Nearly 17 year old son is sexually active

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My 15 year old daughter is taking AP BC calc next year as a sophomore and is also sleeping with her boyfriend. These things are not mutually exclusive.

You aren’t the cool mom you think you are. Other moms are not impressed that you are good with your high school freshman having sex or with your “parenting.”

I’ve never tried to be a cool mom, mostly I’m known to be pushy about math. When my 15 year old daughter hinted that she and her boyfriend were thinking about sex I took her to her doctor to discuss and make sure she fully understood all of the risks and how to think about that decision. I could have yelled at her and tried to break them up, but I’ve seen that go very wrong. Thanks for judging my “parenting”, we’re all just doing our best here.

While we cannot 100% prevent our kids from doing anything, a 15 yo does not have the maturity, and in many states the legal right, to consent to sex. So I hope that in addition to taking her to the doctor, you told her that you don’t allow children to have sex and took steps to try not to allow the opportunity. It’s not a “decision” a 15 yo can really make, just like you (hopefully) wouldn’t let her drive a car unattended or drink alcohol at age 15.

Yes and if there is any chance you think your teen might be wouldn't you want them to go speak with a doctor and get on birth control rather than just saying she isn't allowed? How long do you think that would work? And if she hopefully decides to wait isn't this also a positive conversation to have with a doctor as a teen?

Teens absolutely have the legal right to consent to sex with same-age peers.

[Anonymous]

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My 15 year old daughter is taking AP BC calc next year as a sophomore and is also sleeping with her boyfriend. These things are not mutually exclusive.

You aren’t the cool mom you think you are. Other moms are not impressed that you are good with your high school freshman having sex or with your “parenting.”

It’s completely normal for highschool teens in the U.S. and many other places to be sexually active. My husband and I were both 15 when we started having sex, often in the mornings before class and after school. We lived close to each other and spent a lot of time together, including sleepovers. What do parents expect highschool age couples to do—just hold hands? If your kid is in HS dating, they’re most certainly having sex. It’s gullible to believe they aren’t. We went separate ways for college and ended up getting married summer after senior year. I didn’t sleep with anyone else, but he had a few partners in college. We’ve now been together for over 30 years. I think freshman’s who are 14/newly 15, are too young but 16 and up is perfectly fine and healthy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

My 15 year old daughter is taking AP BC calc next year as a sophomore and is also sleeping with her boyfriend. These things are not mutually exclusive.

You aren’t the cool mom you think you are. Other moms are not impressed that you are good with your high school freshman having sex or with your “parenting.”

It’s completely normal for highschool teens in the U.S. and many other places to be sexually active. My husband and I were both 15 when we started having sex, often in the mornings before class and after school. We lived close to each other and spent a lot of time together, including sleepovers. What do parents expect highschool age couples to do—just hold hands? If your kid is in HS dating, they’re most certainly having sex. It’s gullible to believe they aren’t. We went separate ways for college and ended up getting married summer after senior year. I didn’t sleep with anyone else, but he had a few partners in college. We’ve now been together for over 30 years. I think freshman’s who are 14/newly 15, are too young but 16 and up is perfectly fine and healthy.

It’s fairly common in the EU as well; especially the northern countries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

My 15 year old daughter is taking AP BC calc next year as a sophomore and is also sleeping with her boyfriend. These things are not mutually exclusive.

You aren’t the cool mom you think you are. Other moms are not impressed that you are good with your high school freshman having sex or with your “parenting.”

It’s completely normal for highschool teens in the U.S. and many other places to be sexually active. My husband and I were both 15 when we started having sex, often in the mornings before class and after school. We lived close to each other and spent a lot of time together, including sleepovers. What do parents expect highschool age couples to do—just hold hands? If your kid is in HS dating, they’re most certainly having sex. It’s gullible to believe they aren’t. We went separate ways for college and ended up getting married summer after senior year. I didn’t sleep with anyone else, but he had a few partners in college. We’ve now been together for over 30 years. I think freshman’s who are 14/newly 15, are too young but 16 and up is perfectly fine and healthy.

It’s fairly common in the EU as well; especially the northern countries.

Certainly. I believe that the American approach to sexuality is excessively prudish, and I noticed a recent discussion here regarding the American activities parents wouldn’t permit their children to engage in. Some individuals were criticizing Asian immigrants from more traditional backgrounds for discouraging their children from having sexual relations before marriage, stating it is a healthy choice. Meanwhile, Americans seem to overreact about older teenagers engaging in sexual activities, especially during sleepovers. I frequently encounter posts from college students and women after 22 online expressing that their parents prohibit them from staying over at their boyfriends' places.

In contrast, I am from Sweden experienced losing my virginity at the age of 13 to my first boyfriend, who was 16. Reflecting on that moment, I recognize that I was merely a little girl still playing with toys in a playroom and enjoying playing outside in the dirt. I feel I was too immature at that time, but I believe that individuals aged 15 and above are not too young.

[Anonymous]

My friend from high school had an abortion at 16. When she talks about it now, 20 years later, she still cries about it. Are they mature enough to make a decision about the life or death of their child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend from high school had an abortion at 16. When she talks about it now, 20 years later, she still cries about it. Are they mature enough to make a decision about the life or death of their child?

It’s not the death of their child, and that can be a tough experience at any age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

My 15 year old daughter is taking AP BC calc next year as a sophomore and is also sleeping with her boyfriend. These things are not mutually exclusive.

You aren’t the cool mom you think you are. Other moms are not impressed that you are good with your high school freshman having sex or with your “parenting.”

It’s completely normal for highschool teens in the U.S. and many other places to be sexually active. My husband and I were both 15 when we started having sex, often in the mornings before class and after school. We lived close to each other and spent a lot of time together, including sleepovers. What do parents expect highschool age couples to do—just hold hands? If your kid is in HS dating, they’re most certainly having sex. It’s gullible to believe they aren’t. We went separate ways for college and ended up getting married summer after senior year. I didn’t sleep with anyone else, but he had a few partners in college. We’ve now been together for over 30 years. I think freshman’s who are 14/newly 15, are too young but 16 and up is perfectly fine and healthy.

This is so wrong. NO, all kids dating in HS are not having sex. I, too, started dating my husband in HS (age 16). We waited many years before we had sex. There’s a lot between holding hands and having sex (kissing, for example). The thing is, healthy sex requires emotional maturity (& ideally commitment) and the ability to handle unexpected outcomes, like an unplanned pregnancy. For example, no BC is 100% effective, and a boy will have zero say in what happens if the girl becomes pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

My 15 year old daughter is taking AP BC calc next year as a sophomore and is also sleeping with her boyfriend. These things are not mutually exclusive.

You aren’t the cool mom you think you are. Other moms are not impressed that you are good with your high school freshman having sex or with your “parenting.”

I’ve never tried to be a cool mom, mostly I’m known to be pushy about math. When my 15 year old daughter hinted that she and her boyfriend were thinking about sex I took her to her doctor to discuss and make sure she fully understood all of the risks and how to think about that decision. I could have yelled at her and tried to break them up, but I’ve seen that go very wrong. Thanks for judging my “parenting”, we’re all just doing our best here.

While we cannot 100% prevent our kids from doing anything, a 15 yo does not have the maturity, and in many states the legal right, to consent to sex. So I hope that in addition to taking her to the doctor, you told her that you don’t allow children to have sex and took steps to try not to allow the opportunity. It’s not a “decision” a 15 yo can really make, just like you (hopefully) wouldn’t let her drive a car unattended or drink alcohol at age 15.

Teens absolutely have the legal right to consent to sex with same-age peers.

Source? It depends on the state. If someone is under the age to legally consent, it doesn’t matter how old the other person is. Both are engaging in sex with someone too young to legally consent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

My 15 year old daughter is taking AP BC calc next year as a sophomore and is also sleeping with her boyfriend. These things are not mutually exclusive.

You aren’t the cool mom you think you are. Other moms are not impressed that you are good with your high school freshman having sex or with your “parenting.”

I’ve never tried to be a cool mom, mostly I’m known to be pushy about math. When my 15 year old daughter hinted that she and her boyfriend were thinking about sex I took her to her doctor to discuss and make sure she fully understood all of the risks and how to think about that decision. I could have yelled at her and tried to break them up, but I’ve seen that go very wrong. Thanks for judging my “parenting”, we’re all just doing our best here.

While we cannot 100% prevent our kids from doing anything, a 15 yo does not have the maturity, and in many states the legal right, to consent to sex. So I hope that in addition to taking her to the doctor, you told her that you don’t allow children to have sex and took steps to try not to allow the opportunity. It’s not a “decision” a 15 yo can really make, just like you (hopefully) wouldn’t let her drive a car unattended or drink alcohol at age 15.

Teens absolutely have the legal right to consent to sex with same-age peers.

Source? It depends on the state. If someone is under the age to legally consent, it doesn’t matter how old the other person is. Both are engaging in sex with someone too young to legally consent.

The age of consent in Maryland is 16, so what happens if the police find out that two 15 year olds had consensual sex?