Wife Goes Silent on Work Travel

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never, EVER marry a woman who frequently travels for work. You may trust HER, but don't trust the men buying your wife drinks thousands of miles away.

"It just happened!"

I'm a DW who travels frequently for work to far flung places for 1-2 weeks at a time. I'm attractive and have never had issues attracting men. I've also never had issues turning down advances, which, by the way, are not THAT frequent. Men don't blindly pursue, they need at least some encouragement.

Thenyou aren’t as attractive as you think you are

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never, EVER marry a woman who frequently travels for work. You may trust HER, but don't trust the men buying your wife drinks thousands of miles away.

"It just happened!"

I'm a DW who travels frequently for work to far flung places for 1-2 weeks at a time. I'm attractive and have never had issues attracting men. I've also never had issues turning down advances, which, by the way, are not THAT frequent. Men don't blindly pursue, they need at least some encouragement.

Thenyou aren’t as attractive as you think you are

More probable that you need to learn that no means no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Love these fake threads where "OP" swoops in every few pages with some tasty tidbits. Yeah.

Real or fake, I don't care. I like them.

The facts just don’t matter. The narrator has lost control of the narrative. It’s a story that hits close to home for this hombre at least.

try dropping the word "hombre" from your vocabulary and see if your relationship improves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, no. Sorry to hear the update, OP. Strength to you as you navigate a difficult time... sounds like you are a great dad though so glad that your kids have you in their lives. Stay strong.

???
His last update was that he was going to pick her up at the airport.

[Anonymous]

Check again my friend

[Anonymous]

There was an update saying that he'd found out she was cheating on him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

It's an affair. I'll maybe describe it later but I'm kinda hurting right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never, EVER marry a woman who frequently travels for work. You may trust HER, but don't trust the men buying your wife drinks thousands of miles away.

"It just happened!"

I'm a DW who travels frequently for work to far flung places for 1-2 weeks at a time. I'm attractive and have never had issues attracting men. I've also never had issues turning down advances, which, by the way, are not THAT frequent. Men don't blindly pursue, they need at least some encouragement.

Thenyou aren’t as attractive as you think you are

More probable that you need to learn that no means no.

I'm the traveling DW above, thank you PP. To the "Thenyou" PP, you seem to be confusing harassment with pursuit, and you also seem like the type who would need to be told aggressively to your face to &^%$ off, which I have done whenever necessary.

Romantic pursuit happens less often, and it's not hard to say no, even when you genuinely like the guy. Cheating takes two, and most people are looking for consensual relationships, whether either party is married or not.

What you're referring to is harassment, which is instigated by fewer men but happens more often (because for them it's a way of life, no need to work up the courage or make any plans, and no need for consent). It is about power, and it is illegal. Just needed to clarify this. #me #freaking #too Ugh

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

but mostly I'm seething that she thinks I'm some sort of support staff for her life.

I have to take offense at this concept. They are your kids just as much as they are hers. Tone down, to yourself, the sense of injustice at parenting, because, after all, you are a parent. The above-quoted sentiment betrays that maybe you aren't so progressive and maybe you still think it's a very big sacrifice for the father, bigger than it would be for the mother, to single-parent the kids when the mother is traveling.

I didn’t get that sentiment from OP at all. Two weeks is a long time to solo parent with little kids, and probably seems even longer and more difficult with a spouse whose communication style leaves a lot to be desired.

You must be $&%*&@ kidding me. Try being a military spouse. Fool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

but mostly I'm seething that she thinks I'm some sort of support staff for her life.

I have to take offense at this concept. They are your kids just as much as they are hers. Tone down, to yourself, the sense of injustice at parenting, because, after all, you are a parent. The above-quoted sentiment betrays that maybe you aren't so progressive and maybe you still think it's a very big sacrifice for the father, bigger than it would be for the mother, to single-parent the kids when the mother is traveling.

You're either not a parent/spouse or a really, really, really shitty parent/spouse.

Of course they are his kids and I have yet to see him once complain about them. Is she a shitty mom for not checking in on them? Absolutely. Is she only able to do what she's doing BECAUSE she has a spouse that will support her? Yep. Did you stop and think for a moment about what sacrifices his career is taking because he has a spouse gone all the time? What important meetings/conferences is he inevitably missing?

You're an idiot. We have two people here:

-One leaves her kids and husband for weeks at a time and stays silent.

-And one parent who stays behind with the kids giving them the love, support and care they need AND works his job.

Yet here you are trying to make him the bad guy. You suck. If you have a husband, I pity him. If you don't have a husband, I know why.

-signed, a guy with three kids whose wife also travels a lot.

Woah with the ad hominems, name-calling, and drama!

Yet here you are trying to make him the bad guy.

In my post, I'm suggesting he readjust slightly his perspective on the one narrow issue of feeling taken advantage of. I'm in no way trying to make him the bad guy. I pity.. Nevermind.

Nice back peddle. You called him a selfish bigot. It's there for all to see.

Circling round back to this. This was not backpedaling (pedal, like on a bicycle. I'm not trying to peddle any idea to you). Your reaction showed that you are very probably abusive, and I feel terrible for the woman who has to deal with your kind of outbursts.

A parent working and raising two kids isn't "staying behind", he's staying the course. Nobody gets a medal (yes medal, not meddle) for giving their children the love, support and care they need, and very few get to do that without working too. OP isn't a saint, regardless of whether OP's wife is a cheater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

but mostly I'm seething that she thinks I'm some sort of support staff for her life.

I have to take offense at this concept. They are your kids just as much as they are hers. Tone down, to yourself, the sense of injustice at parenting, because, after all, you are a parent. The above-quoted sentiment betrays that maybe you aren't so progressive and maybe you still think it's a very big sacrifice for the father, bigger than it would be for the mother, to single-parent the kids when the mother is traveling.

I didn’t get that sentiment from OP at all. Two weeks is a long time to solo parent with little kids, and probably seems even longer and more difficult with a spouse whose communication style leaves a lot to be desired.

You must be $&%*&@ kidding me. Try being a military spouse. Fool.

Are you a military spouse who can’t stay away from Jody? Hooking up a day or two after your spouse leaves?

[Anonymous]

Who's Jody?

[Anonymous]

I have no idea what the OP has asked, no idea of the responses, all I know is that this thread is 24 pages long and clearly only the morons are left.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never, EVER marry a woman who frequently travels for work. You may trust HER, but don't trust the men buying your wife drinks thousands of miles away.

"It just happened!"

I'm a DW who travels frequently for work to far flung places for 1-2 weeks at a time. I'm attractive and have never had issues attracting men. I've also never had issues turning down advances, which, by the way, are not THAT frequent. Men don't blindly pursue, they need at least some encouragement.

Thenyou aren’t as attractive as you think you are

More probable that you need to learn that no means no.

I'm the traveling DW above, thank you PP. To the "Thenyou" PP, you seem to be confusing harassment with pursuit, and you also seem like the type who would need to be told aggressively to your face to &^%$ off, which I have done whenever necessary.

Romantic pursuit happens less often, and it's not hard to say no, even when you genuinely like the guy. Cheating takes two, and most people are looking for consensual relationships, whether either party is married or not.

What you're referring to is harassment, which is instigated by fewer men but happens more often (because for them it's a way of life, no need to work up the courage or make any plans, and no need for consent). It is about power, and it is illegal. Just needed to clarify this. #me #freaking #too Ugh

Hugs!

[Anonymous]

Op -- thinking of you!

Please post!