So many regrets

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if you are real and not a troll ... DC attends a T50 private. DC worked hard and competed for a full tuition scholarship. DC likes the private school a lot, but make no mistake - the financial investment does not stop at tuition. There's greek organization dues, going out with friends, trips, study and travel abroad, and general keeping up with the (wealthy) crowd when your student attends a private college. Our second child attends a state school, for which we pay more in tuition, but does not have the same level of additional financial pressures.

Mine are at two different ivies. Not true there, they both spend far far less per month than our very good friends who have kids at UVA, UNC and UCLA. They spend $3-5k a semester on food outside of dining and all the parties and drinking.
Ivies have so much stuff for free or minimal cost on campus and on weekends, dues for clubs have to be kept very small for the kids on aid(OVER half), and greek is not that common so when it happens it is not a $ dump like the 5k per semester other places. Going abroad was the cheapest semester we had. Elite privates are much less wealth centric than preppy publics and non-elite privates like SMU, BC, NYU

Non-elite private colleges. Why do people go there? Did they not get into their state schools?

Because DD didn't get into W&M, didn't like the big state Us, and a couple private colleges that came out comparably priced to in-state publics had great programs for her major and appealed to her more than other in-state options. Expensive private colleges were never in consideration, only those that gave merit and had potential to be competitive in price with our public Us.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if you are real and not a troll ... DC attends a T50 private. DC worked hard and competed for a full tuition scholarship. DC likes the private school a lot, but make no mistake - the financial investment does not stop at tuition. There's greek organization dues, going out with friends, trips, study and travel abroad, and general keeping up with the (wealthy) crowd when your student attends a private college. Our second child attends a state school, for which we pay more in tuition, but does not have the same level of additional financial pressures.

Mine are at two different ivies. Not true there, they both spend far far less per month than our very good friends who have kids at UVA, UNC and UCLA. They spend $3-5k a semester on food outside of dining and all the parties and drinking.
Ivies have so much stuff for free or minimal cost on campus and on weekends, dues for clubs have to be kept very small for the kids on aid(OVER half), and greek is not that common so when it happens it is not a $ dump like the 5k per semester other places. Going abroad was the cheapest semester we had. Elite privates are much less wealth centric than preppy publics and non-elite privates like SMU, BC, NYU

BC and NYU are elite, geed. And I'd be willing to bet the majority of people who graduated SMU the year you graduated college are stacking more cheese than you.

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Engineering may be thought of as science in a course catalog but it is not science.
Tulane is meh. If it were not near New Orleans no one would crave it.
I doubt all the kids at OP's little darling's college will sit around bemoaning where they didn't apply. Leave her be.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents who blew their wad on ED to Tulane with a 3.3/1260/27 will be the ones with regrets when their kid ends up at the same grad/law/business school as your kid from Cheaperthan U and you're still sitting on a fat pile.

I hate this analogy...so everyone, let's stop using it. Grad school is often a complete waste of money and only 35% of college graduates pursue it.

Let's stick to the better script...which is plenty of people achieve from any school.

First of all, nerd, 35% is a lot. But OK, how about a different analogy? The OP's kid graduates from their cheap school and ends up working in a cubicle next to one of those average stat kids whose parents bought their way into Tulane ED. Who's going to have regret then?

I worked alongside a Vandy grad at my first job out of a very average university. He mentioned it at least once a day just like the guy in The Office would bring up Cornell. My response was always the same: "We work the same job at the same company."

I doubt that made him regret attending Vandy though.

His old man might have regretted dropping 140 G's on it (roughly the four-year COA back then) if he'd known I paid next to nothing for a lower-ranked school and ended up at the same place as his kid.

So...should the Vandy grads that ended up working at KKR and Goldman and equivalent get to feel absolutely superior to you and other "average state school" grads that were never even remotely considered for an interview?

Vandy doesn't have a huge presence on The Street. It might be more than PP's "average state school," whatever that was, but it's not a known feeder like Penn, Cornell, Williams, Bucknell, Middlebury, and the like.

OK...you are kind of missing the point. Replace The Street with Bain Consulting.

I just don't understand why people flex the equivalent of "I went to average state U and have average professional job and I love to rag on the Vandy person that also has average professional job"...yet rightfully so, nobody thinks it's cool for the Vandy grad at Bain to feel superior to the average state U kid that couldn't even get an interview to save their life.

I’ve worked at BCG and went to a small private liberal arts college in the Midwest that you have never heard of. I think the point is that very rarely is there only one way to get where you want to go.

Everyone has their dumb anecdote about how one kid who went to a no-name school did really well but ffs this is not the typical or expected outcome.

You do realize that it's not a rare occurrence for a smart, hard working student to go to a state school (or no-name school) - kick butt - and then succeed in life, right along side others from private schools.....right?

Obvious that you don't realize that it is a rare occurrence. Unless you're truly defining down "kick butt and succeed in life", lmao.

This is one of the worst rebuttals I’ve seen.

I'm sorry you're too stupid to understand that "kicking butt" in life is rare. Unless you consider "middle class job and salary" to be "kicking butt" lmao.