Hotel Charge on Husband's CC

[Anonymous]

Take comfort knowing that he was at least a gentleman and didn't ask the other woman to pay for the room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take comfort knowing that he was at least a gentleman and didn't ask the other woman to pay for the room.

He must be a misogynist...paying for the woman.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the answer is clear as day.

He lied to you and spent the night with a woman in that hotel.

Men usually do not fork out $$ for a place to just rest their heads.
They are more than willing to invest if they can get themselves someone to entertain them.

So sorry.

Exactly. Men would pull over a sleep in the car. Besides, what would be the point of coming home at 3AM if he had a hotel for the night and all was innocent?

OP and others know the answer. He is cheating. What more do you need to know?

Yes men never use hotels!

[Anonymous]

OP I would like an update ... you doing OK?

[Anonymous]

I can tell you one thing. This must be ghetto.

Who goes to Clinton for some strange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can tell you one thing. This must be ghetto.

Who goes to Clinton for some strange.

Looking for a lady boy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the answer is clear as day.

He lied to you and spent the night with a woman in that hotel.

Men usually do not fork out $$ for a place to just rest their heads.
They are more than willing to invest if they can get themselves someone to entertain them.

So sorry.

Exactly. Men would pull over a sleep in the car. Besides, what would be the point of coming home at 3AM if he had a hotel for the night and all was innocent?

OP and others know the answer. He is cheating. What more do you need to know?

Yes men never use hotels!

not when they're within 30 miles of home and still come home at 3 AM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married woman here. I'm pretty sure all types of women exist in Clinton, Md. Anyway, I think it's a HUGE red flag that he stayed in the hotel without telling you. I would seek out more evidence without confronting him.

profound - thank you for your insight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clinton MD is right next to Andrews AFB right off 95 which if you live in VA is directly on the route back from Baltimore.

Are you suggesting this was gay sex?

[Anonymous]

yep - definitely homosexual

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do some digging while you have a lead...as soon as you say something your access will be shut down. Get the best proof you can, think about options, and then confront.

This. This. This. Not a peep to him. It will be hard, but hold tight until you have more evidence. Is he suggesting another trip to "Baltimore?" Because now you know the deal, and you could even meet him at the Clinton hotel. That would be something. Anything hints/vague thing you give him now will drive this further underground.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do some digging while you have a lead...as soon as you say something your access will be shut down. Get the best proof you can, think about options, and then confront.

This. This. This. Not a peep to him. It will be hard, but hold tight until you have more evidence. Is he suggesting another trip to "Baltimore?" Because now you know the deal, and you could even meet him at the Clinton hotel. That would be something. Anything hints/vague thing you give him now will drive this further underground.

Sigh. BTDT, so I totally get the urge that comes along with catching a (potentially) cheating husband. However, now being several years outside of a bs marriage that was littered with cheating, I must advocate for conserving your energy.


There is a rush that comes along with piecing together a liars tracks and doing fine detective work. However, if you know in your heart the only outcome will be you staying with him--what is the point? Doing all of the above PP's suggestions only makes sense if you will leave. Otherwise, conserve your energy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do some digging while you have a lead...as soon as you say something your access will be shut down. Get the best proof you can, think about options, and then confront.

This. This. This. Not a peep to him. It will be hard, but hold tight until you have more evidence. Is he suggesting another trip to "Baltimore?" Because now you know the deal, and you could even meet him at the Clinton hotel. That would be something. Anything hints/vague thing you give him now will drive this further underground.

Sigh. BTDT, so I totally get the urge that comes along with catching a (potentially) cheating husband. However, now being several years outside of a bs marriage that was littered with cheating, I must advocate for conserving your energy.


There is a rush that comes along with piecing together a liars tracks and doing fine detective work. However, if you know in your heart the only outcome will be you staying with him--what is the point? Doing all of the above PP's suggestions only makes sense if you will leave. Otherwise, conserve your energy.

I am a different PP upthread who also gave advice to do some detective work. I disagree that you have to know or make a decision about whether you woll stay or go before you spend time doing detective work. Even if you stay, knowing the real facts can be very helpful to structuring the terms of your staying. For example, I would not have insisted that my DH see a paychiatrist (as opposed to just doing couples counseling) nor would I have known to insist he stop drinking. He was unable to do either of those consistently, so I kicked him out. But, had I not known what to ask for (based on my detective work), it would have taken me years longer to understand his issues. While I could have left the moment I found out he was cheating, I feel look I would have looked baxk and asked "what if?" too much. Knowing what I did, I made demands that he get help, and extended him a period of time to pull himself together. Although that period was very difficult on me in the short run, in the long run, it was a huge benefit because I knew I had done the right things and I knew that our situation could not have tirned out differently.

I don't mean to suggest that everyone has to find out details about cheating - it is perfectly OK to leave a relationship based on lies or distrust whether or not you have proof of cheating.

[Anonymous]

If my DH was cheating I’d hope he’d at least use the Hay Adams or Willard. I couldn’t even explain “Clinton, MD” to my friends. It would be like dying twice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do some digging while you have a lead...as soon as you say something your access will be shut down. Get the best proof you can, think about options, and then confront.

This. This. This. Not a peep to him. It will be hard, but hold tight until you have more evidence. Is he suggesting another trip to "Baltimore?" Because now you know the deal, and you could even meet him at the Clinton hotel. That would be something. Anything hints/vague thing you give him now will drive this further underground.

Sigh. BTDT, so I totally get the urge that comes along with catching a (potentially) cheating husband. However, now being several years outside of a bs marriage that was littered with cheating, I must advocate for conserving your energy.


There is a rush that comes along with piecing together a liars tracks and doing fine detective work. However, if you know in your heart the only outcome will be you staying with him--what is the point? Doing all of the above PP's suggestions only makes sense if you will leave. Otherwise, conserve your energy.

I am a different PP upthread who also gave advice to do some detective work. I disagree that you have to know or make a decision about whether you woll stay or go before you spend time doing detective work. Even if you stay, knowing the real facts can be very helpful to structuring the terms of your staying. For example, I would not have insisted that my DH see a paychiatrist (as opposed to just doing couples counseling) nor would I have known to insist he stop drinking. He was unable to do either of those consistently, so I kicked him out. But, had I not known what to ask for (based on my detective work), it would have taken me years longer to understand his issues. While I could have left the moment I found out he was cheating, I feel look I would have looked baxk and asked "what if?" too much. Knowing what I did, I made demands that he get help, and extended him a period of time to pull himself together. Although that period was very difficult on me in the short run, in the long run, it was a huge benefit because I knew I had done the right things and I knew that our situation could not have tirned out differently.

I don't mean to suggest that everyone has to find out details about cheating - it is perfectly OK to leave a relationship based on lies or distrust whether or not you have proof of cheating.

I totally get what you are saying and I think it all boils down to what kind of cheater you have. IMHO most can't be rehabilitated. I spent years trying to rehabilitate mine.

Looking back I realize how much of a waste of time it was. I have logged so many hours cracking codes to cell phones, emails, calling females and comparing notes, crying and being stressed-- it really was not worth it. If you look at energy for what it is-- a gift-- you would chose to use it wisely.