Hotel Charge on Husband's CC

[Anonymous]

Maybe he started driving home only to realize he was too buzzed and got a room for the night?

A quick Google map search shows that the hotels in Clinton, MD are significantly cheaper than in the surrounding area. Is he a tightwad?

Or yeah, he could be having an affair. Channel your innermost Harriet and start investigating.

[Anonymous]

he has a low sex drive? spending time at a hotel in Clinton, MD far from where you live and where he was 'hanging out' with friends?

my money is on sex with men on the DL.

[Anonymous]

Does your husband like Black women? If not, no issues...

[Anonymous]

This thread and all the sleuth-like behavior is exhausting. It reminds me of why I am so glad to be divorced from my cheating ex. Hell no, and no thank you to the bullshit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never opened my husbands mail unless it's an utility bill of some sort; most of which are paperless. However, today his personal cc statement came in the mail and I opened it. Low and behold a hotel charge was on there from two weeks ago.

I remember this weekend as he came home early Sunday morning from hanging out with friends in Baltimore that Saturday night; the hotel was in Clinton, Md. We haven't had sex going on 6 weeks now, so my women's intuition kicked in and I now think he's had an affair.

How should I bring this up to him? I don't want to argue about it at this moment with all the other tension spewing in the home due to lack of sex, but I do want to get to the bottom of this somehow.

And before anyone says why aren't you guys having sex, I guess I know why although he does a low sex drive anyway.

He's an Aquarius so he stays to himself a bit and is unemotional so there really isn't any affection per se in our relationship so things pertaining to that have't been out of the norm.

I can't believe I'm writing a post about this after reading so many threads on this topic for the past 7 years. Lawd!

Wait a minute, your husband came home in the early hours on a Sunday and you didn't think to ask him where he'd been all night? If he said he had been out with friends the whole time, then obviously he lied about the hotel, so call him on the hotel receipt. How did you not have this conversation before, even without the evidence? I cannot imagine not asking my husband where he had slept if he came home early in the morning. If he said he hadn't slept and then I found a hotel receipt, I'd confront him. If you didn't even ask, then you have bigger problems than the fact that he's cheating on you.

[Anonymous]

Of course OP should get the proof first before saying anything to him. As suggested comb through everything.

Get a decent tracker on Amazon w/magnet. If he's in a relationship you'll catch him pretty quick. People that say, "just ask him" aren't thinking clearly. That's a waste of time. Plus once he's on to you he'll make it very difficult to catch him. This way if he's cheating you can think about your options. Talk to a lawyer to see where you would be financially, and all that.

Better to find out early on if you're in a fake marriage or not. It also gives one time to start stashing money away.

OP in a normal marriage your spouse doesn't stay out that late unless it's with you. How long have you let that go on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread and all the sleuth-like behavior is exhausting. It reminds me of why I am so glad to be divorced from my cheating ex. Hell no, and no thank you to the bullshit

Not as exhausting as staying with a cheater. You also don't want to convict a innocent person.

It needs to be done. If OP is young I would say divorce without a doubt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never opened my husbands mail unless it's an utility bill of some sort; most of which are paperless. However, today his personal cc statement came in the mail and I opened it. Low and behold a hotel charge was on there from two weeks ago.

Since you not only opened his cc statement but you also scanned it, you were clearly looking for evidence of something you suspected in your mind was possible.

[Anonymous]

What sign are you, OP, and how does that affect your marriage? What role does your sign play into you and your spouse not having sex for over a month?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Call the hotel and ask them to email you a copy of the folio so you can file your boss’s expense report.

Give them your email address. They won’t ask questions.

NP. Will the charges also include dining and spa charges? And any other charge made within the hotel? All I need is the last 4 numbers or the whole card number?

You should probably know that the person stayed there. You can’t call and ask “did my boss stay in your hotel?” without REALLLY selling it. Definitely know the dates of stay.

Charges will include anything billed to the room, but they won’t be itemized. So it will say Spa $200, room service $80, etc. You don’t know that two meals were ordered or if it was just an expensive menu. But sometimes when I travel on business, I split off my personal charges (drinks at the bar, once I got a pedicure during a conference, etc) and pay with my personal card. Those charges don’t appear on the folio. So he or she could conceivably split off spa and dinner charges and pay cash.

I usually don’t even give my card number, just my name and dates of stay. But if you’re looking for Bob Smith’s charges, you may be asked for the last four.

[Anonymous]

No matter what you do-std test and get tested for HIV now and in 6 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Call the hotel and ask them to email you a copy of the folio so you can file your boss’s expense report.

Give them your email address. They won’t ask questions.

NP. Will the charges also include dining and spa charges? And any other charge made within the hotel? All I need is the last 4 numbers or the whole card number?

You should probably know that the person stayed there. You can’t call and ask “did my boss stay in your hotel?” without REALLLY selling it. Definitely know the dates of stay.

Charges will include anything billed to the room, but they won’t be itemized. So it will say Spa $200, room service $80, etc. You don’t know that two meals were ordered or if it was just an expensive menu. But sometimes when I travel on business, I split off my personal charges (drinks at the bar, once I got a pedicure during a conference, etc) and pay with my personal card. Those charges don’t appear on the folio. So he or she could conceivably split off spa and dinner charges and pay cash.

Somehow I doubt a hotel in Clinton has a spa or room service.

I usually don’t even give my card number, just my name and dates of stay. But if you’re looking for Bob Smith’s charges, you may be asked for the last four.

[Anonymous]

I think the answer is clear as day.

He lied to you and spent the night with a woman in that hotel.

Men usually do not fork out $$ for a place to just rest their heads.
They are more than willing to invest if they can get themselves someone to entertain them.

So sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Call the hotel and ask them to email you a copy of the folio so you can file your boss’s expense report.

Give them your email address. They won’t ask questions.

NP. Will the charges also include dining and spa charges? And any other charge made within the hotel? All I need is the last 4 numbers or the whole card number?

You should probably know that the person stayed there. You can’t call and ask “did my boss stay in your hotel?” without REALLLY selling it. Definitely know the dates of stay.

Charges will include anything billed to the room, but they won’t be itemized. So it will say Spa $200, room service $80, etc. You don’t know that two meals were ordered or if it was just an expensive menu. But sometimes when I travel on business, I split off my personal charges (drinks at the bar, once I got a pedicure during a conference, etc) and pay with my personal card. Those charges don’t appear on the folio. So he or she could conceivably split off spa and dinner charges and pay cash.

I usually don’t even give my card number, just my name and dates of stay. But if you’re looking for Bob Smith’s charges, you may be asked for the last four.

Thanks. You’re Godsend and you just saved my marriage at least for now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does your husband like Black women? If not, no issues...

WTF