Wife Goes Silent on Work Travel

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First off, this is not IC work. She has never been employed by the CIA, NSA, etc. I would know. My father did that and I grew up in that environment

So, about every three months my wife gets sent overseas for work. Always someplace remote and exotic. Think places that end in 'stan, SE Asia, etc. Usually for two weeks. I know she's actually there because of photos and mementos brought home but she'll be "out of reach" for 90% of the trip and she's always extremely vague about what she's done while there. She's 'off' for the first few days back but that could be jet lag.

We've never had trust issues and neither has ever cheated (far as I know) but this is odd, right? She is pretty and she is with other men, who she never mentions. Not even everyday things like "Oh, when we were leaving dinner, Bill fell in a puddle, it was hilarious". She does do this with the women, however.

Am I nuts or is this normal?

Maybe she's enjoying a couple of weeks of being free from a control freak?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First off, this is not IC work. She has never been employed by the CIA, NSA, etc. I would know. My father did that and I grew up in that environment

So, about every three months my wife gets sent overseas for work. Always someplace remote and exotic. Think places that end in 'stan, SE Asia, etc. Usually for two weeks. I know she's actually there because of photos and mementos brought home but she'll be "out of reach" for 90% of the trip and she's always extremely vague about what she's done while there. She's 'off' for the first few days back but that could be jet lag.

We've never had trust issues and neither has ever cheated (far as I know) but this is odd, right? She is pretty and she is with other men, who she never mentions. Not even everyday things like "Oh, when we were leaving dinner, Bill fell in a puddle, it was hilarious". She does do this with the women, however.

Am I nuts or is this normal?

Maybe she's enjoying a couple of weeks of being free from a control freak?

you really should have read the entire thread before sharing your comment. Turns out she was cheating.

jackass

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

It's an affair. I'll maybe describe it later but I'm kinda hurting right now.

Update, OP? Hope you’re doing well.

[Anonymous]

???

[Anonymous]

Bumping, just in case you’re still out there OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First off, this is not IC work. She has never been employed by the CIA, NSA, etc. I would know. My father did that and I grew up in that environment

So, about every three months my wife gets sent overseas for work. Always someplace remote and exotic. Think places that end in 'stan, SE Asia, etc. Usually for two weeks. I know she's actually there because of photos and mementos brought home but she'll be "out of reach" for 90% of the trip and she's always extremely vague about what she's done while there. She's 'off' for the first few days back but that could be jet lag.

We've never had trust issues and neither has ever cheated (far as I know) but this is odd, right? She is pretty and she is with other men, who she never mentions. Not even everyday things like "Oh, when we were leaving dinner, Bill fell in a puddle, it was hilarious". She does do this with the women, however.

Am I nuts or is this normal?

Maybe she's enjoying a couple of weeks of being free from a control freak?

OR, she's a cheating slut. Like OP finally figured out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OR, she's a cheating slut. Like OP finally figured out.

as someone who skipped to page 25, thanks for this update

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

It's an affair. I'll maybe describe it later but I'm kinda hurting right now.

From page 21.

Pretty funny in retrospect to see all the posts of women bending themselves into a logical pretzel to try to defend the wife and bash the husband when she was pretty obviously up to no good.

[Anonymous]

In my first marriage, I habitually switched my phone off when I traveled for business do my then-DH wouldn’t constantly call to ask me to put out tiny fires. He could reach me through a third party in a true emergency, butvwas much more reluctant to call the hotel desk to ask them to wake me to find out where X was kept or when soccer practice fell.

[Anonymous]

I still think OP’s wife worked in the IC, and the update was just to end the DCUM conversation.

If DCUM can find bobcat girls husband with little info, they can track down OPs wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

You can't make this stuff up. She texted 10 minutes ago and asked me to hug the kids good night. I asked to face time and she said she wouldn't because hotel wall too thin and would wake people.

This was OPs update the week before Valentine’s Day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I still think OP’s wife worked in the IC, and the update was just to end the DCUM conversation.

If DCUM can find bobcat girls husband with little info, they can track down OPs wife.

Wives can never be in the wrong on DCUM!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't bump, but all for it. Wanna know what happened!

I still think about this couple. OP, sending good vibes your way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn't bump, but all for it. Wanna know what happened!

I still think about this couple. OP, sending good vibes your way.

+1. Another person here sending good thoughts to you, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe something unsavory, but it’s also possible that with the large time difference, her “free” time coincides with a time when you are sleeping, or working.

I usually only travel domestically, but before my husband got into the texting game (last year!!!), it was easy to miss each other when I was on the west coast, and he was in DC. Now that he has a text plan, I can text him and we feel more connected.

Does her phone have good, inexpensive coverage in those countries? If she is relying upon WiFi to make calls, that would exacerbate the time zone issue.

Not saying it’s all in your head, just giving you a plausible reason. I would ask about cell coverage in those countries, to get the conversation going.

I agree with this. My husband is an attorney who travels to Asia a few times a year for a few weeks at a time. When he's there, we rarely talk for more than just a couple of minutes because our day and night schedules are completely flipped; we're all sleeping when he has free time and vice versa. And it's tough on everyone when he gets back, because he's totally jet lagged and just kind of mess for a couple of days until his body adjusts.

His body is adjusting to something... not the jet lag