Husbands: do you secretly compare your wife to other wives?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

That sounds really weird. What straight man cares about "professional advancement" in his woman? We care that you're not stupid and can hold a job, but that's about it on that front.

Are you a dad? Do you have daughters? Do you tell them that no one cares if they achieve anything professionally, that all that's important is how big their butts get? if you really feel that's true, are you saving money to send them to college? Seems like you might regard that as a waste of money -- perhaps in your mind it would be better to sign them up for one of those pole dancing fitness classes instead.Are you going to have them all get plastic surgery and implants in their teens?

They are not ready for that conversation yet. But someday, at perhaps age 20, I will tell them:
1. They are now as good looking as they're ever going to be. It is all downhill from there. Keep that in mind going forward.
2. Yes, men care primarily about looks. Therefore, my girls should use those looks to get a high-value man before looks and fertility fade.
3. Their "profession" is only relevant insofar as it allows them to secure a high-value man. If they are sufficiently good looking (and they will be - they won't need any surgery or implants) their husband will not give a damn that they have a "low achievement" career.
4. College is only useful in order to meet men of a similar social class. Don't spend too much money on it or get some idiotic degree that takes a long time and never pays off (e.g., a PhD).

If that doesn't work out as planned, will you support them financially their entire adult lives?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

That sounds really weird. What straight man cares about "professional advancement" in his woman? We care that you're not stupid and can hold a job, but that's about it on that front.

Are you a dad? Do you have daughters? Do you tell them that no one cares if they achieve anything professionally, that all that's important is how big their butts get? if you really feel that's true, are you saving money to send them to college? Seems like you might regard that as a waste of money -- perhaps in your mind it would be better to sign them up for one of those pole dancing fitness classes instead.Are you going to have them all get plastic surgery and implants in their teens?

They are not ready for that conversation yet. But someday, at perhaps age 20, I will tell them:
1. They are now as good looking as they're ever going to be. It is all downhill from there. Keep that in mind going forward.
2. Yes, men care primarily about looks. Therefore, my girls should use those looks to get a high-value man before looks and fertility fade.
3. Their "profession" is only relevant insofar as it allows them to secure a high-value man. If they are sufficiently good looking (and they will be - they won't need any surgery or implants) their husband will not give a damn that they have a "low achievement" career.
4. College is only useful in order to meet men of a similar social class. Don't spend too much money on it or get some idiotic degree that takes a long time and never pays off (e.g., a PhD).

Not a bad troll but slightly heavy handed, and then wheels came off at college part

“my girls should use their looks to get a high-value man”

My ex best friend was told that by her father. She was gorgeous but never had a true personality nor was able to maintain close friendships. You are a great role model. Good luck with that.

LOL, if she "never had a true personality" (whatever that means) or the ability to maintain friendships, then it's even more important than ever that she should use her looks to get a man.

My daughters have plenty of personality and friends, so no worries on that front.

Meaning that my friend changed her personality based on the man she was dating. She was a chameleon and defined herself through a man's needs. She was therefore devoid of her own personality.

Signed, a hot chick who loves sex and holds a PhD

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As for who they'll marry, they'll prefer "hotter with mundane education" over "less hot with great education", all other things being equal.

Yup.

No true. I heard DH talking to D'S, and he said the hotter they are the crazier they are. He told DS should never marry a hit woman, bc she's nothing but problems. I'm sure he doesn't want her to marry someone DS doesn't find attractive, but definitely not the hottest either.

Average looks, educated, sane >> Hot, bimbo, crazy

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As for who they'll marry, they'll prefer "hotter with mundane education" over "less hot with great education", all other things being equal.

Yup.

No true. I heard DH talking to D'S, and he said the hotter they are the crazier they are. He told DS should never marry a hit woman, bc she's nothing but problems. I'm sure he doesn't want her to marry someone DS doesn't find attractive, but definitely not the hottest either.

Average looks, educated, sane >> Hot, bimbo, crazy

"All other things being equal"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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As for who they'll marry, they'll prefer "hotter with mundane education" over "less hot with great education", all other things being equal.

Yup.

No true. I heard DH talking to D'S, and he said the hotter they are the crazier they are. He told DS should never marry a hit woman, bc she's nothing but problems. I'm sure he doesn't want her to marry someone DS doesn't find attractive, but definitely not the hottest either.

Average looks, educated, sane >> Hot, bimbo, crazy

"All other things being equal"

Except they never are equal.

[Anonymous]

Never equal: true. The point is, past a certain minimum, a woman's education is not a consideration. Her looks are, her personality, her libido, and a whole bunch of things that apply to watching a movie on tv together rather than debating the economy of Zimbabwe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never equal: true. The point is, past a certain minimum, a woman's education is not a consideration. Her looks are, her personality, her libido, and a whole bunch of things that apply to watching a movie on tv together rather than debating the economy of Zimbabwe.

are you having fun imagining my reaction

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never equal: true. The point is, past a certain minimum, a woman's education is not a consideration. Her looks are, her personality, her libido, and a whole bunch of things that apply to watching a movie on tv together rather than debating the economy of Zimbabwe.

And now we've come full circle - looks are not the most important factor when looking for a woman. A minimum standard of attractiveness is required, but that is far from the "hot" requirement. Regarding education, I don't know if men are degree snobs, but a minimum level of education, at least undergrad, is more favorable.

[Anonymous]

Looks might be the most important. There's the hot-crazy line; a guy tolerates more drama from a prettier woman. But what really matters is the looks of whoever actually shows up, agrees to date.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

That sounds really weird. What straight man cares about "professional advancement" in his woman? We care that you're not stupid and can hold a job, but that's about it on that front.

Are you a dad? Do you have daughters? Do you tell them that no one cares if they achieve anything professionally, that all that's important is how big their butts get? if you really feel that's true, are you saving money to send them to college? Seems like you might regard that as a waste of money -- perhaps in your mind it would be better to sign them up for one of those pole dancing fitness classes instead.Are you going to have them all get plastic surgery and implants in their teens?

They are not ready for that conversation yet. But someday, at perhaps age 20, I will tell them:
1. They are now as good looking as they're ever going to be. It is all downhill from there. Keep that in mind going forward.
2. Yes, men care primarily about looks. Therefore, my girls should use those looks to get a high-value man before looks and fertility fade.
3. Their "profession" is only relevant insofar as it allows them to secure a high-value man. If they are sufficiently good looking (and they will be - they won't need any surgery or implants) their husband will not give a damn that they have a "low achievement" career.
4. College is only useful in order to meet men of a similar social class. Don't spend too much money on it or get some idiotic degree that takes a long time and never pays off (e.g., a PhD).

I am just going to assume that you are a troll. If not, you are an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

As for who they'll marry, they'll prefer "hotter with mundane education" over "less hot with great education", all other things being equal.

Yup.

No true. I heard DH talking to D'S, and he said the hotter they are the crazier they are. He told DS should never marry a hit woman, bc she's nothing but problems. I'm sure he doesn't want her to marry someone DS doesn't find attractive, but definitely not the hottest either.

LOL this is husband trying to justify his own choice of marrying a not-hot woman, and encouraging son to do the same (crab in a bucket).

Hot women are shrill, demanding, narcissistic, and entitled. But so are not-hot women. If you have to deal with female bullshit anyway, she might as well be hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never equal: true. The point is, past a certain minimum, a woman's education is not a consideration. Her looks are, her personality, her libido, and a whole bunch of things that apply to watching a movie on tv together rather than debating the economy of Zimbabwe.

Women over the age of 23 vastly, vastly overestimate how intelligent and interesting their conversation is.

(Hint: we're only listening and pretending to be interested because we want to fck you.)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Never equal: true. The point is, past a certain minimum, a woman's education is not a consideration. Her looks are, her personality, her libido, and a whole bunch of things that apply to watching a movie on tv together rather than debating the economy of Zimbabwe.

Some women over the age of 23 vastly, vastly overestimate how intelligent and interesting their conversation is.

(Hint: I only listen and pretend to be interested because I want to fck you.)

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Fixed that for you

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You can spin it in whatever place you live, but men do care about a woman’s education. I know several men who would not date a woman unless she was educated. Looks do matter to everyone, but you can’t a woman with good looks and educated is desirable. You can only use looks to a certain extent. Most men even prefer someone smart and average instead of dumb and hot. It’s really deplorable a father would teach his daughters that their looks and what they can do for men is the only reason for their being.

Intelligent enough, educated enough women are a dime a dozen in this area. A graduate degree doesn't make a woman good relationship material. It doesn't hurt, but that goes on her resume for job interviews.

YES, but I don't women need to be all that attractive either. Just attractive enough. Tons of overweight women in this area are married and in good relationships. With your theory, shouldn't they be divorced. Weight gain may be a deal breaker for you, but obviously it's not for many other men.

Just because a man might not divorce his now overweight (but thin while dating) wife does not mean her weight gain isn’t a dealbreaker. My wife gained 40+ Pounds and I have zero attraction to her, but divorce is such a hassle! Instead, My attention has shifted to some other lady friends who, guess what, are still thin and attractive. My wife’s education is irrelevant to this equation, but just FYI she’s got her masters.

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Secretly? Never. I'm forever trying to get them to prove which one has nicer boobs.

- Harvey Weinstein