Wife Goes Silent on Work Travel

[Anonymous]

When I travel internationally I don’t text much. Usually I’m super busy with work, work dinners, etc. And I do try to take advantage of the location and do some walking around or something. Plus I usually go to bed earlier since I wake up earlier (depends on the time zone). DH doesn’t seem to care much but my trips are usually no more than a week.

[Anonymous]

Meh.
DH travels in the same time zone and is pretty much radio silent during travel. He’s working, staying in hotels, and having to find places to eat out (often as part of a meeting).
It sounds all wonderful, but having had also done it, it’s not that easy. Add in time zone differences and

[Anonymous]

Maybe she is doing IC work and just doesn't want you to know for some reason. Perhaps it's unsavory work and thinks it would change your opinion of her.

Just because you're allowed to tell your spouse doesn't mean you will want to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe something unsavory, but it’s also possible that with the large time difference, her “free” time coincides with a time when you are sleeping, or working.

I usually only travel domestically, but before my husband got into the texting game (last year!!!), it was easy to miss each other when I was on the west coast, and he was in DC. Now that he has a text plan, I can text him and we feel more connected.

Does her phone have good, inexpensive coverage in those countries? If she is relying upon WiFi to make calls, that would exacerbate the time zone issue.

Not saying it’s all in your head, just giving you a plausible reason. I would ask about cell coverage in those countries, to get the conversation going.

I agree with this. My husband is an attorney who travels to Asia a few times a year for a few weeks at a time. When he's there, we rarely talk for more than just a couple of minutes because our day and night schedules are completely flipped; we're all sleeping when he has free time and vice versa. And it's tough on everyone when he gets back, because he's totally jet lagged and just kind of mess for a couple of days until his body adjusts.

+1 I travel around the globe and the time difference makes it really hard to communicate with home, especially if I’m entertaining a customer at night, when DH is starting his workday. Then it flips when he’s home at night and I’m starting my workday.

DH was in the military up until a year ago, and there were times it was easier for me to talk to him while he was in Afghanistan and i was in Sri Lanka, than when I was home.

If there’s no prior trust issues, just keep trusting.

[Anonymous]

If you can’t tell us what she does none of us are going to be able to give you a good answer.

[Anonymous]

OP here, no real issues with trust. As I mentioned we've never cheated and we are both attractive, fit, very social people- meaning we could if we wanted. In fact, if I weren't mistaken I'm about 95% sure our daughter's K teacher was picking up on me during the PTCs last week. Smiled constantly, never broke eye contact and touched me on the shoulder as I left.

The hang up is the travel with men and no mention of them. And I do know they socialize and drink as a group because one of her colleagues (35, male, single, ex military) just got fired after the last trip for being drunk twice, including once around the client. This is a big no-no with her employer.

I simply can't envision being single, drinking, in some far flung place with attractive women and not picking up on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, no real issues with trust. As I mentioned we've never cheated and we are both attractive, fit, very social people- meaning we could if we wanted. In fact, if I weren't mistaken I'm about 95% sure our daughter's K teacher was picking up on me during the PTCs last week. Smiled constantly, never broke eye contact and touched me on the shoulder as I left.

The hang up is the travel with men and no mention of them. And I do know they socialize and drink as a group because one of her colleagues (35, male, single, ex military) just got fired after the last trip for being drunk twice, including once around the client. This is a big no-no with her employer.

I simply can't envision being single, drinking, in some far flung place with attractive women and not picking up on them.

Oh, god. You pathetic, insecure little man. No, Your wife isn’t cheating on you. And your child’s K teacher doesn’t want you. You’re getting older, aren’t you? And a bit insecure about whether or not you’re still sexually attractive? So you have to make up little stories to tell yourself about younger women wanting you, and you have to clamp down on your wife to ensure she doesn’t stray. She’s probably a bit younger and more attractive than you, which makes you nervous. Men like you are a dime a dozen, a cliche. Pleas keep your crisis of confidence to yourself, and don’t confront your wife, or make a pass at the teacher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, no real issues with trust. As I mentioned we've never cheated and we are both attractive, fit, very social people- meaning we could if we wanted. In fact, if I weren't mistaken I'm about 95% sure our daughter's K teacher was picking up on me during the PTCs last week. Smiled constantly, never broke eye contact and touched me on the shoulder as I left.

The hang up is the travel with men and no mention of them. And I do know they socialize and drink as a group because one of her colleagues (35, male, single, ex military) just got fired after the last trip for being drunk twice, including once around the client. This is a big no-no with her employer.

I simply can't envision being single, drinking, in some far flung place with attractive women and not picking up on them.

Oh, god. You pathetic, insecure little man. No, Your wife isn’t cheating on you. And your child’s K teacher doesn’t want you. You’re getting older, aren’t you? And a bit insecure about whether or not you’re still sexually attractive? So you have to make up little stories to tell yourself about younger women wanting you, and you have to clamp down on your wife to ensure she doesn’t stray. She’s probably a bit younger and more attractive than you, which makes you nervous. Men like you are a dime a dozen, a cliche. Pleas keep your crisis of confidence to yourself, and don’t confront your wife, or make a pass at the teacher.

Uhhh, you OK?

You do know there are plenty of attractive men out there right?

Not OP but my kid's K teacher (about 10 years ago) was a cute early 30s single woman. My husband was 38 ten years ago. And yes, he's cute. In another universe they could have been a couple.

God, I get so tired of other women slamming normal guys as creeps or md life crisis losers just because they admit to being attractive. Do you seriously not work with any men you find cute? I'm not talking about having affairs I'm talking about recognizing that someone is attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, no real issues with trust. As I mentioned we've never cheated and we are both attractive, fit, very social people- meaning we could if we wanted. In fact, if I weren't mistaken I'm about 95% sure our daughter's K teacher was picking up on me during the PTCs last week. Smiled constantly, never broke eye contact and touched me on the shoulder as I left.

The hang up is the travel with men and no mention of them. And I do know they socialize and drink as a group because one of her colleagues (35, male, single, ex military) just got fired after the last trip for being drunk twice, including once around the client. This is a big no-no with her employer.

I simply can't envision being single, drinking, in some far flung place with attractive women and not picking up on them.

Oh, god. You pathetic, insecure little man. No, Your wife isn’t cheating on you. And your child’s K teacher doesn’t want you. You’re getting older, aren’t you? And a bit insecure about whether or not you’re still sexually attractive? So you have to make up little stories to tell yourself about younger women wanting you, and you have to clamp down on your wife to ensure she doesn’t stray. She’s probably a bit younger and more attractive than you, which makes you nervous. Men like you are a dime a dozen, a cliche. Pleas keep your crisis of confidence to yourself, and don’t confront your wife, or make a pass at the teacher.

Uhhh, you OK?

You do know there are plenty of attractive men out there right?

Not OP but my kid's K teacher (about 10 years ago) was a cute early 30s single woman. My husband was 38 ten years ago. And yes, he's cute. In another universe they could have been a couple.

God, I get so tired of other women slamming normal guys as creeps or md life crisis losers just because they admit to being attractive. Do you seriously not work with any men you find cute? I'm not talking about having affairs I'm talking about recognizing that someone is attractive.

He may be attractive, but is delusional if he thinks lots of younger women are gagging for him. And his insecurity really dries up the ole vageen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, no real issues with trust. As I mentioned we've never cheated and we are both attractive, fit, very social people- meaning we could if we wanted. In fact, if I weren't mistaken I'm about 95% sure our daughter's K teacher was picking up on me during the PTCs last week. Smiled constantly, never broke eye contact and touched me on the shoulder as I left.

The hang up is the travel with men and no mention of them. And I do know they socialize and drink as a group because one of her colleagues (35, male, single, ex military) just got fired after the last trip for being drunk twice, including once around the client. This is a big no-no with her employer.

I simply can't envision being single, drinking, in some far flung place with attractive women and not picking up on them.

Oh, god. You pathetic, insecure little man. No, Your wife isn’t cheating on you. And your child’s K teacher doesn’t want you. You’re getting older, aren’t you? And a bit insecure about whether or not you’re still sexually attractive? So you have to make up little stories to tell yourself about younger women wanting you, and you have to clamp down on your wife to ensure she doesn’t stray. She’s probably a bit younger and more attractive than you, which makes you nervous. Men like you are a dime a dozen, a cliche. Pleas keep your crisis of confidence to yourself, and don’t confront your wife, or make a pass at the teacher.

Uhhh, you OK?

You do know there are plenty of attractive men out there right?

Not OP but my kid's K teacher (about 10 years ago) was a cute early 30s single woman. My husband was 38 ten years ago. And yes, he's cute. In another universe they could have been a couple.

God, I get so tired of other women slamming normal guys as creeps or md life crisis losers just because they admit to being attractive. Do you seriously not work with any men you find cute? I'm not talking about having affairs I'm talking about recognizing that someone is attractive.

He may be attractive, but is delusional if he thinks lots of younger women are gagging for him. And his insecurity really dries up the ole vageen.

What thread are you reading? Did OP list his age? Did he list the age of the K teacher?

Why do you hate men? Do they ignore you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, no real issues with trust. As I mentioned we've never cheated and we are both attractive, fit, very social people- meaning we could if we wanted. In fact, if I weren't mistaken I'm about 95% sure our daughter's K teacher was picking up on me during the PTCs last week. Smiled constantly, never broke eye contact and touched me on the shoulder as I left.

The hang up is the travel with men and no mention of them. And I do know they socialize and drink as a group because one of her colleagues (35, male, single, ex military) just got fired after the last trip for being drunk twice, including once around the client. This is a big no-no with her employer.

I simply can't envision being single, drinking, in some far flung place with attractive women and not picking up on them.

Oh, god. You pathetic, insecure little man. No, Your wife isn’t cheating on you. And your child’s K teacher doesn’t want you. You’re getting older, aren’t you? And a bit insecure about whether or not you’re still sexually attractive? So you have to make up little stories to tell yourself about younger women wanting you, and you have to clamp down on your wife to ensure she doesn’t stray. She’s probably a bit younger and more attractive than you, which makes you nervous. Men like you are a dime a dozen, a cliche. Pleas keep your crisis of confidence to yourself, and don’t confront your wife, or make a pass at the teacher.

Uhhh, you OK?

You do know there are plenty of attractive men out there right?

Not OP but my kid's K teacher (about 10 years ago) was a cute early 30s single woman. My husband was 38 ten years ago. And yes, he's cute. In another universe they could have been a couple.

God, I get so tired of other women slamming normal guys as creeps or md life crisis losers just because they admit to being attractive. Do you seriously not work with any men you find cute? I'm not talking about having affairs I'm talking about recognizing that someone is attractive.

He may be attractive, but is delusional if he thinks lots of younger women are gagging for him. And his insecurity really dries up the ole vageen.

What thread are you reading? Did OP list his age? Did he list the age of the K teacher?

Why do you hate men? Do they ignore you?

Not at all. I have a husband and a boyfriend. Neither of them go about crowing about their good looks, or stew jealously about my potential illicit sexual activity when I’m on business trips.

[Anonymous]

I just got back from a week long trip with only a few hours time difference and I think I spoke with my husband a total of 10 minutes over the course of the week. On these trips I am working, socializing, or asleep 24/7. The socializing isn't nefarious, but those relationships are important to the rest of the work and I prioritize that time.

Your statement about not being able to imagine being with attractive people without hitting on them is troubling though - maybe you are projecting.

[Anonymous]

This wouldn’t be too weird to me. I don’t feel the need to check in a lot because like someone else said, I trust my spouse and I know he is very good at keeping things running smoothly while I’m gone. Plus if he’s able to get some alone time or time to play Madden while I’m gone (lol) I want him to be able to have fun and enjoy the peace and quiet (I know I do when the roles are reversed).

But all your talk about other guys and the women you referenced in regards to yourself is weird, and you sound more insecure, or that you’re projecting or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just got back from a week long trip with only a few hours time difference and I think I spoke with my husband a total of 10 minutes over the course of the week. On these trips I am working, socializing, or asleep 24/7. The socializing isn't nefarious, but those relationships are important to the rest of the work and I prioritize that time.

Your statement about not being able to imagine being with attractive people without hitting on them is troubling though - maybe you are projecting.

What's troubling about it? You know that's how couples meet, right? Did you and your DH meet via an arranged marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, no real issues with trust. As I mentioned we've never cheated and we are both attractive, fit, very social people- meaning we could if we wanted. In fact, if I weren't mistaken I'm about 95% sure our daughter's K teacher was picking up on me during the PTCs last week. Smiled constantly, never broke eye contact and touched me on the shoulder as I left.

The hang up is the travel with men and no mention of them. And I do know they socialize and drink as a group because one of her colleagues (35, male, single, ex military) just got fired after the last trip for being drunk twice, including once around the client. This is a big no-no with her employer.

I simply can't envision being single, drinking, in some far flung place with attractive women and not picking up on them.

Oh, god. You pathetic, insecure little man. No, Your wife isn’t cheating on you. And your child’s K teacher doesn’t want you. You’re getting older, aren’t you? And a bit insecure about whether or not you’re still sexually attractive? So you have to make up little stories to tell yourself about younger women wanting you, and you have to clamp down on your wife to ensure she doesn’t stray. She’s probably a bit younger and more attractive than you, which makes you nervous. Men like you are a dime a dozen, a cliche. Pleas keep your crisis of confidence to yourself, and don’t confront your wife, or make a pass at the teacher.

Uhhh, you OK?

You do know there are plenty of attractive men out there right?

Not OP but my kid's K teacher (about 10 years ago) was a cute early 30s single woman. My husband was 38 ten years ago. And yes, he's cute. In another universe they could have been a couple.

God, I get so tired of other women slamming normal guys as creeps or md life crisis losers just because they admit to being attractive. Do you seriously not work with any men you find cute? I'm not talking about having affairs I'm talking about recognizing that someone is attractive.

He may be attractive, but is delusional if he thinks lots of younger women are gagging for him. And his insecurity really dries up the ole vageen.

What thread are you reading? Did OP list his age? Did he list the age of the K teacher?

Why do you hate men? Do they ignore you?

Not at all. I have a husband and a boyfriend. Neither of them go about crowing about their good looks, or stew jealously about my potential illicit sexual activity when I’m on business trips.

Youre not a very god troll. In this attempt you claim to have a DH and an AP. But then claim DH wouldn't dare be jealous.

That means your DH is an imbecile. Which makes you one too.

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