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Were you spanked as a child?
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Anonymous
Adding I also had my face slapped a lot. Had forgotten until I saw another post. My mom said I still had to go to school with a fresh handprint as in her opinion it’s about me not her. My dad preferred smacking the back of my head. Mom was never spanked but my father was likely beaten and grew up in a violent home. I have struggled in the past with physically restraining my child and yelling. I have mostly managed not to. Therapy, personal time, medication, peer counseling, and emotional honesty are critical. My partner tags when stressors are high. I hate that my resources are based on disregulated models. Making the change and breaking the cycle is hard af. I don’t know that I have, it’s surely gentler though. . |
Anonymous
| Yes was beaten daily from 5-15, lost one side hearing and almost got one eye blind. I don’t spank my kids, but can’t stop myself being an extremely bad tempered jerk. |
Anonymous
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No and I can’t believe it still happens now.
My mom knew it wasn’t ok in the 80s. I am old Af and we still haven’t learned this? No excuse |
Anonymous
Same. My dad was strict and had a temper, but I was never spanked in the 80s nor am I aware of it happening to any of my friends. I am 42 now. Grew up in NY. |
Anonymous
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We were spanked. This was in the DC area in the 80s. It was normally the punitive, over the lap kind.
My parents both have grad degrees. It wasn’t frequent. It might have been a few times per year, tops. But it was definitely effective. We did the same with our kids. |
Anonymous
| I was as a kid, probably from about 4 - 10 years. Not a big deal, but an effective deterrent. And I’ve spanked as a parent. |
Anonymous
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Yes. Born in 1990 and raised in Deep South by religious parents.
Spanking is a nice way to put it. No we won’t ever spank our kids. |
Anonymous
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No, but my grandma used to flick my ear if I talked back at the dinner table. That really hurt. However, she was a tiny, cute old lady and I can't hold it against her. She also did it to my dad, when he was an adult and my dad, a few times, hahaha.
My dad slapped me across the face a few times as a teenager. I can't even remember what I said, but I don't think it could have been that bad. I was generally respectful, though we had some arguments. I hated that he did it at the time, and I hate the memory of it now. I would never do that to my child. |
Anonymous
| yes, not very often though. Age 48 from the UK |
Anonymous
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Yes. Baltimore County, in my 40s. It permanently altered my perception of my mother.
Spanking and physical punishment isn't about the child or the child's behavior - it is about the adult's inability to control or cope with their emotions. It is a sign of the adult's inadequacies, not the child's. |
Anonymous
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Yes, 54 from DMV.
I spanked my kids till about 5 for really bad behavior. They are in HS now. Not traumatized. They are good, well behaved, Respectful, normal kids. Not perfect but good. |
Anonymous
| Yes. 40s Midwest, was hit with paddle but dad was abusive |
Anonymous
You should be ashamed. |
Anonymous
Awful |
Anonymous
My Trauma from spanking is lifelong and deep and most people would say that I am “not traumatized” yet it has changed my relationships and personality forever. |