DO I TELL THE MOM HER DAUGHTER IS GETTING PROMISCUOUS?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not about society wants. A woman, 14 or 34 gets to determine what happens to her body.

+1

A 14 year old is not a woman.

+1. 14yos do not get to make that determination.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, take a moment to think about:

1) Why you only think girls are "promiscuous, " not boys

2) Why you think a girl engaging in sexual activity with one person is being "promiscuous" vs. just sexually active

3) Why you felt the need to yell in all caps about a teenage girl engaging in sexual activity.

PP, while you're at it, think less about OP (and her capitalization) and think more about whether we as a society want 14yos to be engaged in sexual activity.

?

We as a society don't want lots of people to do lots of things. Almost certainly, you do some things we as a society don't want people like you to do. So should I tell someone in authority over you that someone told me that you told them that you were maybe doing that thing?

To protect a child, even if from herself? Yes. I would certainly expect you to report suspicion of, for example, child abuse or elder abuse.

OK. Do you think that this is a case of child abuse or elder abuse?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you a troll? If parents are at home and know teens are in bedroom upstairs, what? They suddenly lost their minds and think they are only watching Netflix?

Huh? Did you grow up under a rock? That’s how millions of kids have sex every day.

Did you grow up under a rock and can't recognize sarcasm?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, take a moment to think about:

1) Why you only think girls are "promiscuous, " not boys

2) Why you think a girl engaging in sexual activity with one person is being "promiscuous" vs. just sexually active

3) Why you felt the need to yell in all caps about a teenage girl engaging in sexual activity.

PP, while you're at it, think less about OP (and her capitalization) and think more about whether we as a society want 14yos to be engaged in sexual activity.

14 yos have been engaging in sexual activity since the dawn of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not about society wants. A woman, 14 or 34 gets to determine what happens to her body.

+1

A 14 year old is not a woman.

+1. 14yos do not get to make that determination.

That is between a 14 yo and his/her parents. Not society. MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you a troll? If parents are at home and know teens are in bedroom upstairs, what? They suddenly lost their minds and think they are only watching Netflix?

Huh? Did you grow up under a rock? That’s how millions of kids have sex every day.

Did you grow up under a rock and can't recognize sarcasm?!

Egads! Heat stroke must be affecting my sarcameter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not about society wants. A woman, 14 or 34 gets to determine what happens to her body.

+1

A 14 year old is not a woman.

Reproductively they are

Still it's not about society's wants. This is between the two teens involved, and their parents.

It doesn't sound like the boy's parents are aware of this. So, yeah, it is absolutely ridiculous for this so called mother to supply these kids with condoms and allow her 14 year old teenage daughter to bring her boyfriend into her bedroom. I don't care if this mother thinks it's fine for her daughter to have sex at that age, she can not assume that this is o.k. with the boy's parents.

I may give my own children sips of alcohol on occasion, that does not mean that I would ever give alcohol to their teenage friends. Good grief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not about society wants. A woman, 14 or 34 gets to determine what happens to her body.

+1

A 14 year old is not a woman.

+1. 14yos do not get to make that determination.

Your teens have more rights than you know about.

It depends on the state:

Virginia has a close-in-age exemption. A close in age exemption, also known as "Romeo and Juliet law", is designed to prevent the prosecution of underage couples who engage in consensual sex when both participants are significantly close in age to each other, and one or both are below the age of consent.

A close in age exemption exists that allows teens aged 15-17 to engage in sexual congress with each other, and minors 13-15 to do the same.

DC...Close in age exemptions exist allowing minors to consent to partners less than 4 years older.

Maryland doesn't have the close in age exemption under 16, but two minors close in age are very rarely, if ever prosecuted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not about society wants. A woman, 14 or 34 gets to determine what happens to her body.

+1

A 14 year old is not a woman.

+1. 14yos do not get to make that determination.

That is between a 14 yo and his/her parents. Not society. MYOB.

Let the damned 14 year old "have sex" with herself then. If you are purposely allowing another child to go into her bedroom to have sex that is where your own business ends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you a troll? If parents are at home and know teens are in bedroom upstairs, what? They suddenly lost their minds and think they are only watching Netflix?

Huh? Did you grow up under a rock? That’s how millions of kids have sex every day.

Did you grow up under a rock and can't recognize sarcasm?!

Egads! Heat stroke must be affecting my sarcameter.

Oh well! At least your sense of humor is intact!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not about society wants. A woman, 14 or 34 gets to determine what happens to her body.

+1

A 14 year old is not a woman.

+1. 14yos do not get to make that determination.

Your teens have more rights than you know about.

It depends on the state:

Virginia has a close-in-age exemption. A close in age exemption, also known as "Romeo and Juliet law", is designed to prevent the prosecution of underage couples who engage in consensual sex when both participants are significantly close in age to each other, and one or both are below the age of consent.

A close in age exemption exists that allows teens aged 15-17 to engage in sexual congress with each other, and minors 13-15 to do the same.

DC...Close in age exemptions exist allowing minors to consent to partners less than 4 years older.

Maryland doesn't have the close in age exemption under 16, but two minors close in age are very rarely, if ever prosecuted.

Well I guess it's legal for a 13 year old girl to bring a new 13 year old boy home to her bedroom every week. That does not mean that the vast majority of society thinks that's an o.k. or healthy thing for a 13 year old child to do.

[Anonymous]

This is so hard. I, as a parent, would want to know. Yet also, as a parent, I wouldn't want to betray my daughter's trust and destroy one of her friendships. Because this is a breach in trust. I would use this to talk to my daughter about the subject and maybe tell her to speak to her friend about always using condoms. Man OP, that is a hard spot you are in.

[Anonymous]

In the meantime the boy's parents are in the dark about all of this thinking that this girl and her parents are such nice people...ugh. I can not even...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not about society wants. A woman, 14 or 34 gets to determine what happens to her body.

+1

A 14 year old is not a woman.

+1. 14yos do not get to make that determination.

Your teens have more rights than you know about.

It depends on the state:

Virginia has a close-in-age exemption. A close in age exemption, also known as "Romeo and Juliet law", is designed to prevent the prosecution of underage couples who engage in consensual sex when both participants are significantly close in age to each other, and one or both are below the age of consent.

A close in age exemption exists that allows teens aged 15-17 to engage in sexual congress with each other, and minors 13-15 to do the same.

DC...Close in age exemptions exist allowing minors to consent to partners less than 4 years older.

Maryland doesn't have the close in age exemption under 16, but two minors close in age are very rarely, if ever prosecuted.

Well I guess it's legal for a 13 year old girl to bring a new 13 year old boy home to her bedroom every week. That does not mean that the vast majority of society thinks that's an o.k. or healthy thing for a 13 year old child to do.

But it does mean it's not SOCIETY'S business. It's up to the minors. Parents should be involved in the discussion, but that's where it ends.

Again, go pray for their souls.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No. I’m not crazy about it, but it is normal teen behavior. Abuse? Yes. Drugs or other illegal behavior? Yes. Consensual sex? MYOB.

She's 15. We don't know the age of the boy. This could be statutory rape. As a parent I would want to know

Hence the distinction I made with the phrases “other illegal behavior” and “consensual sex.”