Husbands: do you secretly compare your wife to other wives?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

That sounds really weird. What straight man cares about "professional advancement" in his woman? We care that you're not stupid and can hold a job, but that's about it on that front.

Are you a dad? Do you have daughters? Do you tell them that no one cares if they achieve anything professionally, that all that's important is how big their butts get? if you really feel that's true, are you saving money to send them to college? Seems like you might regard that as a waste of money -- perhaps in your mind it would be better to sign them up for one of those pole dancing fitness classes instead.Are you going to have them all get plastic surgery and implants in their teens?

They are not ready for that conversation yet. But someday, at perhaps age 20, I will tell them:
1. They are now as good looking as they're ever going to be. It is all downhill from there. Keep that in mind going forward.
2. Yes, men care primarily about looks. Therefore, my girls should use those looks to get a high-value man before looks and fertility fade.
3. Their "profession" is only relevant insofar as it allows them to secure a high-value man. If they are sufficiently good looking (and they will be - they won't need any surgery or implants) their husband will not give a damn that they have a "low achievement" career.
4. College is only useful in order to meet men of a similar social class. Don't spend too much money on it or get some idiotic degree that takes a long time and never pays off (e.g., a PhD).

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes, but then I realize they probably don't have a great 'butt'

You reminded me of a very confident friend who referred to her “World Class Ass”.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

That sounds really weird. What straight man cares about "professional advancement" in his woman? We care that you're not stupid and can hold a job, but that's about it on that front.

Are you a dad? Do you have daughters? Do you tell them that no one cares if they achieve anything professionally, that all that's important is how big their butts get? if you really feel that's true, are you saving money to send them to college? Seems like you might regard that as a waste of money -- perhaps in your mind it would be better to sign them up for one of those pole dancing fitness classes instead.Are you going to have them all get plastic surgery and implants in their teens?

They are not ready for that conversation yet. But someday, at perhaps age 20, I will tell them:
1. They are now as good looking as they're ever going to be. It is all downhill from there. Keep that in mind going forward.
2. Yes, men care primarily about looks. Therefore, my girls should use those looks to get a high-value man before looks and fertility fade.
3. Their "profession" is only relevant insofar as it allows them to secure a high-value man. If they are sufficiently good looking (and they will be - they won't need any surgery or implants) their husband will not give a damn that they have a "low achievement" career.
4. College is only useful in order to meet men of a similar social class. Don't spend too much money on it or get some idiotic degree that takes a long time and never pays off (e.g., a PhD).

Not a bad troll but slightly heavy handed, and then wheels came off at college part

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Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

That sounds really weird. What straight man cares about "professional advancement" in his woman? We care that you're not stupid and can hold a job, but that's about it on that front.

Are you a dad? Do you have daughters? Do you tell them that no one cares if they achieve anything professionally, that all that's important is how big their butts get? if you really feel that's true, are you saving money to send them to college? Seems like you might regard that as a waste of money -- perhaps in your mind it would be better to sign them up for one of those pole dancing fitness classes instead.Are you going to have them all get plastic surgery and implants in their teens?

They are not ready for that conversation yet. But someday, at perhaps age 20, I will tell them:
1. They are now as good looking as they're ever going to be. It is all downhill from there. Keep that in mind going forward.
2. Yes, men care primarily about looks. Therefore, my girls should use those looks to get a high-value man before looks and fertility fade.
3. Their "profession" is only relevant insofar as it allows them to secure a high-value man. If they are sufficiently good looking (and they will be - they won't need any surgery or implants) their husband will not give a damn that they have a "low achievement" career.
4. College is only useful in order to meet men of a similar social class. Don't spend too much money on it or get some idiotic degree that takes a long time and never pays off (e.g., a PhD).

Not a bad troll but slightly heavy handed, and then wheels came off at college part

“my girls should use their looks to get a high-value man”

My ex best friend was told that by her father. She was gorgeous but never had a true personality nor was able to maintain close friendships. You are a great role model. Good luck with that.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

That sounds really weird. What straight man cares about "professional advancement" in his woman? We care that you're not stupid and can hold a job, but that's about it on that front.

Are you a dad? Do you have daughters? Do you tell them that no one cares if they achieve anything professionally, that all that's important is how big their butts get? if you really feel that's true, are you saving money to send them to college? Seems like you might regard that as a waste of money -- perhaps in your mind it would be better to sign them up for one of those pole dancing fitness classes instead.Are you going to have them all get plastic surgery and implants in their teens?

They are not ready for that conversation yet. But someday, at perhaps age 20, I will tell them:
1. They are now as good looking as they're ever going to be. It is all downhill from there. Keep that in mind going forward.
2. Yes, men care primarily about looks. Therefore, my girls should use those looks to get a high-value man before looks and fertility fade.
3. Their "profession" is only relevant insofar as it allows them to secure a high-value man. If they are sufficiently good looking (and they will be - they won't need any surgery or implants) their husband will not give a damn that they have a "low achievement" career.
4. College is only useful in order to meet men of a similar social class. Don't spend too much money on it or get some idiotic degree that takes a long time and never pays off (e.g., a PhD).

How said if this is true. If you aren’t a troll, you are a terrible father. My dad ( a great dad) taught my sisters and I that education comes first. It’s wonderful to meet, marry, and have kids, but you never want to be dependent on a man becaomes anything can happen - job loss, divorce, death, etc. my dad also taught us what kind of a man to pick - one with integrity, a good provider, had character and is not a character, etc.

You can spin it in whatever place you live, but men do care about a woman’s education. I know several men who would not date a woman unless she was educated. Looks do matter to everyone, but you can’t a woman with good looks and educated is desirable. You can only use looks to a certain extent. Most men even prefer someone smart and average instead of dumb and hot. It’s really deplorable a father would teach his daughters that their looks and what they can do for men is the only reason for their being.

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Anonymous wrote:No idea. But my DH volunteers at the school about 2xs a year all day and always come home and says how grateful he is that I keep in shape and put effort into my appearance. He's always taken aback by the moms he sees at the school and how dumpy they are.

Sounds like you're perfect for each other.

No kidding. I'd be incredibly disappointed if my husband came home and said such mean spirited things in the guise of propping me up.

Guise? What's he hiding? Propping up? He lied in an attempt to elevate her self worth?

What a terrible view you have. The man complimented his wife and thanked her for taking pride in her appearance as well as her fitness.

I think the poster hit a tender spot with the PTA.

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^ no he didn't , at least that's not all he did. You can compliment someone and tell them that they look good without criticizing someone else.

For example, I praise my child all the time. I tell him when he's doing good work and being a good citizen or when he was particularly nice to the doc. And I can manage to do that without saying, " and I'm so grateful for you compared to all those other lazy slobs of kids."

I would expect my husband to do the same for me, as I do for him and my child

But then again, people like you always fall back on the"must have hit a sore spot" when you have no real argument.

So enjoy going through life so insecure and unhappy that compliments that stem from the expense of criticism aimed at others is the best you can do.

Or all you'll settle for

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You can spin it in whatever place you live, but men do care about a woman’s education. I know several men who would not date a woman unless she was educated. Looks do matter to everyone, but you can’t a woman with good looks and educated is desirable. You can only use looks to a certain extent. Most men even prefer someone smart and average instead of dumb and hot. It’s really deplorable a father would teach his daughters that their looks and what they can do for men is the only reason for their being.

Intelligent enough, educated enough women are a dime a dozen in this area. A graduate degree doesn't make a woman good relationship material. It doesn't hurt, but that goes on her resume for job interviews.

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You can spin it in whatever place you live, but men do care about a woman’s education. I know several men who would not date a woman unless she was educated. Looks do matter to everyone, but you can’t a woman with good looks and educated is desirable. You can only use looks to a certain extent. Most men even prefer someone smart and average instead of dumb and hot. It’s really deplorable a father would teach his daughters that their looks and what they can do for men is the only reason for their being.

Intelligent enough, educated enough women are a dime a dozen in this area. A graduate degree doesn't make a woman good relationship material. It doesn't hurt, but that goes on her resume for job interviews.

YES, but I don't women need to be all that attractive either. Just attractive enough. Tons of overweight women in this area are married and in good relationships. With your theory, shouldn't they be divorced. Weight gain may be a deal breaker for you, but obviously it's not for many other men.

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What?

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Anonymous wrote:No. My wife is super cute like girl next door. She keeps her petite body in shape. She has a prestigious job as a CRNA and makes close to $200,000/year. She is a nympho and have some form of sex almost everyday. She is very neat and keeps a clean home. She is loving, kind hearted, and just an incredible person. Bonus is that my mom loves her.

I don't doubt it. Nurses are sluts.

What a broad generalization. My wife isn’t a slut. You can like sexy and not be a slut. I’m on her fifth guy. I’ve had dozens of women so I’m the slut.

I've got news for you buddy. You aren't her fifth. Probably her 15th. They always lie about the number. Always.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

That sounds really weird. What straight man cares about "professional advancement" in his woman? We care that you're not stupid and can hold a job, but that's about it on that front.

Are you a dad? Do you have daughters? Do you tell them that no one cares if they achieve anything professionally, that all that's important is how big their butts get? if you really feel that's true, are you saving money to send them to college? Seems like you might regard that as a waste of money -- perhaps in your mind it would be better to sign them up for one of those pole dancing fitness classes instead.Are you going to have them all get plastic surgery and implants in their teens?

They are not ready for that conversation yet. But someday, at perhaps age 20, I will tell them:
1. They are now as good looking as they're ever going to be. It is all downhill from there. Keep that in mind going forward.
2. Yes, men care primarily about looks. Therefore, my girls should use those looks to get a high-value man before looks and fertility fade.
3. Their "profession" is only relevant insofar as it allows them to secure a high-value man. If they are sufficiently good looking (and they will be - they won't need any surgery or implants) their husband will not give a damn that they have a "low achievement" career.
4. College is only useful in order to meet men of a similar social class. Don't spend too much money on it or get some idiotic degree that takes a long time and never pays off (e.g., a PhD).

How said if this is true. If you aren’t a troll, you are a terrible father. My dad ( a great dad) taught my sisters and I that education comes first. It’s wonderful to meet, marry, and have kids, but you never want to be dependent on a man becaomes anything can happen - job loss, divorce, death, etc. my dad also taught us what kind of a man to pick - one with integrity, a good provider, had character and is not a character, etc.

You can spin it in whatever place you live, but men do care about a woman’s education. I know several men who would not date a woman unless she was educated. Looks do matter to everyone, but you can’t a woman with good looks and educated is desirable. You can only use looks to a certain extent. Most men even prefer someone smart and average instead of dumb and hot. It’s really deplorable a father would teach his daughters that their looks and what they can do for men is the only reason for their being.

Men only care about a woman's education if she is sufficiently good looking. If she doesn't make it over the looks bar, he won't care how well educated she is.

Average looking, went to Big State University >>> Ugly Beast with Ivy Degree

"I know several men who would not date a woman unless she was educated." <-- What those men are really looking for in those "educated" women is social class. They don't care about her actual intelligence or what she studied so much as the fact that she is not a prole.

"Most men even prefer someone smart and average instead of dumb and hot." <-- prefer for what? They'll certainly prefer to bang the hot one. As for who they'll marry, they'll prefer "hotter with mundane education" over "less hot with great education", all other things being equal.

"It’s really deplorable a father would teach his daughters that their looks and what they can do for men is the only reason for their being." <-- it's really deplorable that you think I said that. Your reading comprehension is poor for someone who claims to value education.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

That sounds really weird. What straight man cares about "professional advancement" in his woman? We care that you're not stupid and can hold a job, but that's about it on that front.

Are you a dad? Do you have daughters? Do you tell them that no one cares if they achieve anything professionally, that all that's important is how big their butts get? if you really feel that's true, are you saving money to send them to college? Seems like you might regard that as a waste of money -- perhaps in your mind it would be better to sign them up for one of those pole dancing fitness classes instead.Are you going to have them all get plastic surgery and implants in their teens?

They are not ready for that conversation yet. But someday, at perhaps age 20, I will tell them:
1. They are now as good looking as they're ever going to be. It is all downhill from there. Keep that in mind going forward.
2. Yes, men care primarily about looks. Therefore, my girls should use those looks to get a high-value man before looks and fertility fade.
3. Their "profession" is only relevant insofar as it allows them to secure a high-value man. If they are sufficiently good looking (and they will be - they won't need any surgery or implants) their husband will not give a damn that they have a "low achievement" career.
4. College is only useful in order to meet men of a similar social class. Don't spend too much money on it or get some idiotic degree that takes a long time and never pays off (e.g., a PhD).

Not a bad troll but slightly heavy handed, and then wheels came off at college part

“my girls should use their looks to get a high-value man”

My ex best friend was told that by her father. She was gorgeous but never had a true personality nor was able to maintain close friendships. You are a great role model. Good luck with that.

LOL, if she "never had a true personality" (whatever that means) or the ability to maintain friendships, then it's even more important than ever that she should use her looks to get a man.

My daughters have plenty of personality and friends, so no worries on that front.

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As for who they'll marry, they'll prefer "hotter with mundane education" over "less hot with great education", all other things being equal.

Yup.

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Girls should go to college to get an MRS, not a PHD.