Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active

[Anonymous]

Absolutely yes tell her parents- but discuss with your son first. Remind him he can stop having sex now, it’s not too late. He’s way too young.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So...no more AP Calculus BC? Just shagging?

I believe the prior-person was trying to just be humorous here. But in humor there is often some truth. In my country, the schoolchildren are not permitted to engage in this sort of foolishness. No.

High school is the time for studying. The marriage and the relationships will come later. Pupils must put their utmost focus on their studies.

+100

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mom of a 17 year old girl here. No, don’t tell her parents.

I agree.

I was sexually active with my boyfriend at 17 and we were responsible and it was fine. If his mom had told my parents it would’ve probably destroyed my relationship, my entire social life for the last 2 years of HS, and I was already prone to depression.

It’s not their business if she doesn’t tell them. It’s personal and I know they are kids and it seems wrong, but you really can be ready at that age. Just keep the conversation going with your son.

This makes sense to me.

[Anonymous]

Make sure he has access to plenty of condoms and understands he needs to take responsibility if any accidents occur.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Impress upon him that he MUST use condoms regardless, and always treat her with respect and consideration. Then stay out of it.

This, 100% this, every single time, even if she is on birth control. And h@ll no, you do not tell her parents.

And are there any lawyers here? If he turns 18 while she is still 17, can he be arrested for statutory rate? That would be my worry

Some of you are almost unspeakably dumb. It is almost tragic

In Virginia an 18yo having consensual sex with a 17yo is a misdemeanor. There is no statutory exception for being so close in age. Would it ever be prosecuted? I don’t think so. But it is a crime with a maximum penalty of 12 mos in jail same as if it were a 45yo having sex with a 17yo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mom of a 17 year old girl here. No, don’t tell her parents.

one mom of 17 year old says don't tell. Why? I also have a 17 year old dd and would want to know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:2 forms of birth control!!!!!

Teens are so fertile.They need birth control and back-up. I see patients as a women's health NP.

My own 18 year old son was sexually active with a girlfriend through much of senior year and this all made me very nervous because I really fear teen pregnancy. The guy has no control over the decision to terminate or not. I have girls too and the unwanted pregnancy concern was greater with my son because he wouldn't be the one making the decision.

Maybe in addition to the boy’s condoms, the girl could get one of those small iud’s made just for tweens / teen girls?

And so it starts...more responsibility placed on the girl

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Impress upon him that he MUST use condoms regardless, and always treat her with respect and consideration. Then stay out of it.

And make sure he knows he needs to wear a condom for every activity they are doing (not just PIV).

I'm not sure that's necessary if they were both virgins (meaning all sexual activity) prior. If not then, yes, good idea.

NP. This is insane advice! I tell my college-aged boys to protect themselves and use a condom every single damn time if they don’t want a baby with their partner. The only way to control that is with a condom, since girls may mess up taking birth control, may want a baby, may cheat and pass on STD, etc.

Crazy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Impress upon him that he MUST use condoms regardless, and always treat her with respect and consideration. Then stay out of it.

And make sure he knows he needs to wear a condom for every activity they are doing (not just PIV).

I'm not sure that's necessary if they were both virgins (meaning all sexual activity) prior. If not then, yes, good idea.

NP. This is insane advice! I tell my college-aged boys to protect themselves and use a condom every single damn time if they don’t want a baby with their partner. The only way to control that is with a condom, since girls may mess up taking birth control, may want a baby, may cheat and pass on STD, etc.

Crazy!

Mature 17 year olds don’t need advice about birth control from someone who is so obviously paranoid.

[Anonymous]

Teens have sex. Putting head in the sand is not going to change that. Respect the fact that your son told you and don’t break his trust in you by telling anyone else — you have no idea the implications for their relationship if you tell the girls’ parents.

I agree with everyone else - just make sure he’s protected and has access to contraception and be there if a mistake does happen.

And the talk of statutory rape between two kids of the same ages is ludicrous. No one is prosecuting that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Impress upon him that he MUST use condoms regardless, and always treat her with respect and consideration. Then stay out of it.

And make sure he knows he needs to wear a condom for every activity they are doing (not just PIV).

I'm not sure that's necessary if they were both virgins (meaning all sexual activity) prior. If not then, yes, good idea.

NP. This is insane advice! I tell my college-aged boys to protect themselves and use a condom every single damn time if they don’t want a baby with their partner. The only way to control that is with a condom, since girls may mess up taking birth control, may want a baby, may cheat and pass on STD, etc.

Crazy!

Mature 17 year olds don’t need advice about birth control from someone who is so obviously paranoid.

Isn't this a contradiction?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So...no more AP Calculus BC? Just shagging?

I believe the prior-person was trying to just be humorous here. But in humor there is often some truth. In my country, the schoolchildren are not permitted to engage in this sort of foolishness. No.

High school is the time for studying. The marriage and the relationships will come later. Pupils must put their utmost focus on their studies.

What if the marriage and relationships never come and the boys get sucked in by p*rn, hentai, tr*ns propaganda...spending their lives in front of a screen ordering hormones online
I'd be relieved if my son was like OP's.
I'd be frankyl

We will arrange everything at the appropriate time.

No thank you we don’t arranged marriages

[Anonymous]

Parents of 16 year olds having sex are terrible parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mom of a 17 year old girl here. No, don’t tell her parents.

one mom of 17 year old says don't tell. Why? I also have a 17 year old dd and would want to know.

Why isn’t she telling you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2 forms of birth control!!!!!

Teens are so fertile.They need birth control and back-up. I see patients as a women's health NP.

My own 18 year old son was sexually active with a girlfriend through much of senior year and this all made me very nervous because I really fear teen pregnancy. The guy has no control over the decision to terminate or not. I have girls too and the unwanted pregnancy concern was greater with my son because he wouldn't be the one making the decision.

Maybe in addition to the boy’s condoms, the girl could get one of those small iud’s made just for tweens / teen girls?

And so it starts...more responsibility placed on the girl

What would be the boys 2nd form of BC? Can’t wrap it 2x