Is it racist to only date someone of your own race? What about your own religion?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"And what race is his Mom? Goes to show you that when the Mom is not the minority in the relationship, the kids are screwy when it comes to self-identify"

His mother is Thai. She's a minority as well, so what were you trying to say??

BTW, Tiger's fine with being called black, but he just acknowledges that he is also asian, etc. He never said he wasn't black.

Go to Thailand and he's not seen as black- he is seen as Thai. People take ownership of others with great skills, based on similarities they self-identify.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have been married to a Jewish man and an Hispanic man, both if which I am not. There are problems when you marry another race/ethnicity/religion and those problems stem from family and community (not from the spouse/partner). The extra issues can be draining. I can understand why peo

...people don't want more problems.

I agree totally. I'm married to a Hispanic man and he is all about his family. Helping them to the extreme. Someone is always calling us for a favor etc. Since having child #3, we cut back some.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been married to a Jewish man and an Hispanic man, both if which I am not. There are problems when you marry another race/ethnicity/religion and those problems stem from family and community (not from the spouse/partner). The extra issues can be draining. I can understand why peo

...people don't want more problems.

I agree totally. I'm married to a Hispanic man and he is all about his family. Helping them to the extreme. Someone is always calling us for a favor etc. Since having child #3, we cut back some.

This isn't the case with all ethnic groups?

If so, I'm extra grateful to belong to ethnic groups where people help their family unbegrudgingly. If I have two coats, why shouldn't I give one t my cousin who has none.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I do believe it's racist.

Many of the white people who say "it's a matter of personal preference and being attracted to certain features" and would be initially attracted to a white-looking mixed-raced person, choose to not have a relationship with him/her because of the racial background. So it's a social discomfort that has nothing to do with looks.

Because you know what's in every white person's mind? I'm not white and am not attracted to guys of certain ethnic backgrounds. Doesn't make me or anyone else racist.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"And what race is his Mom? Goes to show you that when the Mom is not the minority in the relationship, the kids are screwy when it comes to self-identify"

His mother is Thai. She's a minority as well, so what were you trying to say??

BTW, Tiger's fine with being called black, but he just acknowledges that he is also asian, etc. He never said he wasn't black.

Go to Thailand and he's not seen as black- he is seen as Thai. People take ownership of others with great skills, based on similarities they self-identify.

+1

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Really? You don't remember when Tiger got in trouble for saying the only think Black on him is his dick?? Earl Woods screwed that boy up with his incessant focus on ethnic ambiguity.

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Anonymous wrote:What about saying "I only want to date white/black/hispanic/indian people bc they are just like me?" Its not that you have an issue with people of the other race or even an attraction, its just that you prefer to date people who are of similar backgrounds/looks/cultures.

However, a person of your same race doesn't necessarily have the same background and culture as you. Class had a huge impact on how you grow up and what values you develop. The reason many college educated minorities marry out is that they want someone who is seen as intellectually and economically their equal. I have no issue with someone who says I want to prioritize a partner having an advanced degree over saying I want a particular skin color or language.

I object to this premise. You seem to suggest that college educated minorities are hard to come by. Is that what you're saying?

Yes, sadly, this is still the case in many areas beyond the DMV bubble. When you travel to small towns in the South and Midwest, college attendance for everyone drops, but especially for non-whites.

Yes, but are there really any minorities in small town America?

Wow, you are really ignorant!

[Anonymous]

Yes it is racist.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's racist. It's just a personal taste. You like what you like.
Being black, I get the same thing even when I date within my race. People told me that I must be "color struck" when I dated too many light skinned women in a row. Some (semi) joked that I must hate my heritage, because they'd never seen me with someone who didn't have a relaxer. When I dated a woman with dreads, they didn't like her because it reinforced the earlier light-skinned thing.

Now that I'm interested in a white lady I met through a friend I expect all hell to break loose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's racist. It's just a personal taste. You like what you like.
Being black, I get the same thing even when I date within my race. People told me that I must be "color struck" when I dated too many light skinned women in a row. Some (semi) joked that I must hate my heritage, because they'd never seen me with someone who didn't have a relaxer. When I dated a woman with dreads, they didn't like her because it reinforced the earlier light-skinned thing.

Now that I'm interested in a white lady I met through a friend I expect all hell to break loose.

Ever dated a dark-skinned black woman? If not, perhaps you are color struck.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's racist. I just like men with darker skin. I wouldn't date a light-skinned black man, a white man, a light-skinned Asian, an albino..you get the point. I'm a light-skinned AA woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been married to a Jewish man and an Hispanic man, both if which I am not. There are problems when you marry another race/ethnicity/religion and those problems stem from family and community (not from the spouse/partner). The extra issues can be draining. I can understand why peo

...people don't want more problems.

I agree totally. I'm married to a Hispanic man and he is all about his family. Helping them to the extreme. Someone is always calling us for a favor etc. Since having child #3, we cut back some.

This isn't the case with all ethnic groups?

If so, I'm extra grateful to belong to ethnic groups where people help their family unbegrudgingly. If I have two coats, why shouldn't I give one t my cousin who has none.

+ 1 . My husbands helped his less fortunate relatives with money,when they were in dire straits, but well within limits that we can afford. (We are Indian).
I am glad to be married to someone who thinks like me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a white guy who only has sex with Asian females. I get it. It is a preference.

Creepy. Smacks of fetishism.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's racist. It's just a personal taste. You like what you like.
Being black, I get the same thing even when I date within my race. People told me that I must be "color struck" when I dated too many light skinned women in a row. Some (semi) joked that I must hate my heritage, because they'd never seen me with someone who didn't have a relaxer. When I dated a woman with dreads, they didn't like her because it reinforced the earlier light-skinned thing.

Now that I'm interested in a white lady I met through a friend I expect all hell to break loose.

Ever dated a dark-skinned black woman? If not, perhaps you are color struck.

Color struck is a whole separate conversation.

Can we say Pharrell Williams, 80% of Black male professional athletes!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's racist if someone is unwilling to date outside outside their own race. I think religious preferences are different because rerligioj so heavily impacts your values, traditions, how you want to raise your children, etc.

I'm a liberal Protestant Christian and I knew I did not want to marry an atheist, an evangelical Christian fundamentalist (or any kind of fundamentalist, for that matter), and that I was not willing to raise my children Catholic. Those were dealbreakers for me.

Not racist if you're not attracted to anyone from a particular race....give me a break. you can't help who you're attracted to.

I'm catholic and draw the line at atheist, muslim, hindu and buddhist. open to any other.

I see. You draw the line at 90% of humanity and you call yourself "open"? You are a bigot!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's racist. It's just a personal taste. You like what you like.
Being black, I get the same thing even when I date within my race. People told me that I must be "color struck" when I dated too many light skinned women in a row. Some (semi) joked that I must hate my heritage, because they'd never seen me with someone who didn't have a relaxer. When I dated a woman with dreads, they didn't like her because it reinforced the earlier light-skinned thing.

Now that I'm interested in a white lady I met through a friend I expect all hell to break loose.

Ever dated a dark-skinned black woman? If not, perhaps you are color struck.

Color struck is a whole separate conversation.

Can we say Pharrell Williams, 80% of Black male professional athletes!!!

Yes, but dark-skinned men are usually the worst culprits.