DO I TELL THE MOM HER DAUGHTER IS GETTING PROMISCUOUS?

[Anonymous]

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Uh, not sexist at all. The rules applied across the board whether you were male or female. No parent that I knew at the time would have knowingly allowed a 14 year old boy into their daughter's bedroom and vice versa.

I'm not saying that kids didn't find a way to have sex or that kids didn't sneak their love interests into their bedrooms at night. But parents absolutely did not condone "in your face" antics like that.

Kids living under their parents' roof had standards to abide by. I think that served them well as they grew older and formed their own loving adult relationships.

There were lots of parents you didn't know.

I distinctly remember being in a boy's bedroom when I was a 15-year-old girl, with the knowledge of both sets of parents. In the 1980s. My loving adult relationship is coming up on 29 years, and the boy's has gone on for over 20 years as well. So I think we're doing ok so far. Maybe it's because I was 15 instead of 14?

That boy should have been arrested and charge with statutory rape. You were and are a victim.

+ 1. By law in Maryland, the girl cannot consent to having sex. Not until age 16. She's not even 14. It's statutory rape no matter what the age is of the boy. The point of laws like this is to protect minor females. Remember the term "jailbait"?

[Anonymous]

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+ 1. By law in Maryland, the girl cannot consent to having sex. Not until age 16. She's not even 14. It's statutory rape no matter what the age is of the boy. The point of laws like this is to protect minor females. Remember the term "jailbait"?

The laws in Maryland (and every other state, as far as I know) apply to everybody regardless of gender. The age of consent is 16 for everyone. And if person A is under 18 and person B is 14 or 15, that's legal for everyone.

Why would you think it's ok just to protect girls, but not boys?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, DCUM is a viper pit of full on prude, controlling and clueless parents.

Prudish. Prude is a noun. Other than that, I agree with you.

Wrong. Prude and prudish are both incorrect in the context above. The correct form of the word would be prudishness.

No. Prudish is an adjective, like controlling and clueless, that is describing the parents of DCUM.

[Anonymous]

OP I wouldn't tell the parents. I would tell my daughter the laws of our state, and explain how kids can be arrested below the age of consent with a crime that has the potential to ruin both of the kids lives. That way my daughter knows and she can tell her friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t parent for other people. If this causes you angst, use it as a chance to talk to your own child about why you will not allow him/her to be alone in the bedroom with someone else and what your concerns would be.

If your child is concerned about the friend, give her tools about how to talk to her friend about concerns and how to be a good friend.

Best response in the whole thread.

[Anonymous]

First, none of your business.

Second, for the love of all, being sexually active with one boy does not meet any definition of promiscuous.

Third, why are we using the word promiscuous in 2018?!

[Anonymous]

First, none of your business.

Second, for the love of all, being sexually active with one boy does not meet any definition of promiscuous.

Third, why are we using the word promiscuous in 2018?!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t parent for other people. If this causes you angst, use it as a chance to talk to your own child about why you will not allow him/her to be alone in the bedroom with someone else and what your concerns would be.

If your child is concerned about the friend, give her tools about how to talk to her friend about concerns and how to be a good friend.

Best response in the whole thread.

I would also reconsider allowing my daughter to spend time at that girl's house as the parents have some extremely questionable judgement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you’re a teen there is no privacy for sex, so they do risky things. I remember sneaking my boyfriend into the house once when everyone was asleep. He climbed my window and climbed right back out. There wasn’t a house alarm, or dog, etc. I was insane, my mother would have killed me if she knew or happened to walk in. I’m still afraid to tell her, and I’ve married with children of my own.

Yep. Increases risk and undoubtedly teaches poor sex habits - rushing, no ability to relax, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When you’re a teen there is no privacy for sex, so they do risky things. I remember sneaking my boyfriend into the house once when everyone was asleep. He climbed my window and climbed right back out. There wasn’t a house alarm, or dog, etc. I was insane, my mother would have killed me if she knew or happened to walk in. I’m still afraid to tell her, and I’ve married with children of my own.

Yep. Increases risk and undoubtedly teaches poor sex habits - rushing, no ability to relax, etc.

Because having your mommy and daddy in the next room aware that you are screwing your new boyfriend in your bedroom is a healthy thing?

[Anonymous]

YES. ALSO SHOW HER MOVIES AND PICTURES AS PROOF. IS IT POSSIBLE TO HIRE A PI TO DO THIS FOR YOU? THANK YOU, GOOD SAMARITAN.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First, none of your business.

Second, for the love of all, being sexually active with one boy does not meet any definition of promiscuous.

Third, why are we using the word promiscuous in 2018?!

My thoughts exactly