Husbands: do you secretly compare your wife to other wives?

[Anonymous]

Does a Bear $hit in the Woods??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I praise her all the time. I also purposely sometimes mention women I work with, how much I like talking to them, how other guys make comments about how good they look, etc.

This balance lets her know who much I am attracted to her but also keeps her on her toes knowing that I find other women attractive too.

You're doing it wrong. Telling her you're attracted to other women is lame and try-hard.

On the other hand, if you're attractive enough that when you're out in public, other women spontaneously show interest in you... that will keep your wife on her toes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

Not BS. If you were fat or denying him sex, I guarantee you he'd care about that much, much more than your "professional advancement". But he wouldn't stop constantly complaining, it would just be about the lack of sex instead.

To be honest, I have never met a man who says anything about his wife's "professional advancement".

Totally agree. I don’t know any happily married men I work with talking about professional attainment of their wives. I call troll doing some reverse psychology.

NP. That's totally not my experience. What kind of job do you work in? In my workplaces I have heard many men over the years talk about the professional achievements of their wives. Often it's actually quite sweet. I don't mean they up and brag, it's casual conversation, but it's clear they are quite proud. I remember a recent conversation in which one husband talked about how he was going to be out because his wife had been nominated for a big award and he was clearly just pleased as punch. He was joking about how he was going to be the arm candy for the night.

I don't know anything about the detailed state of their marriages, of course, as that would probably veer into inappropriate content, but I've worked in male-dominated, hard-driving environments for years, and absolutely men talk about the achievements of their wives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

Not BS. If you were fat or denying him sex, I guarantee you he'd care about that much, much more than your "professional advancement". But he wouldn't stop constantly complaining, it would just be about the lack of sex instead.

To be honest, I have never met a man who says anything about his wife's "professional advancement".

Totally agree. I don’t know any happily married men I work with talking about professional attainment of their wives. I call troll doing some reverse psychology.

Ditto to this, you beat me to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

Maybe you should start sleeping your way to the top and see how he likes that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

Not BS. If you were fat or denying him sex, I guarantee you he'd care about that much, much more than your "professional advancement". But he wouldn't stop constantly complaining, it would just be about the lack of sex instead.

To be honest, I have never met a man who says anything about his wife's "professional advancement".

Totally agree. I don’t know any happily married men I work with talking about professional attainment of their wives. I call troll doing some reverse psychology.

NP. That's totally not my experience. What kind of job do you work in? In my workplaces I have heard many men over the years talk about the professional achievements of their wives. Often it's actually quite sweet. I don't mean they up and brag, it's casual conversation, but it's clear they are quite proud. I remember a recent conversation in which one husband talked about how he was going to be out because his wife had been nominated for a big award and he was clearly just pleased as punch. He was joking about how he was going to be the arm candy for the night.

I don't know anything about the detailed state of their marriages, of course, as that would probably veer into inappropriate content, but I've worked in male-dominated, hard-driving environments for years, and absolutely men talk about the achievements of their wives.

So charming! (I’m PP with the proud husband)

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

NP. That's totally not my experience. What kind of job do you work in? In my workplaces I have heard many men over the years talk about the professional achievements of their wives. Often it's actually quite sweet. I don't mean they up and brag, it's casual conversation, but it's clear they are quite proud. I remember a recent conversation in which one husband talked about how he was going to be out because his wife had been nominated for a big award and he was clearly just pleased as punch. He was joking about how he was going to be the arm candy for the night.

I don't know anything about the detailed state of their marriages, of course, as that would probably veer into inappropriate content, but I've worked in male-dominated, hard-driving environments for years, and absolutely men talk about the achievements of their wives.

LOVE it. I feel the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

Not BS. If you were fat or denying him sex, I guarantee you he'd care about that much, much more than your "professional advancement". But he wouldn't stop constantly complaining, it would just be about the lack of sex instead.

To be honest, I have never met a man who says anything about his wife's "professional advancement".

Totally agree. I don’t know any happily married men I work with talking about professional attainment of their wives. I call troll doing some reverse psychology.

My husband is very proud of my professional accomplishments. That said, I keep myself in good shape and have sex pretty much whenever he wants. If he had to give something up, it would no doubt be my job before looks/sex. Just a deeply & perhaps fundamental gender difference I guess...

[Anonymous]

Only when he’s trying to get me to be cool with another golf round with his buddy who’s wife...

[Anonymous]

I never compare her. But I sure want to F a few of the other moms at the preschool.

[Anonymous]

I compare mine to a porn star, as in how many dudes are banging her at any given moment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is very proud of my professional accomplishments. That said, I keep myself in good shape and have sex pretty much whenever he wants. If he had to give something up, it would no doubt be my job before looks/sex. Just a deeply & perhaps fundamental gender difference I guess...

Um, yes. A well documented gender difference. Is this the least bit surprising? Why don't they teach the famous "His Needs, Her Needs" in school. Or at least do a test before marriage (kind of like a driver's test)

Men
1. Sexual fulfillment
2. Recreational companionship
3. Physical attractiveness
4. Domestic support
5. Admiration


Women
1. Attentive affection (non sexual)
2. Intimate convesration
3. Trust, honestly, openness
4. Financial support
5. Family commitment

[Anonymous]

Before we started dating, my husband secretly compared everyone else to me, but I was married at the time, so he thought I was unattainable. I left my husband and he got up the courage to call me. He didn't even date anyone for almost 2 years before we started dating, because apparently no one was me, and therefore he had no interest in anyone else. We've been together for almost 9 years now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband tells me all the time how proud he is of me relative to other wives especially when I score big professional wins.

If you were fat or denying him sex he wouldn't give a damn about your "professional wins".

I call BS. No matter how in shape I get or how much we have sex, my DH constantly complains I’m not as professionally advanced as him. No sh*t I’m not, he’s almost 10 years older than me.

That's OK. I paid all of my children's college tuition out of my large earnings, but I still get asked why I don't look like the lady across the street who doesn't work and spends all her time at the gym.