Hotel Charge on Husband's CC

[Anonymous]

You seem quite calm in your posts. I would be hysterical.

[Anonymous]

Two things in Clinton: The Hanger Club (horny MILFS) and African-American hoes.

[Anonymous]

Next time he goes out for a late night, go to the hotel and see if his car is there. Then go to the desk and ask for the room key for "Larlo Jones's room," pretending that you lost it. Knock and say "room service!" Have your camera ready.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Call the hotel and ask them to email you a copy of the folio so you can file your boss’s expense report.

Give them your email address. They won’t ask questions.

I had no idea about this and unfortunately, well fortunately it worked and as the receptionist was looking for the date in question, he also stayed at this same hotel back in May

I was PP and that's why I asked about a one time charge. I didn't mean for the same dates but rather other, similar ones.

I'm sorry. This really does point to an affair. If you do get online access to his account, you can look over the statements.

Definitely look at phone records if you can and possible email accounts. If you share use of a home computer, most people don't log out of their emails, so if it's gmail, etc. you may just be able to go in and look if it's in the histry.

This. you need to do your research first before you confront him. I'd wait at least a month while you do your detective work and think about what you've found.

Check all credit cards. Look at joint debit cards too - this is a way to take cash out - large ATM withdrawals (mine was dumb enough to w/draw $300 across the street from the strip club), cell phone and line line call records (google search numbers - this is how I found out my DH was calling escorts on the regular), look at computer history (revealed more porn and hooker surfing), check email if he leaves it open, check liquor bottles and controlled medications, watch the odometer on the car (or even put a Tile in the trunk so you can see where he goes.

I too found out about my husband's affair by opening a piece of mail that had lain on the side table for months. What I found when I started watching was truly shocking. I had never had the least interest in checking up on him until I stumbled across the first bit of evidence. Once I uncovered one lie, I felt entirely justified in violating any privacy he might have thought he had (plus he was using my laptop for all of this, so I really wasn't violating his privacy and even put a keylogger on to see everything).

I am so glad I found out the truth, because when I confronted him, he just told me more lies. Without proof, I would have been driven mad by his gaslighting. Even with proof, the entire situation was traumatizing and, in the name of my children, I spent another couple of years trying to encourage him to go to therapy and psychiatrist and do AA. The best thing I ever did for all of us was to kick him out.

In retrospect, I should have cut ties even more deeply than I did. Having him continue to be in our kids lives has been heart-breaking for them. A cheater has to tell a lot of lies, and the lying just continues on in many different forms.

You are a person of value and strength. Love yourself enough to find out the truth and exercise the power to make your own decisions about life, and make them solely on the basis of what is best for you and what is the situation now, not what you hope or wish it to be.

[Anonymous]

^ To add a bit more. If you do find evidence of infidelity, take as much time as you need to decide how to proceed and get as much help as possible thinking through the options - get a good therapist for yourself (not a couples therapist), consult an attorney, and if you have supportive and trustworthy friends and family, tell them and ask for their support, friendship and advice.

Do not keep this a secret. That only multiplies the effect of the trauma/abuse.

[Anonymous]

Who thinks it's normal or okay for your DH to be out all night anyway? I'd be amazed if he WERENT hooking up! Smh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ To add a bit more. If you do find evidence of infidelity, take as much time as you need to decide how to proceed and get as much help as possible thinking through the options - get a good therapist for yourself (not a couples therapist), consult an attorney, and if you have supportive and trustworthy friends and family, tell them and ask for their support, friendship and advice.

Do not keep this a secret. That only multiplies the effect of the trauma/abuse.

Unfortunately I’ve beem through this too and agree with all of the above.

[Anonymous]

OP, you said your DH is an Aquarius. What is your zodiac sign?

I'd put any amount of money down that this is the source of the problem.

[Anonymous]

Go to your gyn and get tested for stds.

I agree about being quiet while you do detective work.

[Anonymous]

If he was a Pisces I’d say the whole thing sounds fishy, but as it is his story doesn’t hold water.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never opened my husbands mail unless it's an utility bill of some sort; most of which are paperless. However, today his personal cc statement came in the mail and I opened it. Low and behold a hotel charge was on there from two weeks ago.

I remember this weekend as he came home early Sunday morning from hanging out with friends in Baltimore that Saturday night; the hotel was in Clinton, Md. We haven't had sex going on 6 weeks now, so my women's intuition kicked in and I now think he's had an affair.

How should I bring this up to him? I don't want to argue about it at this moment with all the other tension spewing in the home due to lack of sex, but I do want to get to the bottom of this somehow.

And before anyone says why aren't you guys having sex, I guess I know why although he does a low sex drive anyway.

He's an Aquarius so he stays to himself a bit and is unemotional so there really isn't any affection per se in our relationship so things pertaining to that have't been out of the norm.

I can't believe I'm writing a post about this after reading so many threads on this topic for the past 7 years. Lawd!

You lost me with the Aquarius bullsheet

[Anonymous]

What else was on the cc? Dinner? Club? Pretty easy to follow the trail...

[Anonymous]

OP, what is your zodiac sign?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two things in Clinton: The Hanger Club (horny MILFS) and African-American hoes.

Black woman here and I suspect OP and her husband are black.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Two things in Clinton: The Hanger Club (horny MILFS) and African-American hoes.

Black woman here and I suspect OP and her husband are black.

The AP is married or a prostitute.