Is it racist to only date someone of your own race? What about your own religion?

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Anonymous wrote:Holy ridiculous outrage batman. My friend is not a racist at all. I used to "hang out" with an Italian guy that didn't speak a lick of English. He was so sexual and interesting and gorgeous that I was completely addicted. It. Was. Fun. My preference was to marry a Black man and raise Black children. I'm not a racist, am I? That big chip on your shoulder is going to make a bruise. Just because you're the product of an interracial union doesn't make them sacrosanct. Gay marriage makes way more sense to me than interracial relationships. Take that!

Oh yeah forgot to mention...if you're black you gonna be raising black children regardless of what ethnicity your husband is. That's how this country works.

Well not all bi- or multi-racial feel this way. Call Tiger Woods Black and you'll end up with a golf club upside your head.

I tell you what...if Tiger wasn't the amazing young phenom that he was (at age 2 he appeared on the "Mike Douglas Show" and putted with Bob Hope; at age 3 he shot 48 for 9 holes; and at age 5 he was featured in Golf Digest) he wouldn't have been seen as bi- or multi-racial. Don't get it twisted...popularity can provide black people some pretty nice perks (including a coveted "ethnicity pass") but not everybody can be famous can they.

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"And what race is his Mom? Goes to show you that when the Mom is not the minority in the relationship, the kids are screwy when it comes to self-identify"

His mother is Thai. She's a minority as well, so what were you trying to say??

BTW, Tiger's fine with being called black, but he just acknowledges that he is also asian, etc. He never said he wasn't black.

Go to Thailand and he's not seen as black- he is seen as Thai. People take ownership of others with great skills, based on similarities they self-identify.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's racist if someone is unwilling to date outside outside their own race. I think religious preferences are different because rerligioj so heavily impacts your values, traditions, how you want to raise your children, etc.

I'm a liberal Protestant Christian and I knew I did not want to marry an atheist, an evangelical Christian fundamentalist (or any kind of fundamentalist, for that matter), and that I was not willing to raise my children Catholic. Those were dealbreakers for me.

Not racist if you're not attracted to anyone from a particular race....give me a break. you can't help who you're attracted to.

I'm catholic and draw the line at atheist, muslim, hindu and buddhist. open to any other.

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Anonymous wrote:Holy ridiculous outrage batman. My friend is not a racist at all. I used to "hang out" with an Italian guy that didn't speak a lick of English. He was so sexual and interesting and gorgeous that I was completely addicted. It. Was. Fun. My preference was to marry a Black man and raise Black children. I'm not a racist, am I? That big chip on your shoulder is going to make a bruise. Just because you're the product of an interracial union doesn't make them sacrosanct. Gay marriage makes way more sense to me than interracial relationships. Take that!

Oh yeah forgot to mention...if you're black you gonna be raising black children regardless of what ethnicity your husband is. That's how this country works.

Well not all bi- or multi-racial feel this way. Call Tiger Woods Black and you'll end up with a golf club upside your head.

And what race is his Mom? Goes to show you that when the Mom is not the minority in the relationship, the kids are screwy when it comes to self-identify.

How is Thai not a minority in the US?

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I think comparing religion and race is absurd. You choose your religion. Your skin color is something you're born with.

But in general, yes, I do think it's racist to only date someone of your own race. I'm mixed myself so I see the total ridiculousness of classifying people based skin color, as if they're some discernible boundary. Who the hell cares about the level of melanin in your partner? What a weird thing to care about.

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I don't think it is racist to prefer someone of your own race. You are attracted to who ever you are attracted to.

Nor are you NOT racist if you prefer another race. A white man saying that he only like Asian girls does not make him non-racist. He could be racist towards Blacks and Hispanics.

So, as long as you do not think any one is inferior or should be discriminated against in work, education and other social opportunities and made to feel less than yourself, then you are not a racist.

Jerks will be jerks. Racists people will discriminate against other people even if this whole nation turns one color tomorrow.

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Racism doesn't just mean you think another skin color is inferior - it also means you think there's something "different" (you know, other than the degree of melanin they have). There is absolutely no difference, since race is a social construct. We all have our types, but to exclusively only date someone of your race is synonymous with being racist.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm Black and my BFF is Jewish. She will under no circumstance date or marry anyone who isn't Jewish. She said it is imperative to "keep the race" going. I get it.

Another white BFF said that she "loved" screwing her African college classmate but that she would only marry a white guy. I get that also.

Preferences (based on whatever) don't equal racism.

Yes, but she will probably cheat on her spouse because she only married under social conditioning not love. Someone like this is a horrible person. She views black men as sexual beings and not as potential mates. This is one example of liberal racism at its finest. A black person is great to experiment with and use as a sex tool, but not great enough for marriage. What a sick individual. Yes, I'm aware that many white people do this and I find it quite disturbing. "Some" of these folks are the same type of people that seek sexual encounters with black people behind their spouses back. Unfortunately, there is an entire industry and market out there just for these type of racists. I just think to myself, their poor spouse doesn't even have a clue that they fetishized black people. I'm a child of an interracial union and I fully support interracial relationships. What I don't support is white people using minorities as their sex tool, but don't think highly of us to marry.

Holy ridiculous outrage batman. My friend is not a racist at all. I used to "hang out" with an Italian guy that didn't speak a lick of English. He was so sexual and interesting and gorgeous that I was completely addicted. It. Was. Fun. My preference was to marry a Black man and raise Black children. I'm not a racist, am I? That big chip on your shoulder is going to make a bruise. Just because you're the product of an interracial union doesn't make them sacrosanct. Gay marriage makes way more sense to me than interracial relationships. Take that!

I love it when people contradict themselves. In an effort to prove that you are holier than though and not a racist, you just proved that deep down inside that you really are one. It sounds like someone really hit a nerve with you. You need counseling to deal with your anger and projection issues. You're way too invested in other people's lives. Geez, you're going all postal and shit. Calm the fuck down and take a chill pill. I swear topics about race brings all of the crazies out of the closet.

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Anonymous wrote:Holy ridiculous outrage batman. My friend is not a racist at all. I used to "hang out" with an Italian guy that didn't speak a lick of English. He was so sexual and interesting and gorgeous that I was completely addicted. It. Was. Fun. My preference was to marry a Black man and raise Black children. I'm not a racist, am I? That big chip on your shoulder is going to make a bruise. Just because you're the product of an interracial union doesn't make them sacrosanct. Gay marriage makes way more sense to me than interracial relationships. Take that!

Oh yeah forgot to mention...if you're black you gonna be raising black children regardless of what ethnicity your husband is. That's how this country works.

Well not all bi- or multi-racial feel this way. Call Tiger Woods Black and you'll end up with a golf club upside your head.

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Yes, I do believe it's racist.

Many of the white people who say "it's a matter of personal preference and being attracted to certain features" and would be initially attracted to a white-looking mixed-raced person, choose to not have a relationship with him/her because of the racial background. So it's a social discomfort that has nothing to do with looks.

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Anonymous wrote:Racism doesn't just mean you think another skin color is inferior - it also means you think there's something "different" (you know, other than the degree of melanin they have). There is absolutely no difference, since race is a social construct. We all have our types, but to exclusively only date someone of your race is synonymous with being racist.

If you have a strong preference for a particular combination of skin color, hair color/texture, and facial features, you should date what you prefer unless you find someone outside your preference who knocks you off your feet.

If you lined up 20 guys of different races and ethnicities in front of me and said pick 10 based just on appearance, I'd automatically eliminate any guy under 5'10 (by measurement, not his claim). The next elimination would be blonds and redheads because I prefer dark hair. Among the dark-haired guys, I'd eliminate those with the lightest skin. If I ended up with a lighter-skinned AA guy and a darker-skinned Punjabi, I'd go for the Punjabi. And I'm AA.

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I have been married to a Jewish man and an Hispanic man, both if which I am not. There are problems when you marry another race/ethnicity/religion and those problems stem from family and community (not from the spouse/partner). The extra issues can be draining. I can understand why peo

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Anonymous wrote:I have been married to a Jewish man and an Hispanic man, both if which I am not. There are problems when you marry another race/ethnicity/religion and those problems stem from family and community (not from the spouse/partner). The extra issues can be draining. I can understand why peo

...people don't want more problems.

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None of you have mentioned animals. It sounds like you are all biased against non-human partnerships. You should be ashamed of yourselves!

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Anonymous wrote:None of you have mentioned animals. It sounds like you are all biased against non-human partnerships. You should be ashamed of yourselves!

Analogy fail.