DO I TELL THE MOM HER DAUGHTER IS GETTING PROMISCUOUS?
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Anonymous
| My DD has a friend(under 15) who is dating a boy. According to my DD, these two are getting very involved, sexually. Many times it is in this girl's bedrooms while her parents are downstairs. I seriously doubt the mom knows this stuff is going on, let alone, in her home. Do I say anything? I don't want to betray my daughter. Tell me this is none of my business and not my place to get involved. |
Anonymous
| No. I’m not crazy about it, but it is normal teen behavior. Abuse? Yes. Drugs or other illegal behavior? Yes. Consensual sex? MYOB. |
Anonymous
| Good opportunity to discuss teen sex with your own DD! |
Anonymous
I agree. |
Anonymous
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ugh. OP, if it was your DD, would you want the parents to MYOB or tell you?
That being said, your first priority is to your DD and to not betray her confidence in a situation that does not involve safety (unlike if it were drugs or abuse). And, unfortunately, your DD is watching you to see how you handle it, and will take her cue from you. So I'm not sure what to do. |
Anonymous
She's 15. We don't know the age of the boy. This could be statutory rape. As a parent I would want to know |
Anonymous
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Promiscuous means she has many partners. You mean she’s sexually active, which isn’t uncommon for a teenager. Why do you think her parents are unaware if they’re home and allowing them to be in her bedroom alone? What else could they expect to happen?
It’s not your place to police what happens with other children while their parents are home with them. |
Anonymous
| This is not being promiscuous. She is having sex with one boy with whom she is in a relationship. The under 15 part isn’t ideal, but better they are doing it in a safe place than out in the world somewhere that might not be safe. Her parents might be aware of this and think that it’s better/safer to have them at home. |
Anonymous
I don't want to betray my daughter. I don't want to betray my daughter. I don't want to betray my daughter. Most important thing you said |
Anonymous
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Do you know what promiscuous means? It doesn't mean what you think it does.
She's sexually active. So are you. Does that mean you are promiscuous? |
Anonymous
| Are you the TSA poster? What is with the all-caps thread titles today. I am more worried that you haven't yet figured out the basic social niceties of internent forum use than a teenager engaged in sexual activity. |
Anonymous
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Cast of characters here: OP, OP's daughter Larla, Larla's friend GeighGeigh, GeighGeigh's boyfriend Trueaux, GeighGeigh's parents Greg and Leigh.
Should OP tell Greg and Leigh that Larla told OP that GeighGeigh told Larla that GeighGeigh and Trueaux do sexual things together in GeighGeigh's room while Greg and Leigh are home? No, OP should not. OP didn't ask whether OP should TELL THE DAD HIS SON IS GETTING PROMISCUOUS, but the answer to that question is also: no. |
Anonymous
*1 Wondering the same thing. |
Anonymous
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Stop trolling.
Stop using all caps. Step away from the computer. Thank you. |
Anonymous
| If the parents are allowing them hang out alone in their DD’s room, then MYOB. |