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My daughter got beat up for bullying another child
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Anonymous
| My 13 year old daughter has been bullying another girl in her class for awhile apparently. The other child finally snapped and beat up my daughter during lunch at school. The day of the incident, my daughter had been dared by her friends to pour juice on the other girl's lunch. My daughter told me it was just supposed to be a silly prank, but when I spoke with the school counselor, she informed me the girl had made other complaints about my daughter bullying her. I'm furious because my child is physically hurt. She came home with a black eye among other bruises. But I'm also upset that she was bullying another girl. She has been suspended for a week from school. I'm torn between sympathizing with my daughter because she's hurt and been crying a lot, but I also want to be stern and let her know bullying isn't tolerated. How should I handle this situation and prevent it from happening again? |
Anonymous
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If there have been other complaints, the guidance counselor is at fault for not letting you know. You should have been involved long ago.
You should not believe your daughter that pouring juice on her food is a "silly prank." Your daughter seems like a mean girl, and you should work to address that. It's not okay that she got hurt. Both girls should have consequences. However, your daughter needs to change her behavior. And she should realize that if she treats others badly, over and over again,some people may react physically. -middle school teacher |
Anonymous
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Both girls were suspended. The girl she bullied got a longer suspension however, due to the fact that my daughter was badly bruised, and the other child was physically unharmed.
-OP |
Anonymous
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Natural consequences. Picking on someone and eventually you might get popped. Good for the other kid.
Counseling is probably in order. I'd want to know where she got the idea that this behavior was OK. |
Anonymous
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I think that getting the crap beat out of you by the person you've victimized is a pretty good lesson. I wouldn't belabor this...she's probably well aware of her terrible behavior and feels embarrassed.
When you do talk about it, just try to get closer to the "why" about what she did. |
Anonymous
Good. Let your daughter learn her lesson. I'm glad the other girl stood up for herself, finally. I do agree that someone should have notified you if there was a complaint. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| OP, I have five grown kids. 3 boys and 2 girls. None have ever been in any kind of fight. None have ever been accused of bullying. I've never been told by any teacher that my child has been unkind. I'm far, far from a perfect parent. But I did teach my children to be kind. Seems like you need to own a good part of this. I just don't have much sympathy for mean kids or for their parents. If I had my way, your daughter wouldn't be allowed back at school at all. You can pay for private school. |
Anonymous
| What's going on at home that makes your daughter behave this way? |
Anonymous
100% agree. I applaud the other girl; if she was my child I would be proud of her. Your daughter is a jerk and a bully and somehow has been allowed to get away with terrorizing someone else. There should be ZERO sympathy for her and she should be punished for bullying by YOU. |
Anonymous
| I think this should have ended without a suspension. Seems like everyone learned their lesson. Your daughter should know that people sometimes commit suicide due to bullying and it's not a small thing. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like a good lesson and one a long time comin. The girl had enough of your kid's sh*t and I'm proud of her. Wish I had had the courage to stand up to my bullies. I find it terrible that she was suspended longer when your kid has been tormenting her for what sounds like a long time. Hopefully your brat will cut the mean girl crap now. |
Anonymous
Is this really the first time you have heard about this? That would bother me if true. |
Anonymous
| Please talk to your kids about "silly pranks." It is only a prank if you are friends with the "victim" and you know they will take like a joke. In any other situation is is almost never funny to the humiliated child, no matter what brave face they put on for the crowd. |
Anonymous
| Honestly, I know you are feeling sorry for her because she is crying and all, but she got what she deserved. I would not offer too much sympathy. In fact I would get her books about bullying and make her read them during her suspension. |