DO I TELL THE MOM HER DAUGHTER IS GETTING PROMISCUOUS?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Uh, not sexist at all. The rules applied across the board whether you were male or female. No parent that I knew at the time would have knowingly allowed a 14 year old boy into their daughter's bedroom and vice versa.

I'm not saying that kids didn't find a way to have sex or that kids didn't sneak their love interests into their bedrooms at night. But parents absolutely did not condone "in your face" antics like that.

Kids living under their parents' roof had standards to abide by. I think that served them well as they grew older and formed their own loving adult relationships.

There were lots of parents you didn't know.

I distinctly remember being in a boy's bedroom when I was a 15-year-old girl, with the knowledge of both sets of parents. In the 1980s. My loving adult relationship is coming up on 29 years, and the boy's has gone on for over 20 years as well. So I think we're doing ok so far. Maybe it's because I was 15 instead of 14?

That boy should have been arrested and charge with statutory rape. You were and are a victim.

[Anonymous]

Oh shut up. It’s really F’d up to charge only the teen boy in a consensual relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Uh, not sexist at all. The rules applied across the board whether you were male or female. No parent that I knew at the time would have knowingly allowed a 14 year old boy into their daughter's bedroom and vice versa.

I'm not saying that kids didn't find a way to have sex or that kids didn't sneak their love interests into their bedrooms at night. But parents absolutely did not condone "in your face" antics like that.

Kids living under their parents' roof had standards to abide by. I think that served them well as they grew older and formed their own loving adult relationships.

There were lots of parents you didn't know.

I distinctly remember being in a boy's bedroom when I was a 15-year-old girl, with the knowledge of both sets of parents. In the 1980s. My loving adult relationship is coming up on 29 years, and the boy's has gone on for over 20 years as well. So I think we're doing ok so far. Maybe it's because I was 15 instead of 14?

I would think that the least sexy thing in the world would have been being alone in my bedroom with my teenage boyfriend knowing that my parents were in the house giving us a big to fool around, providing condoms, etc. There is a weird creepiness and lack of boundaries that would have been a complete turnoff to me.

It would have been gross to engage in sexual activity with my parents in the next room. I was glad that I never felt pressured to "go ahead and do it kids!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Uh, not sexist at all. The rules applied across the board whether you were male or female. No parent that I knew at the time would have knowingly allowed a 14 year old boy into their daughter's bedroom and vice versa.

I'm not saying that kids didn't find a way to have sex or that kids didn't sneak their love interests into their bedrooms at night. But parents absolutely did not condone "in your face" antics like that.

Kids living under their parents' roof had standards to abide by. I think that served them well as they grew older and formed their own loving adult relationships.

There were lots of parents you didn't know.

I distinctly remember being in a boy's bedroom when I was a 15-year-old girl, with the knowledge of both sets of parents. In the 1980s. My loving adult relationship is coming up on 29 years, and the boy's has gone on for over 20 years as well. So I think we're doing ok so far. Maybe it's because I was 15 instead of 14?

That boy should have been arrested and charge with statutory rape. You were and are a victim.

I'm the PP you're responding to. I'm astonished that you can make such a definitive statement, given that you don't know (a) the state this happened in (b) the age of the boy (c) what the boy and I did in his bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Don’t parent for other people. If this causes you angst, use it as a chance to talk to your own child about why you will not allow him/her to be alone in the bedroom with someone else and what your concerns would be.

If your child is concerned about the friend, give her tools about how to talk to her friend about concerns and how to be a good friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Uh, not sexist at all. The rules applied across the board whether you were male or female. No parent that I knew at the time would have knowingly allowed a 14 year old boy into their daughter's bedroom and vice versa.

I'm not saying that kids didn't find a way to have sex or that kids didn't sneak their love interests into their bedrooms at night. But parents absolutely did not condone "in your face" antics like that.

Kids living under their parents' roof had standards to abide by. I think that served them well as they grew older and formed their own loving adult relationships.

There were lots of parents you didn't know.

I distinctly remember being in a boy's bedroom when I was a 15-year-old girl, with the knowledge of both sets of parents. In the 1980s. My loving adult relationship is coming up on 29 years, and the boy's has gone on for over 20 years as well. So I think we're doing ok so far. Maybe it's because I was 15 instead of 14?

That boy should have been arrested and charge with statutory rape. You were and are a victim.

Then charge the girl too. She was there too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Uh, not sexist at all. The rules applied across the board whether you were male or female. No parent that I knew at the time would have knowingly allowed a 14 year old boy into their daughter's bedroom and vice versa.

I'm not saying that kids didn't find a way to have sex or that kids didn't sneak their love interests into their bedrooms at night. But parents absolutely did not condone "in your face" antics like that.

Kids living under their parents' roof had standards to abide by. I think that served them well as they grew older and formed their own loving adult relationships.

There were lots of parents you didn't know.

I distinctly remember being in a boy's bedroom when I was a 15-year-old girl, with the knowledge of both sets of parents. In the 1980s. My loving adult relationship is coming up on 29 years, and the boy's has gone on for over 20 years as well. So I think we're doing ok so far. Maybe it's because I was 15 instead of 14?

I would think that the least sexy thing in the world would have been being alone in my bedroom with my teenage boyfriend knowing that my parents were in the house giving us a big to fool around, providing condoms, etc. There is a weird creepiness and lack of boundaries that would have been a complete turnoff to me.

It would have been gross to engage in sexual activity with my parents in the next room. I was glad that I never felt pressured to "go ahead and do it kids!"

What exactly were you doing when you weren’t having sex in high school? You certainly weren’t picking up any reading comprehension skills.

PP didn’t say parents were providing condoms and she did say parents didn’t know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the parents are allowing them hang out alone in their DD’s room, then MYOB.

Yea. My parents wouldn’t allow us to have boys in bedroom alone at that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Uh, not sexist at all. The rules applied across the board whether you were male or female. No parent that I knew at the time would have knowingly allowed a 14 year old boy into their daughter's bedroom and vice versa.

I'm not saying that kids didn't find a way to have sex or that kids didn't sneak their love interests into their bedrooms at night. But parents absolutely did not condone "in your face" antics like that.

Kids living under their parents' roof had standards to abide by. I think that served them well as they grew older and formed their own loving adult relationships.

There were lots of parents you didn't know.

I distinctly remember being in a boy's bedroom when I was a 15-year-old girl, with the knowledge of both sets of parents. In the 1980s. My loving adult relationship is coming up on 29 years, and the boy's has gone on for over 20 years as well. So I think we're doing ok so far. Maybe it's because I was 15 instead of 14?

I would think that the least sexy thing in the world would have been being alone in my bedroom with my teenage boyfriend knowing that my parents were in the house giving us a big to fool around, providing condoms, etc. There is a weird creepiness and lack of boundaries that would have been a complete turnoff to me.

It would have been gross to engage in sexual activity with my parents in the next room. I was glad that I never felt pressured to "go ahead and do it kids!"

What exactly were you doing when you weren’t having sex in high school? You certainly weren’t picking up any reading comprehension skills.

PP didn’t say parents were providing condoms and she did say parents didn’t know.

Well, the parents are incompetent idiots if they let their teen entertain her boyfriend in her bedroom and think thqt no fooling around is happening.

[Anonymous]

Wow, DCUM is a viper pit of full on prude, controlling and clueless parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, DCUM is a viper pit of full on prude, controlling and clueless parents.

You mean the ones who think it is grand for their teens to have sex in their homes.

Yes, those posters fail at parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Uh, not sexist at all. The rules applied across the board whether you were male or female. No parent that I knew at the time would have knowingly allowed a 14 year old boy into their daughter's bedroom and vice versa.

I'm not saying that kids didn't find a way to have sex or that kids didn't sneak their love interests into their bedrooms at night. But parents absolutely did not condone "in your face" antics like that.

Kids living under their parents' roof had standards to abide by. I think that served them well as they grew older and formed their own loving adult relationships.

There were lots of parents you didn't know.

I distinctly remember being in a boy's bedroom when I was a 15-year-old girl, with the knowledge of both sets of parents. In the 1980s. My loving adult relationship is coming up on 29 years, and the boy's has gone on for over 20 years as well. So I think we're doing ok so far. Maybe it's because I was 15 instead of 14?

That boy should have been arrested and charge with statutory rape. You were and are a victim.

So if a 15 year old boy and 15 year old girl have consensual sex, the boy has committed statutory rape but the girl hasn't? And the girl is the victim? My best friend in high school was the one who pressured her boyfriend into having sex. Is she the victim in your book because she's a girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, DCUM is a viper pit of full on prude, controlling and clueless parents.

Prudish. Prude is a noun. Other than that, I agree with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, DCUM is a viper pit of full on prude, controlling and clueless parents.

Prudish. Prude is a noun. Other than that, I agree with you.

Wrong. Prude and prudish are both incorrect in the context above. The correct form of the word would be prudishness.

[Anonymous]

Or “viper pit of prudes”

Saves a few letters.