My daughter got beat up for bullying another child

[Anonymous]

The poor girl who was the victim of OPs daughter should not have been suspended, especially if she complained of bullying before.

Only OPs daughter should have received a suspension.

[Anonymous]

You need to make sure that your daughter and other kids don't continue to bully the girl.

It wasn't a prank and you shouldn't feel sorry for your child. You should be concentrating on how to figure out how to change your daughter's horrible behavior.

hopefully she learned a lesson. Make her go to school with the black eye.

[Anonymous]

1723 here. I also agree that the bullied girl shouldn't have been suspended.

[Anonymous]

You're daughter deserved it and you should tell her as much. None of your posts indicate that you understand the gravity of the situation.

[Anonymous]

No, it means that OP's daughter may have pushed the other girl so far that the other girl felt she has no choice but to stand up for herself. The other girl is the bigger victim, IMO.

OP, what will you have your daughter do during her week of suspension?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, it means that OP's daughter may have pushed the other girl so far that the other girl felt she has no choice but to stand up for herself. The other girl is the bigger victim, IMO.

OP, what will you have your daughter do during her week of suspension?

But what if there was not bullying in the past? The school did not see fit to tell OP - so something is amiss here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'd be interested to know what your daughter and her friends are saying to each other about the incident. Bullies need people around them to support (or encourage) that type of behavior. are her friends telling your daughter it's not fair what happened to her? Are they forming a mob-like mentality in support of your daughter and against the other girl? What are your daughter's friends saying about all this?

She's getting that from her mom, who is more concerned that her bully child is sad than concerned about the welfare of the other child. I hope this is a troll, because goodness gracious.

They both seem like sociopaths.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, it means that OP's daughter may have pushed the other girl so far that the other girl felt she has no choice but to stand up for herself. The other girl is the bigger victim, IMO.

OP, what will you have your daughter do during her week of suspension?

But what if there was not bullying in the past? The school did not see fit to tell OP - so something is amiss here.

OP's kid poured juice on the girl's lunch and admitted it. Your read of this situation is that it was not a continuing pattern of behavior, even though the school said the girl has been complaining about OP's daughter, but rather a one-off attack on a random kid (which OP's daughter thinks is a fun/funny prank)? That makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have five grown kids. 3 boys and 2 girls. None have ever been in any kind of fight. None have ever been accused of bullying. I've never been told by any teacher that my child has been unkind. I'm far, far from a perfect parent. But I did teach my children to be kind. Seems like you need to own a good part of this. I just don't have much sympathy for mean kids or for their parents. If I had my way, your daughter wouldn't be allowed back at school at all. You can pay for private school.

Why do you think this is a helpful post to OP? Makes me wonder if you are just unaware of what your kids did, because this post is unaware.

[Anonymous]

Your daughter deserves what she got. I have no sympathy for her. I bet your daughter is crying to manipulate you. She should go cry in her room, away from everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The poor girl who was the victim of OPs daughter should not have been suspended, especially if she complained of bullying before.

Only OPs daughter should have received a suspension.

Yes. The school is wrong for suspending both children. The girl did the right thing by telling school officials, but they did not take the actions necessary to stop OP's daughter's behavior. How many times should the other child have to endure OP's daughter "silly pranks" before she stood up for herself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not excusing what my daughter did at all. She seems very apologetic though. Earlier she was crying while talking to me about the situation. She told me she doesn't want to go back to school. Idk if she's embarrassed or scared but hearing that hurts.

-OP

I would have your daughter write an apologetic letter and deliver it to the girl she has been tormenting.

NO please don't! I've been in the other end, just quietly stay away from me! MS will be over in no time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am shocked at how many parents are advocating physical violence. Apart from it not being very smart, it is not the right way to handle any situation. It tells me that the other child is equally at fault - if not more. OP's child is at fault, too - but physical violence is a whole new can of worms.

I don't see anyone advocating physical violence. What happened here is that OP victimized a girl repeatedly. The girl did the right thing - went to the adults so it could be handled. The adults completely and totally failed her but doing nothing. The victim finally couldn't take it. What was she to do? That is what people are saying. I think people would rather that the adults not have failed the victim so it didn't get to this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, it means that OP's daughter may have pushed the other girl so far that the other girl felt she has no choice but to stand up for herself. The other girl is the bigger victim, IMO.

OP, what will you have your daughter do during her week of suspension?

But what if there was not bullying in the past? The school did not see fit to tell OP - so something is amiss here.

OP started her post by saying her daughter had apparently been bullying the other girl long enough that the other girl had complained about it. So I assume it had happened before. If there was not bullying before, then OP's scenario would be different and so would my reaction.

OP, to answer your question, you and your daughter should concentrate on her behavior and she can change it. You both have a wake up call here. Pay attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not excusing what my daughter did at all. She seems very apologetic though. Earlier she was crying while talking to me about the situation. She told me she doesn't want to go back to school. Idk if she's embarrassed or scared but hearing that hurts.

-OP

Yeah you are.

You absolutely are. Which makes me think you must be a troll.