Husbands: do you secretly compare your wife to other wives?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is very proud of my professional accomplishments. That said, I keep myself in good shape and have sex pretty much whenever he wants. If he had to give something up, it would no doubt be my job before looks/sex. Just a deeply & perhaps fundamental gender difference I guess...

Um, yes. A well documented gender difference. Is this the least bit surprising? Why don't they teach the famous "His Needs, Her Needs" in school. Or at least do a test before marriage (kind of like a driver's test)

Men
1. Sexual fulfillment
2. Recreational companionship
3. Physical attractiveness
4. Domestic support
5. Admiration


Women
1. Attentive affection (non sexual)
2. Intimate convesration
3. Trust, honestly, openness
4. Financial support
5. Family commitment

Why don’t they do a test? Because most men would fail. The only one on that list most men would be able to figure out is financial support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

...No sh*t he's almost 10 years older than I am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

That's OK. I paid all of my children's college tuition out of my large earnings, but I still get asked why I don't look like the lady across the street who doesn't work and spends all her time at the gym.

Yep. As a man I can tell you, that is what matters more

[Anonymous]

I look at other moms when we are out, but I have a winner so nothing to complain about. If we are together in a group, afterwards I will tel her she was the most beautiful and happiest of the bunch

[Anonymous]

yes I compare and she is 5-8 years older than the crowd we normally hang with but looks much better. When comparing her to same age there is no comparison

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I look at other moms when we are out, but I have a winner so nothing to complain about. If we are together in a group, afterwards I will tel her she was the most beautiful and happiest of the bunch

The most beautiful and happiest?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is very proud of my professional accomplishments. That said, I keep myself in good shape and have sex pretty much whenever he wants. If he had to give something up, it would no doubt be my job before looks/sex. Just a deeply & perhaps fundamental gender difference I guess...

Um, yes. A well documented gender difference. Is this the least bit surprising? Why don't they teach the famous "His Needs, Her Needs" in school. Or at least do a test before marriage (kind of like a driver's test)

Men
1. Sexual fulfillment
2. Recreational companionship
3. Physical attractiveness
4. Domestic support
5. Admiration


Women
1. Attentive affection (non sexual)
2. Intimate convesration
3. Trust, honestly, openness
4. Financial support
5. Family commitment

Why don’t they do a test? Because most men would fail. The only one on that list most men would be able to figure out is financial support.

And that would be just fine. Simply don't marry any man who fails, keep on dating until you find a man who passes. The problem is married women who genuinely don't know what is important to a man. They lose interest in sex, gain weight, then are "shocked" when he divorces or has an affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I look at other moms when we are out, but I have a winner so nothing to complain about. If we are together in a group, afterwards I will tel her she was the most beautiful and happiest of the bunch

The most beautiful and happiest?

Most of the other moms are constantly complaining about their jobs, husbands or the teachers at school. I would say most need to be on anti depressants. This is mainly just the group of friends that we spend time with because our children are all friends

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I look at other moms when we are out, but I have a winner so nothing to complain about. If we are together in a group, afterwards I will tel her she was the most beautiful and happiest of the bunch

The most beautiful and happiest?

AKA the CGWBT (cheerful girl with big t*ts)

[Anonymous]

I love my wife. 15 yrs and two kids together. She's 48 years old now and more beautiful to me now than ever. She sees weight gain and wrinkles and I see the woman I love. I don't compare her to other women anymore than I compare my kids to others' kids. I love my own kids. I read some of these responses by men and not shocked. Douchebags.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is very proud of my professional accomplishments. That said, I keep myself in good shape and have sex pretty much whenever he wants. If he had to give something up, it would no doubt be my job before looks/sex. Just a deeply & perhaps fundamental gender difference I guess...

Um, yes. A well documented gender difference. Is this the least bit surprising? Why don't they teach the famous "His Needs, Her Needs" in school. Or at least do a test before marriage (kind of like a driver's test)

Men
1. Sexual fulfillment
2. Recreational companionship
3. Physical attractiveness
4. Domestic support
5. Admiration


Women
1. Attentive affection (non sexual)
2. Intimate convesration
3. Trust, honestly, openness
4. Financial support
5. Family commitment

Why don’t they do a test? Because most men would fail. The only one on that list most men would be able to figure out is financial support.

Bah, most women would fail the husband test, too. All five of those things drop dramatically over the course of a marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

That's OK. I paid all of my children's college tuition out of my large earnings, but I still get asked why I don't look like the lady across the street who doesn't work and spends all her time at the gym.

You don't have to spend all day at the gym in order to not be fat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

Not BS. If you were fat or denying him sex, I guarantee you he'd care about that much, much more than your "professional advancement". But he wouldn't stop constantly complaining, it would just be about the lack of sex instead.

To be honest, I have never met a man who says anything about his wife's "professional advancement".

Totally agree. I don’t know any happily married men I work with talking about professional attainment of their wives. I call troll doing some reverse psychology.

I'm happily married and my husband has definitely mentioned some of my professional successes to his co-workers. He is also very successful, but he is very proud of what I've attained.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is very proud of my professional accomplishments. That said, I keep myself in good shape and have sex pretty much whenever he wants. If he had to give something up, it would no doubt be my job before looks/sex. Just a deeply & perhaps fundamental gender difference I guess...

Um, yes. A well documented gender difference. Is this the least bit surprising? Why don't they teach the famous "His Needs, Her Needs" in school. Or at least do a test before marriage (kind of like a driver's test)

Men
1. Sexual fulfillment
2. Recreational companionship
3. Physical attractiveness
4. Domestic support
5. Admiration


Women
1. Attentive affection (non sexual)
2. Intimate convesration
3. Trust, honestly, openness
4. Financial support
5. Family commitment

Because men would see this, with sex nowhere in her top 5, and say screw this I am outta here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

Not BS. If you were fat or denying him sex, I guarantee you he'd care about that much, much more than your "professional advancement". But he wouldn't stop constantly complaining, it would just be about the lack of sex instead.

To be honest, I have never met a man who says anything about his wife's "professional advancement".

Totally agree. I don’t know any happily married men I work with talking about professional attainment of their wives. I call troll doing some reverse psychology.

I'm happily married and my husband has definitely mentioned some of my professional successes to his co-workers. He is also very successful, but he is very proud of what I've attained.

A guy can be proud of his wife and happy for her successes at work, despite the fact he doesn't particularly care what she does for a living, doesn't talk about what she does for a living to his friends, and didn't consider her career as a plus when dating her. Your resume is for your job interviews not your personal life.