Anyone regret becoming a stay at home mom?

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Anonymous wrote:Not if I look at my children.

Children truly are precious.

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Anonymous wrote:^^Such bitter pps. Obviously unhappy with their choices since they need to denigrate those of other women.

Sounds like even with your 'help' your breadwinners career has not been what you expected?

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Anonymous wrote:^^Such bitter pps. Obviously unhappy with their choices since they need to denigrate those of other women.

Sounds like even with your 'help' your breadwinners career has not been what you expected?

Wait- now raising kids isn't help? I guess you don't pay your nanny or daycare as they have no value to you. How lovely for you!

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Anonymous wrote:As long as DH keeps paying the bills, who could possiblly regret retiring at 28! And it's even better than normal retirement because it gets better over time as the kids get more independent and art in school.

Now talk to SAHM who's DH left them or ended up with illness or career setback, They might sing a different song.

But honestly, most SAHM never had that great a career anyway, even the lawyers weren't on track to be partners and would have ended up as some GS lawyer or in-house lackey for a career focused GC.

Oh dear, you certainly have a small circle. Obviously spend too much time hanging around attorneys.

What careers do the SAHMs you know give up?

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Don't really miss the career path that I left - interesting, but not changing the world or anything.

We miss the money. Big time.

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Anonymous wrote:^^Such bitter pps. Obviously unhappy with their choices since they need to denigrate those of other women.

Sounds like even with your 'help' your breadwinners career has not been what you expected?

Wait- now raising kids isn't help? I guess you don't pay your nanny or daycare as they have no value to you. How lovely for you!

Follow along, this was in reference to the PPs Amusing post about *those* girls at law firms who are there to chase a golden ring not a career.

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Anonymous wrote:As long as DH keeps paying the bills, who could possiblly regret retiring at 28! And it's even better than normal retirement because it gets better over time as the kids get more independent and art in school.

Now talk to SAHM who's DH left them or ended up with illness or career setback, They might sing a different song.

But honestly, most SAHM never had that great a career anyway, even the lawyers weren't on track to be partners and would have ended up as some GS lawyer or in-house lackey for a career focused GC.

Oh dear, you certainly have a small circle. Obviously spend too much time hanging around attorneys.

What careers do the SAHMs you know give up?

When your children are you most have not much of a career. By staying home you give a some prospect of a career. Who knows who will make it.
But there are certainly top educated SAHM's out there and even if you aren't top educated you can still make it. Nobody is s fortune teller.

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When you children are young (got cut off)

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Anonymous wrote:As long as DH keeps paying the bills, who could possiblly regret retiring at 28! And it's even better than normal retirement because it gets better over time as the kids get more independent and art in school.

Now talk to SAHM who's DH left them or ended up with illness or career setback, They might sing a different song.

But honestly, most SAHM never had that great a career anyway, even the lawyers weren't on track to be partners and would have ended up as some GS lawyer or in-house lackey for a career focused GC.

Oh dear, you certainly have a small circle. Obviously spend too much time hanging around attorneys.

What careers do the SAHMs you know give up?

When your children are you most have not much of a career. By staying home you give a some prospect of a career. Who knows who will make it.
But there are certainly top educated SAHM's out there and even if you aren't top educated you can still make it. Nobody is s fortune teller.

I'm sorry are you a native english speaker? I literally have no idea what you are saying.

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Anonymous wrote:As long as DH keeps paying the bills, who could possiblly regret retiring at 28! And it's even better than normal retirement because it gets better over time as the kids get more independent and art in school.

Now talk to SAHM who's DH left them or ended up with illness or career setback, They might sing a different song.

But honestly, most SAHM never had that great a career anyway, even the lawyers weren't on track to be partners and would have ended up as some GS lawyer or in-house lackey for a career focused GC.

Oh dear, you certainly have a small circle. Obviously spend too much time hanging around attorneys.

What careers do the SAHMs you know give up?

When your children are you most have not much of a career. By staying home you give a some prospect of a career. Who knows who will make it.
But there are certainly top educated SAHM's out there and even if you aren't top educated you can still make it. Nobody is s fortune teller.

Someone who was a teacher or fell into HR wasn't really on track to wealth. SAHM are mostly self selected and they adjust their career to make it more attractive. Really what careers do your neighboring SAHMs give up. I would love to even meet a journalist or a scientist or something that maybe is hard and rewarding but those type don't tend to look for breadwinner husband types so keep working.

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Journalists and scientists don't look for breadwinner husbands. Hahaha- I absolutely love all of these ridiculous statements these WOH women are making.

I met my husband at 18- he was from a family with a ton less money than mine. We married at 30 and he is a very high earner (not law or medicine, when we married he only had his undergrad, now had MBA).

All of the people I know married because they were in love. This idea that women are preying upon breadwinner men is just funny.

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Anonymous wrote:^^Such bitter pps. Obviously unhappy with their choices since they need to denigrate those of other women.

Sounds like even with your 'help' your breadwinners career has not been what you expected?

Where did you get that? The bitter pps I was referring to were the ones attacking the SAHMS. My DH's career has exceeded our wildest dreams.

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Since OP posted in the Money and Finances forum, I assume she's concerned about the financial ramifications of becoming a sahp. OP, what exactly are your concerns? Are you primary breadwinner or is your salary a significant part of the HH income? Do you have major debt or financial issues that need to be tackled? Do you want to be a sahp for a specific amount of time or indefinitely? Do you want to know how people made work in those scenarios?

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No regrets! It's one of the best decisions I've ever made.

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Anonymous wrote:I fundamentally do not think I am capable of "outsourcing" childcare. Even though mentally and logically I understand that working outside the home is probably a good idea, there is some deeper instinct that doesn't allow me to just drop my kids At daycare 40+ hours a week. I couldn't do it. My job opportunities now aren't great, but they weren't that great five years ago, and they certainly aren't dire either. I'll get a job when it makes sense for our family. In the meantime, I'm here for my kids and my husband and the community and our extended families. No job is more important than my kids. Period.

Oh yeah, right, because WOH moms think that their jobs are so much more important than their kids. They are also never "there" for their family (whatever the hell that means)! Go jump in a lake, troll.

NP here. She is giving her point of view for herself--that doesn't make her a troll. Stop projecting.

The first PP is projecting that the working moms feel their job is more important than their kids. That's the trolling part. Obviously most working moms do so because they feel it is better for their family, not because they value career over kids.

No, she is answering the question for her own situation. She said she'll get a job when it makes sense for her family.

No one asked if anyone thought their job was more important than their kids, PP is the one implicating that working moms are choosing that being a judging troll. You can pretend that wasn't what she was saying but read it again.

I'm the first poster here. I don't understand how it's not choosing work over your kids. It seems pretty clear that most women who work choose to work. Or they build a lifestyle that requires that they work, which is also a choice. I chose to quit and stay home with my kids. My husband and I chose a lifestyle (no private school, less prestigious neighborhood) to support that choice. I think having a parent at home or as the main caregiver is way more important than money.