So many regrets

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Anonymous wrote:The parents who blew their wad on ED to Tulane with a 3.3/1260/27 will be the ones with regrets when their kid ends up at the same grad/law/business school as your kid from Cheaperthan U and you're still sitting on a fat pile.

DD graduated from Tulane and never met any 1260/27 kid that was not a “priority, low income” admissions.
She was a 1360 kid and is now at Columbia Law…alongside other Ivy UG kids which SATs much higher than hers

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Anonymous wrote:The parents who blew their wad on ED to Tulane with a 3.3/1260/27 will be the ones with regrets when their kid ends up at the same grad/law/business school as your kid from Cheaperthan U and you're still sitting on a fat pile.

+1 plus New Orleans is just for partying. I would never go to college in a place I wouldn't be willing to live after school.

Special is also how you feel when you make new friends, learn new things, impress a professor, and get great grades that get you into a grad school you picked with an adult's understanding of what you wanted out of life.

Working like you headed for an Ivy should lead to a much easier time in college. And perhaps have earned college credit.

This is just the breath-catching pause on the hike up the mountain. Look up, not back.

Mom - you may have guided the decisions but if your daughter didn't push back, you were aligned on the strategy. You could quickly consider if any other schools might remain to apply to that offer "more". If that would make your DC happier about the situation.

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My niece went to Tulane. Still a huge party school. Not impressed.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents who blew their wad on ED to Tulane with a 3.3/1260/27 will be the ones with regrets when their kid ends up at the same grad/law/business school as your kid from Cheaperthan U and you're still sitting on a fat pile.

+1 plus New Orleans is just for partying. I would never go to college in a place I wouldn't be willing to live after school.

Special is also how you feel when you make new friends, learn new things, impress a professor, and get great grades that get you into a grad school you picked with an adult's understanding of what you wanted out of life.

Working like you headed for an Ivy should lead to a much easier time in college. And perhaps have earned college credit.

This is just the breath-catching pause on the hike up the mountain. Look up, not back.

Mom - you may have guided the decisions but if your daughter didn't push back, you were aligned on the strategy. You could quickly consider if any other schools might remain to apply to that offer "more". If that would make your DC happier about the situation.

Word salad.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents who blew their wad on ED to Tulane with a 3.3/1260/27 will be the ones with regrets when their kid ends up at the same grad/law/business school as your kid from Cheaperthan U and you're still sitting on a fat pile.

+1 plus New Orleans is just for partying. I would never go to college in a place I wouldn't be willing to live after school.

Biggest BS I have ever heard…..so you would never go Cornell, Dartmouth, Brown, Princeton, Yale….. I see…

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Anonymous wrote:The parents who blew their wad on ED to Tulane with a 3.3/1260/27 will be the ones with regrets when their kid ends up at the same grad/law/business school as your kid from Cheaperthan U and you're still sitting on a fat pile.

Not really, because the Tulane parents are focused on their kid. Best choice for that family.

Plus, a kid with those stats aren't likely to get admitted to Tulane anyways.

You can step off the short bus and into Tulane if you apply ED, TO, and full pay.

I don’t have any view on this issue but got a solid laugh out of this comment, thanks.

Yes, special education jokes are always hilarious.

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Anonymous wrote:This reads like a troll post. Maybe it isn’t but it definitely reads like one.

I'm not trolling. I think I really messed up when I see where people get in and we should have applied more broadly.

But it sounds like you didn't apply not because you thought she wouldn't get in, but because its wasn't a sound financial decision? That doesn't change with other people getting in. I think you are just second-guessing yourself. I think this feeling will pass as people stop talking about where they go in. The key thing is don't let this attitude show to your daughter!

I am not even talking about college now, and tried to keep it to a minimum while we were applying. But I am a mess inside. I feel sort of terrible for dd, who is fine with her choice but not absolutely thrilled. I feel like maybe going for different schools would have made her feel more special and valued.

OP, your daughter should not be relying on college admissions to feel "more special and valued", and neither should you. Real meaning in life comes from something deeper. The goal is for your kid to find the value in whatever she is doing.

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Anonymous wrote:This reads like a troll post. Maybe it isn’t but it definitely reads like one.

I'm not trolling. I think I really messed up when I see where people get in and we should have applied more broadly.

If you felt it was more affordable to stay in state - that's not messing up.

If your DD is a good student, then she will shine at her in-state flagship. And if the in-state flagship saved you $$ - you can help fund graduate school. MANY talented public flagship undergrads go on to top flight graduate programs.

And - if you really regret it (and she does too) - she can always transfer for college sophomore year (or start spring of freshman year)

Meanwhile - please don't express this to your DD!

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Anonymous wrote:The parents who blew their wad on ED to Tulane with a 3.3/1260/27 will be the ones with regrets when their kid ends up at the same grad/law/business school as your kid from Cheaperthan U and you're still sitting on a fat pile.

This. Or.....your in-state school DD will get into better programs.....and have $ to spare

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Anonymous wrote:The parents who blew their wad on ED to Tulane with a 3.3/1260/27 will be the ones with regrets when their kid ends up at the same grad/law/business school as your kid from Cheaperthan U and you're still sitting on a fat pile.

I hate this analogy...so everyone, let's stop using it. Grad school is often a complete waste of money and only 35% of college graduates pursue it.

Let's stick to the better script...which is plenty of people achieve from any school.

First of all, nerd, 35% is a lot. But OK, how about a different analogy? The OP's kid graduates from their cheap school and ends up working in a cubicle next to one of those average stat kids whose parents bought their way into Tulane ED. Who's going to have regret then?

I worked alongside a Vandy grad at my first job out of a very average university. He mentioned it at least once a day just like the guy in The Office would bring up Cornell. My response was always the same: "We work the same job at the same company."

I doubt that made him regret attending Vandy though.

His old man might have regretted dropping 140 G's on it (roughly the four-year COA back then) if he'd known I paid next to nothing for a lower-ranked school and ended up at the same place as his kid.

So...should the Vandy grads that ended up working at KKR and Goldman and equivalent get to feel absolutely superior to you and other "average state school" grads that were never even remotely considered for an interview?

Based on what those companies do, their employees might feel superior but I think those companies are responsible for asset stripping and damaging the social fabric of America. So...need to factor that in.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents who blew their wad on ED to Tulane with a 3.3/1260/27 will be the ones with regrets when their kid ends up at the same grad/law/business school as your kid from Cheaperthan U and you're still sitting on a fat pile.

+1 plus New Orleans is just for partying. I would never go to college in a place I wouldn't be willing to live after school.

Special is also how you feel when you make new friends, learn new things, impress a professor, and get great grades that get you into a grad school you picked with an adult's understanding of what you wanted out of life.

Working like you headed for an Ivy should lead to a much easier time in college. And perhaps have earned college credit.

This is just the breath-catching pause on the hike up the mountain. Look up, not back.

Mom - you may have guided the decisions but if your daughter didn't push back, you were aligned on the strategy. You could quickly consider if any other schools might remain to apply to that offer "more". If that would make your DC happier about the situation.

really? no college in hanover, providence, new haven or ithaca? durham?
wtf - you are a moron.

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I regret I didnt push my kid to apply to a reach school. We had a rough college admission cycle with my oldest and he was rejected at a lot of school despite perfect scores and credentials. This one was quite a bit lower than that one so we were worried he might not get into any of them- he got into all of them (so far). So I guess maybe he should have taken a shot at a biggie.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents who blew their wad on ED to Tulane with a 3.3/1260/27 will be the ones with regrets when their kid ends up at the same grad/law/business school as your kid from Cheaperthan U and you're still sitting on a fat pile.

I hate this analogy...so everyone, let's stop using it. Grad school is often a complete waste of money and only 35% of college graduates pursue it.

Let's stick to the better script...which is plenty of people achieve from any school.

First of all, nerd, 35% is a lot. But OK, how about a different analogy? The OP's kid graduates from their cheap school and ends up working in a cubicle next to one of those average stat kids whose parents bought their way into Tulane ED. Who's going to have regret then?

I worked alongside a Vandy grad at my first job out of a very average university. He mentioned it at least once a day just like the guy in The Office would bring up Cornell. My response was always the same: "We work the same job at the same company."

I doubt that made him regret attending Vandy though.

His old man might have regretted dropping 140 G's on it (roughly the four-year COA back then) if he'd known I paid next to nothing for a lower-ranked school and ended up at the same place as his kid.

So...should the Vandy grads that ended up working at KKR and Goldman and equivalent get to feel absolutely superior to you and other "average state school" grads that were never even remotely considered for an interview?

Vandy doesn't have a huge presence on The Street. It might be more than PP's "average state school," whatever that was, but it's not a known feeder like Penn, Cornell, Williams, Bucknell, Middlebury, and the like.

OK...you are kind of missing the point. Replace The Street with Bain Consulting.

I just don't understand why people flex the equivalent of "I went to average state U and have average professional job and I love to rag on the Vandy person that also has average professional job"...yet rightfully so, nobody thinks it's cool for the Vandy grad at Bain to feel superior to the average state U kid that couldn't even get an interview to save their life.

I don't think that state U person was flexing. It seemed like the Vandy person was flexing in that story. I think State U person was saying - that if the best financial outcome for a family is that the student attend the State U - it's what the State U student does at school and in life that matters. They will not be "behind" the Vandy person in the long run.

No reason for the Vandy person to feel guilty for going to Vandy (unless they are a jerk who thinks they are better than others).

Some kids really value the experience of going away to a different place - with people from all over the country and all over the world is a great experience. Some State U will have this population mix too. But if a State U person feels like they "missed out" - they can use their life after college to explore the world, take a job in another city, whatever. Get your education and get a job and make your life what you want.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents who blew their wad on ED to Tulane with a 3.3/1260/27 will be the ones with regrets when their kid ends up at the same grad/law/business school as your kid from Cheaperthan U and you're still sitting on a fat pile.

+1 plus New Orleans is just for partying. I would never go to college in a place I wouldn't be willing to live after school.

Biggest BS I have ever heard…..so you would never go Cornell, Dartmouth, Brown, Princeton, Yale….. I see…

Ithaca, Hanover, Providence, Princeton, and New Haven are nothing like New Orleans. Come on.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents who blew their wad on ED to Tulane with a 3.3/1260/27 will be the ones with regrets when their kid ends up at the same grad/law/business school as your kid from Cheaperthan U and you're still sitting on a fat pile.

Not really, because the Tulane parents are focused on their kid. Best choice for that family.

Plus, a kid with those stats aren't likely to get admitted to Tulane anyways.

You can step off the short bus and into Tulane if you apply ED, TO, and full pay.

What a joke of a comment.

Found the full pay, test optional Tulane ED admit.