My daughter got beat up for bullying another child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am shocked at how many parents are advocating physical violence. Apart from it not being very smart, it is not the right way to handle any situation. It tells me that the other child is equally at fault - if not more. OP's child is at fault, too - but physical violence is a whole new can of worms.

Physical violence is better than emotional violence. Emotional violence has no outlet and never ends. The bullied girl will still feel hurt and alone years later. After a punch is thrown, people forget about the cause of the fight relatively quickly. It's much healthier.

[Anonymous]

What?????

I am incensed on the victim's behalf - not only did the counselor not nip this in the bud, but the victim is being punished for finally taking matters into her own hands when adults around did next to nothing????

As regards your DD, no sympathy whatsoever. Be as harsh with her as you possibly can. There is no excuse for this in middle school.

But I hope to goodness you are a troll, OP.

[Anonymous]

Sorry but she got what she deserved! And it's not a silly prank to humiliate and ruin someone's lunch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not excusing what my daughter did at all. She seems very apologetic though. Earlier she was crying while talking to me about the situation. She told me she doesn't want to go back to school. Idk if she's embarrassed or scared but hearing that hurts.

-OP

I would have your daughter write an apologetic letter and deliver it to the girl she has been tormenting.

NO please don't! I've been in the other end, just quietly stay away from me! MS will be over in no time!

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not excusing what my daughter did at all. She seems very apologetic though. Earlier she was crying while talking to me about the situation. She told me she doesn't want to go back to school. Idk if she's embarrassed or scared but hearing that hurts.

-OP

Of course doesn't want to go back to school. For once, she's the one who feels embarrassed or humiliated instead of the one inflicting that emotion on someone else. She should have to go back to school.

+1 And honestly it makes me happy to hear that the girl stood up for herself!

[Anonymous]

My daughter was crying about her eye, she's whining that it needs to be gone before she goes back to school. Does anyone know how to heal them fast. I don't want her to get teased. I know it's easy to say she deserves it when that's not your child going through it. She's still very young and I know she's hurt physically and emotionally.

-OP

[Anonymous]

This thread gives me hope for the future. Except for the suspensions which I think shouldn't have happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter was crying about her eye, she's whining that it needs to be gone before she goes back to school. Does anyone know how to heal them fast. I don't want her to get teased. I know it's easy to say she deserves it when that's not your child going through it. She's still very young and I know she's hurt physically and emotionally.

-OP

You must be a troll. No one can be this oblivious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both girls were suspended. The girl she bullied got a longer suspension however, due to the fact that my daughter was badly bruised, and the other child was physically unharmed.

-OP

Good for the girl who was bullied! In hope she beat the living $&it out of your bullying POS brat. How could anyone think pouring juice on someone else's lunch was just a silly prank. I hope you and your sociopath
daughter learned a lesson.

[Anonymous]

My son was bullied by a group of kids in sixth grade.

By the time he told it had been going on for months. Bullies are sneaky, especially when it is a group of them.

He finally told after they started stealing and destroying his lunch, just like OPs daughter. He no longer wanted to eat or to even go to school (and he had previously loved school and these kids who used to be his friends before the head jock found them).

OP, your daughter's black eye will heal. So will her bruised pride.

But these emotional scars on the other girl will never leave her. My son's bullying experience is with him years later. It taints ever single social interaction he has. Prior to the bullying, he was a confident, outgoing kid who was very secure in himself. Now he is an insecure introvert who puts a wall around himself and lets very few people in. When normal friend joking occurs, he reacts defensively, always waiting for the bullying to start. It is a terrible consequence to what some other kids saw as a "silly prank".

Your focus, your only focus, should be to get your daughter to understand how devastating her treatment of another person has been. She needs to learn kindness and empathy, and needs remorse for her evil behavior (not tears of embarrassment for her black eye).

My kid it almost off to college, and that year of bullying changed his life.

Please make sure that your daughter's experience of a bully that gets put in her place be one that changes her life for the better. She owes it to the other girl.

[Anonymous]

Your daughter got what she deserved. Good for the other girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter was crying about her eye, she's whining that it needs to be gone before she goes back to school. Does anyone know how to heal them fast. I don't want her to get teased. I know it's easy to say she deserves it when that's not your child going through it. She's still very young and I know she's hurt physically and emotionally.

-OP

Hello troll!
Nope - the bruise will explain itself through all the colors of the rainbow this week, and possibly next week. Exceedingly well deserved and no, she is not young. She is an out of control adolescent who couldn't take it when she dished it. The only wrong thing about your story is that you reversed the punishments- it's your daughter who should have the greater. By far!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter was crying about her eye, she's whining that it needs to be gone before she goes back to school. Does anyone know how to heal them fast. I don't want her to get teased. I know it's easy to say she deserves it when that's not your child going through it. She's still very young and I know she's hurt physically and emotionally.

-OP

You must be a troll. No one can be this oblivious.

No I'm a single mom, who's doing everything on my own and I've never dealt with something like this before. Any advice is really appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter deserves what she got. I have no sympathy for her. I bet your daughter is crying to manipulate you. She should go cry in her room, away from everyone else.

The only thing OP's daughter is sorry for is that she got caught. Chances are good that the bully will now get bullied by her former friends. Now, she will see how finny it is to have juice poured on her food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter was crying about her eye, she's whining that it needs to be gone before she goes back to school. Does anyone know how to heal them fast. I don't want her to get teased. I know it's easy to say she deserves it when that's not your child going through it. She's still very young and I know she's hurt physically and emotionally.

-OP

You must be a troll. No one can be this oblivious.

You can’t be this naive to think it a troll post.