Hotel Charge on Husband's CC

[Anonymous]

I've never opened my husbands mail unless it's an utility bill of some sort; most of which are paperless. However, today his personal cc statement came in the mail and I opened it. Low and behold a hotel charge was on there from two weeks ago.

I remember this weekend as he came home early Sunday morning from hanging out with friends in Baltimore that Saturday night; the hotel was in Clinton, Md. We haven't had sex going on 6 weeks now, so my women's intuition kicked in and I now think he's had an affair.

How should I bring this up to him? I don't want to argue about it at this moment with all the other tension spewing in the home due to lack of sex, but I do want to get to the bottom of this somehow.

And before anyone says why aren't you guys having sex, I guess I know why although he does a low sex drive anyway.

He's an Aquarius so he stays to himself a bit and is unemotional so there really isn't any affection per se in our relationship so things pertaining to that have't been out of the norm.

I can't believe I'm writing a post about this after reading so many threads on this topic for the past 7 years. Lawd!

[Anonymous]

sounds like a hooker or an escort service (clinton, md)

[Anonymous]

Seriously, Clinton, Maryland? Get the evidence. Don't ask, tell. Consider what you're options are, what the scenarios might be. Be brave.

[Anonymous]

He spent the entire night out. Where was he supposed to sleep? On the streets?

[Anonymous]

What about Clinto, MD says prostitution?

I’ve never heard of it before. Is it like a mini-state of Nevada?

[Anonymous]

Tell him you’re planning a date night surprise. You drive towards Clinton MD, find somewhere close to the hotel. This may be a stretch to convince him why you want to go to Clinton, MD as you’re en route. You need to talk up this mediocre restaurant.

After dinner, tell him you have another surprise in store. Drive to the hotel, check in. Bonus points if you can arrange the same room. Proceed to get down and dirty.

Leave in the AM. Don’t confront him at any point. He’ll be stupefied and you can enjoy his squirm.

— unemotional Aquarius (I don’t believe in astrology)

[Anonymous]

Clinton is a long way from Baltimore!

[Anonymous]

There is no affair-worthy joint in Clinton. Sounds like he might have slept it off so he could drive?

[Anonymous]

Do you have online access to the account? Can you see if this was simply a one night charge.

For those saying he was sleeping it off? Um no. I'm assuming OPs husband SAID he was in Baltimore and came home in the wee early hours. Why would he stop in Clinton on the way home EVEN if he was in Baltimore? Makes absolutely no sense.

He was lying about Baltimore or just showed his face at a friend event and dipped to APs area or mutually agreed upon location.

I'd arm myself with more info if possible - just like PPs who will find excuses - so will your DH if he can. If you have other evidence it's harder to deny. If you don't find it...not saying it's not happening but maybe points to the fact that it's a fairly new affair.

[Anonymous]

Why did you open his statement if you don’t usually open his mail?

[Anonymous]

you have separate credit cards?

[Anonymous]

Just ask him. See what he says. Maybe he will give you a plausible explanation, and maybe he won't. If it were me I would probably do some snooping on email and phone first, if I could - but I definitely would not be able to hold my tongue if I found that charge.

Ugh. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Did he mention anything to you about a hotel with his friends? There could be a simple explanation... Clinton isn’t far from National Harbor; maybe they went there?

~Aquarius trying to help you out

[Anonymous]

I would do a little Scooby Doo investigative work before confronting him. Look at his phone, email, etc.

[Anonymous]

Clinton MD is right next to Andrews AFB right off 95 which if you live in VA is directly on the route back from Baltimore.