest job in the world and I’m not looking for praise from others. It is what it is and it works for my family. Other families are different and I respect that.

Totally serious question and I respect your answer. Are you OK with this as your life? Did you go to college? Do you have daughters and expect them to excel academically? What are your life goals?

Not everyone lives to work.

I can tell you're a workaholic whose identity is wrapped up in what they do for money. That's fine but, if you were truly as smart and perceptive as you think you are, you'd realize not everyone wants to live that way.

And don't bother responding back to deny your workaholism. I can tell because you seem unable to acknowledge why many people don't want to waste their one precious life in an office pushing paper.

It's fine if you feel purpose in what you do. But you can't even acknowledge that other people feel differently. That's a problem.

Read these first before responding.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/annehelenpetersen/millennials-burnout-generation-debt-work

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/01/opinion/burnout-hustle-culture-gentrification-work.html

https://www.theguardian.com/money/shortcuts/2019/jan/28/work-life-balance-thankgoditsmonday

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/religion-workism-making-americans-miserable/583441/

https://www.theatlantic.com/letters/archive/2019/03/readers-respond-workism-is-making-americans-miserable/584377/

You could not be more wrong. Still waiting for an answer to the questions rather than a bunch of defensive bs.
*Insert article about kids of working moms blah blah

I'm a new poster but I happen to agree with the PP. The fact that you can't seem to wrap your head around why someone might choose to live differently from you is very telling.

Fwiw, a person can have hobbies that they're very involved with that are fulfilling and yet don't pay money. Do you really not get that?

I never said I didn’t. I just want people to answer those questions. What they obviously are not comfortable doing. You do you.

They did answer the question. They're ok with filling their free time with hobbies and leisure because "they don't work to live." That's the verbatim answer.

Are you dense?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m rarely uncomfortable with people criticizing my SAHM status. In fact, I embrace it! If they ask what I do all day, I say I run errands, laundry, clean up a little bit, go to the gym, play a whole lot of tennis, cuddle with my dogs. Sometimes I’m nap, sometimes I read, go to lunch or coffee with my girlfriends (a mix of SAH and working moms), go on field trips and volunteer at school.

I don’t pretend that it’s the hardest job in the world and I’m not looking for praise from others. It is what it is and it works for my family. Other families are different and I respect that.

Totally serious question and I respect your answer. Are you OK with this as your life? Did you go to college? Do you have daughters and expect them to excel academically? What are your life goals?

Not everyone lives to work.

I can tell you're a workaholic whose identity is wrapped up in what they do for money. That's fine but, if you were truly as smart and perceptive as you think you are, you'd realize not everyone wants to live that way.

And don't bother responding back to deny your workaholism. I can tell because you seem unable to acknowledge why many people don't want to waste their one precious life in an office pushing paper.

It's fine if you feel purpose in what you do. But you can't even acknowledge that other people feel differently. That's a problem.

Read these first before responding.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/annehelenpetersen/millennials-burnout-generation-debt-work

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/01/opinion/burnout-hustle-culture-gentrification-work.html

https://www.theguardian.com/money/shortcuts/2019/jan/28/work-life-balance-thankgoditsmonday

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/religion-workism-making-americans-miserable/583441/

https://www.theatlantic.com/letters/archive/2019/03/readers-respond-workism-is-making-americans-miserable/584377/

You could not be more wrong. Still waiting for an answer to the questions rather than a bunch of defensive bs.
*Insert article about kids of working moms blah blah

I'm a new poster but I happen to agree with the PP. The fact that you can't seem to wrap your head around why someone might choose to live differently from you is very telling.

Fwiw, a person can have hobbies that they're very involved with that are fulfilling and yet don't pay money. Do you really not get that?

I never said I didn’t. I just want people to answer those questions. What they obviously are not comfortable doing. You do you.

They did answer the question. They're ok with filling their free time with hobbies and leisure because "they don't work to live." That's the verbatim answer.

Are you dense?

Yes, I am. Got me! Shouldn’t have expected any kind of intellectual discourse. Carry on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m rarely uncomfortable with people criticizing my SAHM status. In fact, I embrace it! If they ask what I do all day, I say I run errands, laundry, clean up a little bit, go to the gym, play a whole lot of tennis, cuddle with my dogs. Sometimes I’m nap, sometimes I read, go to lunch or coffee with my girlfriends (a mix of SAH and working moms), go on field trips and volunteer at school.

I don’t pretend that it’s the hardest job in the world and I’m not looking for praise from others. It is what it is and it works for my family. Other families are different and I respect that.

Totally serious question and I respect your answer. Are you OK with this as your life? Did you go to college? Do you have daughters and expect them to excel academically? What are your life goals?

Not everyone lives to work.

I can tell you're a workaholic whose identity is wrapped up in what they do for money. That's fine but, if you were truly as smart and perceptive as you think you are, you'd realize not everyone wants to live that way.

And don't bother responding back to deny your workaholism. I can tell because you seem unable to acknowledge why many people don't want to waste their one precious life in an office pushing paper.

It's fine if you feel purpose in what you do. But you can't even acknowledge that other people feel differently. That's a problem.

Read these first before responding.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/annehelenpetersen/millennials-burnout-generation-debt-work

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/01/opinion/burnout-hustle-culture-gentrification-work.html

https://www.theguardian.com/money/shortcuts/2019/jan/28/work-life-balance-thankgoditsmonday

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/religion-workism-making-americans-miserable/583441/

https://www.theatlantic.com/letters/archive/2019/03/readers-respond-workism-is-making-americans-miserable/584377/

You could not be more wrong. Still waiting for an answer to the questions rather than a bunch of defensive bs.
*Insert article about kids of working moms blah blah

I'm a new poster but I happen to agree with the PP. The fact that you can't seem to wrap your head around why someone might choose to live differently from you is very telling.

Fwiw, a person can have hobbies that they're very involved with that are fulfilling and yet don't pay money. Do you really not get that?

I never said I didn’t. I just want people to answer those questions. What they obviously are not comfortable doing. You do you.

They did answer the question. They're ok with filling their free time with hobbies and leisure because "they don't work to live." That's the verbatim answer.

Are you dense?

Yes, I am. Got me! Shouldn’t have expected any kind of intellectual discourse. Carry on.

Because YOUR responses in here have been so intellectual and contributory? Give me a break.

Look, the answer is, people who have a lot of money have a lot of flexibility. They can choose to work or not because they don't need to work in order to eat.

How is this difficult to understand?

Throughout history, rich people have always used their money to buy more leisure time.

The aristocracy is built upon this entire premise.

It's really not a difficult concept to grasp.

Some people find hobbies and volunteer work to be fulfilling and some don't.

What more needs to be said on the subject?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People can actually make a lot of money on Instagram these days. It's nothing to look down on.

Ya'll are really showing your age on this one.

+ 1

50k followers is considered a micro or nano influencer and can actually make decent money doing it. Like 10k for sponored posts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m rarely uncomfortable with people criticizing my SAHM status. In fact, I embrace it! If they ask what I do all day, I say I run errands, laundry, clean up a little bit, go to the gym, play a whole lot of tennis, cuddle with my dogs. Sometimes I’m nap, sometimes I read, go to lunch or coffee with my girlfriends (a mix of SAH and working moms), go on field trips and volunteer at school.

I don’t pretend that it’s the hardest job in the world and I’m not looking for praise from others. It is what it is and it works for my family. Other families are different and I respect that.

Totally serious question and I respect your answer. Are you OK with this as your life? Did you go to college? Do you have daughters and expect them to excel academically? What are your life goals?

Not everyone lives to work.

I can tell you're a workaholic whose identity is wrapped up in what they do for money. That's fine but, if you were truly as smart and perceptive as you think you are, you'd realize not everyone wants to live that way.

And don't bother responding back to deny your workaholism. I can tell because you seem unable to acknowledge why many people don't want to waste their one precious life in an office pushing paper.

It's fine if you feel purpose in what you do. But you can't even acknowledge that other people feel differently. That's a problem.

Read these first before responding.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/annehelenpetersen/millennials-burnout-generation-debt-work

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/01/opinion/burnout-hustle-culture-gentrification-work.html

https://www.theguardian.com/money/shortcuts/2019/jan/28/work-life-balance-thankgoditsmonday

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/religion-workism-making-americans-miserable/583441/

https://www.theatlantic.com/letters/archive/2019/03/readers-respond-workism-is-making-americans-miserable/584377/

You could not be more wrong. Still waiting for an answer to the questions rather than a bunch of defensive bs.
*Insert article about kids of working moms blah blah

I'm a new poster but I happen to agree with the PP. The fact that you can't seem to wrap your head around why someone might choose to live differently from you is very telling.

Fwiw, a person can have hobbies that they're very involved with that are fulfilling and yet don't pay money. Do you really not get that?

I never said I didn’t. I just want people to answer those questions. What they obviously are not comfortable doing. You do you.

They did answer the question. They're ok with filling their free time with hobbies and leisure because "they don't work to live." That's the verbatim answer.

Are you dense?

Yes, I am. Got me! Shouldn’t have expected any kind of intellectual discourse. Carry on.

You don't like the answer because you don't understand it. You can't wrap your brain around the fact that some people don't need a paycheck in order to have an identity or feel secure in the world.

It's sad. Work /= life or happiness.

You're a workaholic. Look it up. Read those articles! I'm saying this for your own good, believe it or not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People can actually make a lot of money on Instagram these days. It's nothing to look down on.

Ya'll are really showing your age on this one.

+ 1

50k followers is considered a micro or nano influencer and can actually make decent money doing it. Like 10k for sponored posts.

Earning money is for boys, silly goose!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know you think you're very important, but you're just not important to that many other people. Why would anyone care what you're doing or not doing?

Who exactly is making comments to you, and what are the comments?

Check out 21:32 just above.

Nope, sorry. We're talking about real, actual life. Who in OP's real, actual life is making comments, and what are those real, actual comments?

No one on here walked into OP's living room and started bashing her for being a SAHM. She came in here and started a conversation, and yeah--what with it being the Internet and DCUM and all, people said rude things. Note that they say rude things to and about both SAHMs *and* WOHMs.

OP suggests in her original post that it comes from family, so very well could be in her living room. Why is it so difficult to believe that what some people think on a message board could make its way into real life comments?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m rarely uncomfortable with people criticizing my SAHM status. In fact, I embrace it! If they ask what I do all day, I say I run errands, laundry, clean up a little bit, go to the gym, play a whole lot of tennis, cuddle with my dogs. Sometimes I’m nap, sometimes I read, go to lunch or coffee with my girlfriends (a mix of SAH and working moms), go on field trips and volunteer at school.

I don’t pretend that it’s the hardest job in the world and I’m not looking for praise from others. It is what it is and it works for my family. Other families are different and I respect that.

Totally serious question and I respect your answer. Are you OK with this as your life? Did you go to college? Do you have daughters and expect them to excel academically? What are your life goals?

Not everyone lives to work.

I can tell you're a workaholic whose identity is wrapped up in what they do for money. That's fine but, if you were truly as smart and perceptive as you think you are, you'd realize not everyone wants to live that way.

And don't bother responding back to deny your workaholism. I can tell because you seem unable to acknowledge why many people don't want to waste their one precious life in an office pushing paper.

It's fine if you feel purpose in what you do. But you can't even acknowledge that other people feel differently. That's a problem.

Read these first before responding.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/annehelenpetersen/millennials-burnout-generation-debt-work

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/01/opinion/burnout-hustle-culture-gentrification-work.html

https://www.theguardian.com/money/shortcuts/2019/jan/28/work-life-balance-thankgoditsmonday

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/religion-workism-making-americans-miserable/583441/

https://www.theatlantic.com/letters/archive/2019/03/readers-respond-workism-is-making-americans-miserable/584377/

You could not be more wrong. Still waiting for an answer to the questions rather than a bunch of defensive bs.
*Insert article about kids of working moms blah blah

I'm a new poster but I happen to agree with the PP. The fact that you can't seem to wrap your head around why someone might choose to live differently from you is very telling.

Fwiw, a person can have hobbies that they're very involved with that are fulfilling and yet don't pay money. Do you really not get that?

I never said I didn’t. I just want people to answer those questions. What they obviously are not comfortable doing. You do you.

They did answer the question. They're ok with filling their free time with hobbies and leisure because "they don't work to live." That's the verbatim answer.

Are you dense?

Yes, I am. Got me! Shouldn’t have expected any kind of intellectual discourse. Carry on.

You don't like the answer because you don't understand it. You can't wrap your brain around the fact that some people don't need a paycheck in order to have an identity or feel secure in the world.

It's sad. Work /= life or happiness.

You're a workaholic. Look it up. Read those articles! I'm saying this for your own good, believe it or not.

I work about 30 hours a week. You’re so cute. I’m done here. Going to play with my kids.