Husbands: do you secretly compare your wife to other wives?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Notice differences? Sure. Compare? No.

I also NEVER fantasize about another women while we are being intimate even if there are others present.

There are "others present" while you are being intimate with your wife?

On occasion, in the past, there have been.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and my husband has definitely mentioned some of my professional successes to his co-workers. He is also very successful, but he is very proud of what I've attained.

Again, get fat and stop having sex with him, and see if he still cares about your professional success.

I feel really sorry for you. You seem to think that every quality a women possesses matters 1% and how fat she is and how often she lays you matters 99%. That's a sad way to think about your spouse.

You seem to think that men's needs should be different from men's actual needs. That's sad for you to be in a relationship and not respect your partner's needs. Did you see the PP listing from the 20 year old book His-Needs, Her-Needs? Well guess what: it's absolutely true! Sorry if this makes you mad. If you really want a partner who shares the same needs as you, maybe consider switching teams.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and my husband has definitely mentioned some of my professional successes to his co-workers. He is also very successful, but he is very proud of what I've attained.

Again, get fat and stop having sex with him, and see if he still cares about your professional success.

I feel really sorry for you. You seem to think that every quality a women possesses matters 1% and how fat she is and how often she lays you matters 99%. That's a sad way to think about your spouse.

"Everything else" might be 10% of it, not 1%, but I assure you I am not the only man in the world who thinks that a fat wife or one who denies him sex would overwhelm every other positive attribute she has. Heck, it's not even men who do this. You can find plenty of threads on DCUM along the lines of "my husband is fat and I don't want to have sex with him, so I am miserable" and "my husband won't have sex with me, so I am miserable".

I have plenty of friends who can provide companionship, and whose professional success I can admire. I don't need a wife for that. If the wife lets herself go, or refuses sex, then all the "other good stuff" simply doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and my husband has definitely mentioned some of my professional successes to his co-workers. He is also very successful, but he is very proud of what I've attained.

Again, get fat and stop having sex with him, and see if he still cares about your professional success.

I feel really sorry for you. You seem to think that every quality a women possesses matters 1% and how fat she is and how often she lays you matters 99%. That's a sad way to think about your spouse.

"Everything else" might be 10% of it, not 1%, but I assure you I am not the only man in the world who thinks that a fat wife or one who denies him sex would overwhelm every other positive attribute she has. Heck, it's not even men who do this. You can find plenty of threads on DCUM along the lines of "my husband is fat and I don't want to have sex with him, so I am miserable" and "my husband won't have sex with me, so I am miserable".

I have plenty of friends who can provide companionship, and whose professional success I can admire. I don't need a wife for that. If the wife lets herself go, or refuses sex, then all the "other good stuff" simply doesn't matter.

So, if she got into a car accident and was debilitated to the point she couldn't have sex for a year or so, and the medication she was taking made her fat, you'd cheat or divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I do. Married seven years now. I compare my wife to many women I meet. We don't have the greatest marriage. We see many things differently and often find we have nothing in common anymore. I compare her to associates and friends of mine whom I know I'd be happier with.

She also doesn't take care of her body. When we met she was 120lb. Now she's 150. We joined a high end gym for $220 a month for two years (located six blocks from our home) and she went less than 20 times. What a waste.

She got fat because she doesn't love you anymore and food is her happy place. I don't blame her. You're worried over 30 lbs? Man, I gained 70lbs over 15 yrs and we're still going at it like rabbits. It's not about the weight. You guys can't stand each other.

[Anonymous]

I have never compared my wife to other wives. I don't even think I've made mental comparisons. She, however, has shared her thoughts about how I stack up to other husbands in terms of my career and earnings. I don't like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never compared my wife to other wives. I don't even think I've made mental comparisons. She, however, has shared her thoughts about how I stack up to other husbands in terms of my career and earnings. I don't like that.

Well I think you're just swell, and I'm proud of how hard you work, and I think we'd have a great life together. So when you're ready to trade up, let me know. I'll be waiting for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not attempting to be snarky, seeing the other thread made me genuinely curious about this.

I have just polled my dh on this provided list in your thread to see if I live up to expectations:

Men :

1. Sexual fulfillment
2. Recreational companionship
3. Physical attractiveness
4. Domestic support
5. Admiration

He blew into his finger-gun, as if he won a gun fight and I was the prize. So, even if he does compare me to other wives, the state of the Johnsons is strong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and my husband has definitely mentioned some of my professional successes to his co-workers. He is also very successful, but he is very proud of what I've attained.

Again, get fat and stop having sex with him, and see if he still cares about your professional success.

I feel really sorry for you. You seem to think that every quality a women possesses matters 1% and how fat she is and how often she lays you matters 99%. That's a sad way to think about your spouse.

"Everything else" might be 10% of it, not 1%, but I assure you I am not the only man in the world who thinks that a fat wife or one who denies him sex would overwhelm every other positive attribute she has. Heck, it's not even men who do this. You can find plenty of threads on DCUM along the lines of "my husband is fat and I don't want to have sex with him, so I am miserable" and "my husband won't have sex with me, so I am miserable".

I have plenty of friends who can provide companionship, and whose professional success I can admire. I don't need a wife for that. If the wife lets herself go, or refuses sex, then all the "other good stuff" simply doesn't matter.

So, if she got into a car accident and was debilitated to the point she couldn't have sex for a year or so, and the medication she was taking made her fat, you'd cheat or divorce?

Of course not.

But when it is a CHOICE which is the case with 99% of the sexless DCUM females after having a child, then dump her ass

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and my husband has definitely mentioned some of my professional successes to his co-workers. He is also very successful, but he is very proud of what I've attained.

Again, get fat and stop having sex with him, and see if he still cares about your professional success.

I feel really sorry for you. You seem to think that every quality a women possesses matters 1% and how fat she is and how often she lays you matters 99%. That's a sad way to think about your spouse.

"Everything else" might be 10% of it, not 1%, but I assure you I am not the only man in the world who thinks that a fat wife or one who denies him sex would overwhelm every other positive attribute she has. Heck, it's not even men who do this. You can find plenty of threads on DCUM along the lines of "my husband is fat and I don't want to have sex with him, so I am miserable" and "my husband won't have sex with me, so I am miserable".

I have plenty of friends who can provide companionship, and whose professional success I can admire. I don't need a wife for that. If the wife lets herself go, or refuses sex, then all the "other good stuff" simply doesn't matter.

So, if she got into a car accident and was debilitated to the point she couldn't have sex for a year or so, and the medication she was taking made her fat, you'd cheat or divorce?

Of course not.

But when it is a CHOICE which is the case with 99% of the sexless DCUM females after having a child, then dump her ass

Her big fat ass after denying her HUSBAND for years. Love them cats

[Anonymous]

My DH compares me openly with the wives of his friends and is ever thankful that he has me. In fact, he is the confidante of many of his friends who are having marital troubles and his appreciation of me has grown because of that.

Our priorities match -

1) Loyalty towards each other, partnership, putting family and children first
2) Sexual intimacy and companionship, affection
3) Intellectual compatibility and sense of humor
4) Comfortable with each following their own interests, hobbies.
5) Social, economic, political, moral and religious compatibility.

We are sexually matched and that has been a blessing for both of us.

[Anonymous]

I think all men do to varying degrees whether it be looks or one of many dimensions. Are there wives "hotter" than my wife? Sure. Is there any other wife I'd prefer over mine. Absolutely not!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and my husband has definitely mentioned some of my professional successes to his co-workers. He is also very successful, but he is very proud of what I've attained.

Again, get fat and stop having sex with him, and see if he still cares about your professional success.

I feel really sorry for you. You seem to think that every quality a women possesses matters 1% and how fat she is and how often she lays you matters 99%. That's a sad way to think about your spouse.

"Everything else" might be 10% of it, not 1%, but I assure you I am not the only man in the world who thinks that a fat wife or one who denies him sex would overwhelm every other positive attribute she has. Heck, it's not even men who do this. You can find plenty of threads on DCUM along the lines of "my husband is fat and I don't want to have sex with him, so I am miserable" and "my husband won't have sex with me, so I am miserable".

I have plenty of friends who can provide companionship, and whose professional success I can admire. I don't need a wife for that. If the wife lets herself go, or refuses sex, then all the "other good stuff" simply doesn't matter.

Jeez, projecting much? Just because you are a douchebag doesn't mean all men are same. How do you explain all the happy couples with heavier wives? I see tons of overweight women with wedding rings every day. Many of them are in happy marriages. Some men are unhappy with extra weight, other men accept it as a part of growing old together.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I do. Married seven years now. I compare my wife to many women I meet. We don't have the greatest marriage. We see many things differently and often find we have nothing in common anymore. I compare her to associates and friends of mine whom I know I'd be happier with.

She also doesn't take care of her body. When we met she was 120lb. Now she's 150. We joined a high end gym for $220 a month for two years (located six blocks from our home) and she went less than 20 times. What a waste.

She got fat because she doesn't love you anymore and food is her happy place. I don't blame her. You're worried over 30 lbs? Man, I gained 70lbs over 15 yrs and we're still going at it like rabbits. It's not about the weight. You guys can't stand each other.

she does not care about you . you are probably nice to her stupid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and my husband has definitely mentioned some of my professional successes to his co-workers. He is also very successful, but he is very proud of what I've attained.

Again, get fat and stop having sex with him, and see if he still cares about your professional success.

I feel really sorry for you. You seem to think that every quality a women possesses matters 1% and how fat she is and how often she lays you matters 99%. That's a sad way to think about your spouse.

"Everything else" might be 10% of it, not 1%, but I assure you I am not the only man in the world who thinks that a fat wife or one who denies him sex would overwhelm every other positive attribute she has. Heck, it's not even men who do this. You can find plenty of threads on DCUM along the lines of "my husband is fat and I don't want to have sex with him, so I am miserable" and "my husband won't have sex with me, so I am miserable".

I have plenty of friends who can provide companionship, and whose professional success I can admire. I don't need a wife for that. If the wife lets herself go, or refuses sex, then all the "other good stuff" simply doesn't matter.

Jeez, projecting much? Just because you are a douchebag doesn't mean all men are same. How do you explain all the happy couples with heavier wives? I see tons of overweight women with wedding rings every day. Many of them are in happy marriages. Some men are unhappy with extra weight, other men accept it as a part of growing old together.

they enjoy sex that is why they have happy marriages