Wife Goes Silent on Work Travel

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

You can't make this stuff up. She texted 10 minutes ago and asked me to hug the kids good night. I asked to face time and she said she wouldn't because hotel wall too thin and would wake people.

Or its 10 o’clock pm her time (or later) and it’s true.

No, this makes no sense. Are you not allowed to TALK in your hotel room? I mean, please. She could go to the lobby. She could whisper. What if she had somebody else in her hotel room, would they have to speak in sign language?

Something is off here.

She was very tired, wanted to sleep, so made a lame excuse.

OP needs to see a doctor for paranoia. If she was cheating on you, she wouldn't only do it when she was traveling. She'd do it right under your nose. International travel is very tiring. She be just too tired to cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

They always stay in Hiltons overseas. It's part of the contract. They all have wifi. They don't share rooms. I see zero reason why she can't spend 3 minutes at the end of the day saying hello, I'm safe, tell the kids I love them.

Reading the responses has me depressed. I just needed a gut check to see if my concerns were legit. I'm gonna have a long talk when she gets home.

Yeah, sorry, Hiltons overseas are effectively luxury resorts. Their walls are fine.

[Anonymous]

Is your Marrage and sex life good otherwise?

If it is then maybe her getting pounded real good every few months on travel is a blessing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

You can't make this stuff up. She texted 10 minutes ago and asked me to hug the kids good night. I asked to face time and she said she wouldn't because hotel wall too thin and would wake people.

Red flag

She’s not at a hotel

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

They always stay in Hiltons overseas. It's part of the contract. They all have wifi. They don't share rooms. I see zero reason why she can't spend 3 minutes at the end of the day saying hello, I'm safe, tell the kids I love them.

Reading the responses has me depressed. I just needed a gut check to see if my concerns were legit. I'm gonna have a long talk when she gets home.

Think about other clues. There has to be a way to track down what she is doing.

Have you gone through cc statements, receipts, cash withdrawals, phone records?

[Anonymous]

Pretty weird

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

They always stay in Hiltons overseas. It's part of the contract. They all have wifi. They don't share rooms. I see zero reason why she can't spend 3 minutes at the end of the day saying hello, I'm safe, tell the kids I love them.

Reading the responses has me depressed. I just needed a gut check to see if my concerns were legit. I'm gonna have a long talk when she gets home.

Think about other clues. There has to be a way to track down what she is doing.

Have you gone through cc statements, receipts, cash withdrawals, phone records?

Does she have a macbook that's linked with her phone? See who she's texting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

They always stay in Hiltons overseas. It's part of the contract. They all have wifi. They don't share rooms. I see zero reason why she can't spend 3 minutes at the end of the day saying hello, I'm safe, tell the kids I love them.

Reading the responses has me depressed. I just needed a gut check to see if my concerns were legit. I'm gonna have a long talk when she gets home.

Think about other clues. There has to be a way to track down what she is doing.

Have you gone through cc statements, receipts, cash withdrawals, phone records?

OP again. Funny you say that. About this time last year she was staying in "Manila". We face timed around bed time, her time. She was siting on the bed and there was a tapestry on the wall behind the headboard. It reminded me of what I had in my dorm room in college. It wasn't Filipino at all in decor. It also ddin't seem very Hilton-esque. I remarked on it and she got flustered looking for an explanation. I remember saying, 'you don't need to apologize for their decorator, lol'

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

They always stay in Hiltons overseas. It's part of the contract. They all have wifi. They don't share rooms. I see zero reason why she can't spend 3 minutes at the end of the day saying hello, I'm safe, tell the kids I love them.

Reading the responses has me depressed. I just needed a gut check to see if my concerns were legit. I'm gonna have a long talk when she gets home.

Yup, Your gut is right. This is completely off. She should be able to facetime for 3 minutes.

You may consider holding off until you have more evidence. Because if she's affairing and gets suspicious she'll be more cautious. You might be better off putting a gps tracking thing in her luggage. Or a hidden recorder. What are they called? a voice activated recorder. I don't know how long they last, but if you could secret one into her purse or her luggage or laptop bag ... worth trying. Check her emails and her texting. Get some evidence before you accuse her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

They always stay in Hiltons overseas. It's part of the contract. They all have wifi. They don't share rooms. I see zero reason why she can't spend 3 minutes at the end of the day saying hello, I'm safe, tell the kids I love them.

Reading the responses has me depressed. I just needed a gut check to see if my concerns were legit. I'm gonna have a long talk when she gets home.

Think about other clues. There has to be a way to track down what she is doing.

Have you gone through cc statements, receipts, cash withdrawals, phone records?

Does she have a macbook that's linked with her phone? See who she's texting.

Yes, personal Macbook but all work is on Thinkpad which requires her chipped ID to be inserted to function. This is all classified so theres no likelihood theyd communicate there.

[Anonymous]

Definitely weird. My SO travels a ton. He texts from the airport, we talk during his connecting flights, he leaves me a few voicemails in between meetings, and we talk for generally about an hour on the phone. We email a few times per day too. We don't always Skype but that's because we're not often both at a desk at the same time. He never goes dark for more than a few hours, and I know his entire schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, no real issues with trust. As I mentioned we've never cheated and we are both attractive, fit, very social people- meaning we could if we wanted. In fact, if I weren't mistaken I'm about 95% sure our daughter's K teacher was picking up on me during the PTCs last week. Smiled constantly, never broke eye contact and touched me on the shoulder as I left.

The hang up is the travel with men and no mention of them. And I do know they socialize and drink as a group because one of her colleagues (35, male, single, ex military) just got fired after the last trip for being drunk twice, including once around the client. This is a big no-no with her employer.

I simply can't envision being single, drinking, in some far flung place with attractive women and not picking up on them.

There’s something else going on here and her references to forgetting are odd. I hate to say this, because it sucks, but she may well be cheating on you.

[Anonymous]

OP, you don't trust her. So work on that when you're back. Something isn't right in your marriage, so work on fixing it.

I suspect she isn't where she says she is, and that could be part of the job or she could be cheating. Who knows. The truth is your spidey sense is going off. You didn't make it sound like she used to text a lot and now it has dried up, so her behavior is usual for her. But something is now making you suspicious. Figure out what that is.

My DH and I both do this kind of thing, and not talking for days when one is overseas isn't unusual, especially when it's "exotic places ending in 'stan". They suck. You're tired. You want to eat something and go to sleep and hope to god the shower works in the morning. It's groundhog day every day. I would say about 25% of the people get "up to something" on travel, which means 75% don't. And just because there are men out there doesn't mean I suddenly want to sleep with them.

[Anonymous]

Op on her next trip call the Hilton Hotel switchboard and ask to be connected to the room phone where your wife told you she is.staying.

She does tell you her room number right?

Honestly it's apparent she's.been having a.long term affair with someone she works with. Most likely her boss. They use the trips overseas to f@ck. She can't facetime or you'd see her riding her boss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, no real issues with trust. As I mentioned we've never cheated and we are both attractive, fit, very social people- meaning we could if we wanted. In fact, if I weren't mistaken I'm about 95% sure our daughter's K teacher was picking up on me during the PTCs last week. Smiled constantly, never broke eye contact and touched me on the shoulder as I left.

The hang up is the travel with men and no mention of them. And I do know they socialize and drink as a group because one of her colleagues (35, male, single, ex military) just got fired after the last trip for being drunk twice, including once around the client. This is a big no-no with her employer.

I simply can't envision being single, drinking, in some far flung place with attractive women and not picking up on them.

Oh, god. You pathetic, insecure little man. No, Your wife isn’t cheating on you. And your child’s K teacher doesn’t want you. You’re getting older, aren’t you? And a bit insecure about whether or not you’re still sexually attractive? So you have to make up little stories to tell yourself about younger women wanting you, and you have to clamp down on your wife to ensure she doesn’t stray. She’s probably a bit younger and more attractive than you, which makes you nervous. Men like you are a dime a dozen, a cliche. Pleas keep your crisis of confidence to yourself, and don’t confront your wife, or make a pass at the teacher.

Uhhh, you OK?

You do know there are plenty of attractive men out there right?

Not OP but my kid's K teacher (about 10 years ago) was a cute early 30s single woman. My husband was 38 ten years ago. And yes, he's cute. In another universe they could have been a couple.

God, I get so tired of other women slamming normal guys as creeps or md life crisis losers just because they admit to being attractive. Do you seriously not work with any men you find cute? I'm not talking about having affairs I'm talking about recognizing that someone is attractive.

He may be attractive, but is delusional if he thinks lots of younger women are gagging for him. And his insecurity really dries up the ole vageen.

It’s fact of life that younger women desire successful older men. Enjoy your cats and wine.