Husbands: do you secretly compare your wife to other wives?

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Yes. And it is has made me more in love with her/proud of her as a result. Sometimes I sit back and admire my wife and think how the hell did I manage to marry her?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

That's OK. I paid all of my children's college tuition out of my large earnings, but I still get asked why I don't look like the lady across the street who doesn't work and spends all her time at the gym.

This is awful! You have a right to be mad.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

Not BS. If you were fat or denying him sex, I guarantee you he'd care about that much, much more than your "professional advancement". But he wouldn't stop constantly complaining, it would just be about the lack of sex instead.

To be honest, I have never met a man who says anything about his wife's "professional advancement".

Totally agree. I don’t know any happily married men I work with talking about professional attainment of their wives. I call troll doing some reverse psychology.

I'm happily married and my husband has definitely mentioned some of my professional successes to his co-workers. He is also very successful, but he is very proud of what I've attained.

A guy can be proud of his wife and happy for her successes at work, despite the fact he doesn't particularly care what she does for a living, doesn't talk about what she does for a living to his friends, and didn't consider her career as a plus when dating her. Your resume is for your job interviews not your personal life.

This seems weirdly defensive. I'm guessing you're either a wife with a mediocre career or a husband who never even dated a woman with impressive successes.

[Anonymous]

I guess I consider my career a vocation or a calling. It's pretty important to me. I feel like I'm doing some good in my community, in the universe and I can't imagine marrying someone who "doesn't particularly care what I do for a living."

I also can't imagine marrying someone and "not particularly caring what he does for a living." Maybe if I was some kind of trashy gold digger who didn't care as long as he bought me things - but I'm assuming that most people aren't like that.

It would be weird to be married to someone who wasn't happy for my professional successes and didn't care what I did. Honestly, some of the people on here sound like they need to go back to the 1950's and they can put on their aprons and their high heels and be Mrs. Cleaver.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not attempting to be snarky, seeing the other thread made me genuinely curious about this.

Not really, other than I wish I had a SAHW so everything would be taken care of for me and I could focus even more on work. And do more work travel.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and my husband has definitely mentioned some of my professional successes to his co-workers. He is also very successful, but he is very proud of what I've attained.

Again, get fat and stop having sex with him, and see if he still cares about your professional success.

[Anonymous]

Maybe your wife got fat and stopped having sex with you because she hates you? You know if you are a jerk who criticizes her, compares her to other women, wants her to bring in a salary and do all the housework, she does hate you. She's waiting for the divorces/affair, this way she gets 50% (incl your retirement).

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Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

Not BS. If you were fat or denying him sex, I guarantee you he'd care about that much, much more than your "professional advancement". But he wouldn't stop constantly complaining, it would just be about the lack of sex instead.

To be honest, I have never met a man who says anything about his wife's "professional advancement".

Totally agree. I don’t know any happily married men I work with talking about professional attainment of their wives. I call troll doing some reverse psychology.

I'm happily married and my husband has definitely mentioned some of my professional successes to his co-workers. He is also very successful, but he is very proud of what I've attained.

A guy can be proud of his wife and happy for her successes at work, despite the fact he doesn't particularly care what she does for a living, doesn't talk about what she does for a living to his friends, and didn't consider her career as a plus when dating her. Your resume is for your job interviews not your personal life.

Do you just like being argumentative or are you trying to make yourself feel better about your life? The PP said they know of no happily married men who have ever said anything about their wives' professional accomplishments. Several PPs have stated otherwise. Your post is oddly hostile and not relevant to the prior conversation.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and my husband has definitely mentioned some of my professional successes to his co-workers. He is also very successful, but he is very proud of what I've attained.

Again, get fat and stop having sex with him, and see if he still cares about your professional success.

I feel really sorry for you. You seem to think that every quality a women possesses matters 1% and how fat she is and how often she lays you matters 99%. That's a sad way to think about your spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. My wife is by far the hottest mom at our kid's school. No other mom even comes close. I catch dudes checking her out all the time.

In order to know she is the hottest mom, you'd need to compare... so I think your answer is "yes".

[Anonymous]

This seems weirdly defensive. I'm guessing you're either a wife with a mediocre career or a husband who never even dated a woman with impressive successes.

Someone needs to kick you in the kernt and I want it to be me. Signed, mediocre career turned SAHM, HHI 350K yr, fat, ugly, with happy dh and dcs.

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This seems weirdly defensive. I'm guessing you're either a wife with a mediocre career or a husband who never even dated a woman with impressive successes.

Someone needs to kick you in the kernt and I want it to be me. Signed, mediocre career turned SAHM, HHI 350K yr, fat, ugly, with happy dh and dcs.

Wow, you're a disgusting person. And I don't just mean on the outside (by your own admission).

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This seems weirdly defensive. I'm guessing you're either a wife with a mediocre career or a husband who never even dated a woman with impressive successes.

Someone needs to kick you in the kernt and I want it to be me. Signed, mediocre career turned SAHM, HHI 350K yr, fat, ugly, with happy dh and dcs.

Wow, you're a disgusting person. And I don't just mean on the outside (by your own admission).


I said I'm fat and ugly, not disgusting. What's disgusting is that stench trailing from the rot between your legs. Which is why your dh is at my place worshipping me right.

[Anonymous]

I think my husband compares my cooking with other women. We are African and cooking good food is a big deal. Unfortunately I'm not a great cook - I try but I'm no where close to our circle of friends.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I do. Married seven years now. I compare my wife to many women I meet. We don't have the greatest marriage. We see many things differently and often find we have nothing in common anymore. I compare her to associates and friends of mine whom I know I'd be happier with.

She also doesn't take care of her body. When we met she was 120lb. Now she's 150. We joined a high end gym for $220 a month for two years (located six blocks from our home) and she went less than 20 times. What a waste.