DO I TELL THE MOM HER DAUGHTER IS GETTING PROMISCUOUS?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, take a moment to think about:

1) Why you only think girls are "promiscuous, " not boys

2) Why you think a girl engaging in sexual activity with one person is being "promiscuous" vs. just sexually active

3) Why you felt the need to yell in all caps about a teenage girl engaging in sexual activity.

Not Op, but maybe Op is talking about the girl because she knows the girl's mother and this girl is friends with her daughter?

The girl is not even 15, yet, has only known this boy for a few months and they are going into her bedroom and shutting the door and apparently fooling around and even having sex.

It sounds like the girl's mom is already aware of what is going on but I wonder if the parents of this boy know that this happening.

Whatever label you want to give it, these kids are engaging in risky behavior right under this mother's nose which is pretty bad.

As a mom of a teen boy I would be very upset at the lack of parenting and judgement of this girl's mom and dad.

As the mother of a teenager and a pre-teen I am very upset at posters on DCUM who seem to believe that everybody should raise their kids according to my values and judgment.

Is this code for: Nah, I don't supervise my kids and I sure as hell won't supervise your kids. If they want to run the streets at night and have sex in their rooms that is their choice. I do provide them with unlimited condoms because I am that cool. Yay, me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, take a moment to think about:

1) Why you only think girls are "promiscuous, " not boys

2) Why you think a girl engaging in sexual activity with one person is being "promiscuous" vs. just sexually active

3) Why you felt the need to yell in all caps about a teenage girl engaging in sexual activity.

Not Op, but maybe Op is talking about the girl because she knows the girl's mother and this girl is friends with her daughter?

The girl is not even 15, yet, has only known this boy for a few months and they are going into her bedroom and shutting the door and apparently fooling around and even having sex.

It sounds like the girl's mom is already aware of what is going on but I wonder if the parents of this boy know that this happening.

Whatever label you want to give it, these kids are engaging in risky behavior right under this mother's nose which is pretty bad.

As a mom of a teen boy I would be very upset at the lack of parenting and judgement of this girl's mom and dad.

As the mother of a teenager and a pre-teen I am very upset at posters on DCUM who seem to believe that everybody should raise their kids according to my values and judgment.

Is this code for: Nah, I don't supervise my kids and I sure as hell won't supervise your kids. If they want to run the streets at night and have sex in their rooms that is their choice. I do provide them with unlimited condoms because I am that cool. Yay, me.

PP you're responding to. No, it's not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would start a conversation with the mother about the general topic that kids are 'fast' these days and that you've been shocked about the things you've been hearing about younger teens-- has she heard the same thing? In other words, nothing about her daughter (or any other specific individuals) but get her thinking. Maybe drop what rules you have in your households (boys in the girl's room, for instance) and the wheels will begin turning in her mind...

Actually kids are slower these days than they used to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, take a moment to think about:

1) Why you only think girls are "promiscuous, " not boys

2) Why you think a girl engaging in sexual activity with one person is being "promiscuous" vs. just sexually active

3) Why you felt the need to yell in all caps about a teenage girl engaging in sexual activity.

Not Op, but maybe Op is talking about the girl because she knows the girl's mother and this girl is friends with her daughter?

The girl is not even 15, yet, has only known this boy for a few months and they are going into her bedroom and shutting the door and apparently fooling around and even having sex.

It sounds like the girl's mom is already aware of what is going on but I wonder if the parents of this boy know that this happening.

Whatever label you want to give it, these kids are engaging in risky behavior right under this mother's nose which is pretty bad.

As a mom of a teen boy I would be very upset at the lack of parenting and judgement of this girl's mom and dad.

As the mother of a teenager and a pre-teen I am very upset at posters on DCUM who seem to believe that everybody should raise their kids according to my values and judgment.

Is this code for: Nah, I don't supervise my kids and I sure as hell won't supervise your kids. If they want to run the streets at night and have sex in their rooms that is their choice. I do provide them with unlimited condoms because I am that cool. Yay, me.

PP you're responding to. No, it's not.

Yes, it is.

Shame on you for imposing your lackadaisical values on other peoples families.

[Anonymous]

Are you a troll? If parents are at home and know teens are in bedroom upstairs, what? They suddenly lost their minds and think they are only watching Netflix?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not about society wants. A woman, 14 or 34 gets to determine what happens to her body.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Is this code for: Nah, I don't supervise my kids and I sure as hell won't supervise your kids. If they want to run the streets at night and have sex in their rooms that is their choice. I do provide them with unlimited condoms because I am that cool. Yay, me.

PP you're responding to. No, it's not.

Yes, it is.

Shame on you for imposing your lackadaisical values on other peoples families.

?

You're responding to an anonymous poster on an Internet message board. How do you know, from someone's anonymous post, how they raise their kids? Or even that they have kids? We could all be little old ladies from Canarsie.

I mean, everybody needs a hobby, but if my hobby were telling anonymous posters on the Internet that you know how they're raising their kids better than they do, I'd find a more useful hobby. Maybe knitting, or collecting snow globes, or shade-tree car repairs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not about society wants. A woman, 14 or 34 gets to determine what happens to her body.

+1

A 14 year old is not a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Is this code for: Nah, I don't supervise my kids and I sure as hell won't supervise your kids. If they want to run the streets at night and have sex in their rooms that is their choice. I do provide them with unlimited condoms because I am that cool. Yay, me.

PP you're responding to. No, it's not.

Yes, it is.

Shame on you for imposing your lackadaisical values on other peoples families.

?

You're responding to an anonymous poster on an Internet message board. How do you know, from someone's anonymous post, how they raise their kids? Or even that they have kids? We could all be little old ladies from Canarsie.

I mean, everybody needs a hobby, but if my hobby were telling anonymous posters on the Internet that you know how they're raising their kids better than they do, I'd find a more useful hobby. Maybe knitting, or collecting snow globes, or shade-tree car repairs.

Oh, but you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not about society wants. A woman, 14 or 34 gets to determine what happens to her body.

+1

A 14 year old is not a woman.

Reproductively they are

Still it's not about society's wants. This is between the two teens involved, and their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you a troll? If parents are at home and know teens are in bedroom upstairs, what? They suddenly lost their minds and think they are only watching Netflix?

Huh? Did you grow up under a rock? That’s how millions of kids have sex every day.

[Anonymous]

STFU OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, take a moment to think about:

1) Why you only think girls are "promiscuous, " not boys

2) Why you think a girl engaging in sexual activity with one person is being "promiscuous" vs. just sexually active

3) Why you felt the need to yell in all caps about a teenage girl engaging in sexual activity.

PP, while you're at it, think less about OP (and her capitalization) and think more about whether we as a society want 14yos to be engaged in sexual activity.

?

We as a society don't want lots of people to do lots of things. Almost certainly, you do some things we as a society don't want people like you to do. So should I tell someone in authority over you that someone told me that you told them that you were maybe doing that thing?

To protect a child, even if from herself? Yes. I would certainly expect you to report suspicion of, for example, child abuse or elder abuse.

[Anonymous]

Go pray a rosary for her soul and mind your damn business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not about society wants. A woman, 14 or 34 gets to determine what happens to her body.

+1

A 14 year old is not a woman.

Reproductively they are

Still it's not about society's wants. This is between the two teens involved, and their parents.

Exactly. MYOB, OP.

Feel free to use it as a teaching moment with your own dughter, but MYOB.