Were you spanked as a child?

[Anonymous]

Oh yeah. Not very hard or often. The anticipation of it was the most impactful! It was very much the norm back then.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There’s a problem here with conflating parents lashing out and hitting or kicking or beating kids as an act of anger (because one didn’t sweep the kitchen adequately), and a very moderated, deliberate, judicious spanking that is delivered after the parent has considered a punishment and discussed the behavior and consequences with the child.

There’s a problem with thinking that kids need any sort of corporal punishment in order to be taught how to behave in the first place. How is it that so many of us can possibly raise well behaved kids without threats and punishment while others swear that it’s not possible? We are living proof that it’s possible so I will never accept that a parent must use this sort of violence ever. All it leads to is unnecessary abuse.

We’d need to meet your kids first before lending this statement any credibility. All of the evidence would suggest that you’re more than likely raising rude, entitled little shits.

There’s absolutely no evidence that spanking improves the behavior of a child. In fact “all of the evidence” would suggest the opposite…

Bolded quote did not specify spanking, but overall “threats and punishment” i.e. this person is clearly a gentle parent who does not discipline their child. We can all see how that turns out.

But as an aside, the vast majority of “data” re spankings and behavior 1) conflate spanking with beating and 2) confuse correlation and causation.

You’re making a lot of excuses for being a child abuser. No matter how you rationalize it you’re still a monster.

LOL

Sorry you’re triggered because you’re too unintelligent to understand what you’re even arguing about. And that your kids are brats.

You are obviously a bully. It’s no surprise you hit your kids.

Says the jerk who calls a random stranger a monster. Stop projecting and get some therapy.

You’ve admitted to beating your children. I have never beaten my children That’s what makes you a monster. You’re a bully because, without any information, you say people’s kids are brats You don’t discipline your kids, that’s all the information I need and say they’re unintelligent. I said that YOU (not your kids) are unintelligent. Thanks for the confirmation.

But, none of this surprises me for someone who perpetrates and defends domestic abuse.

Talk about projecting and needing therapy.

Seriously, get help. You’re completely unhinged.

[Anonymous]

I was spanked regularly. 62. As we got older it was a belt which really hurt. We were actually pretty well behaved kids but my mother had a short fuse and alcohol abuse issues and it didn’t take much to set her off.

Needless to say we did not spank our kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There’s a problem here with conflating parents lashing out and hitting or kicking or beating kids as an act of anger (because one didn’t sweep the kitchen adequately), and a very moderated, deliberate, judicious spanking that is delivered after the parent has considered a punishment and discussed the behavior and consequences with the child.

There’s a problem with thinking that kids need any sort of corporal punishment in order to be taught how to behave in the first place. How is it that so many of us can possibly raise well behaved kids without threats and punishment while others swear that it’s not possible? We are living proof that it’s possible so I will never accept that a parent must use this sort of violence ever. All it leads to is unnecessary abuse.

We’d need to meet your kids first before lending this statement any credibility. All of the evidence would suggest that you’re more than likely raising rude, entitled little shits.

There’s absolutely no evidence that spanking improves the behavior of a child. In fact “all of the evidence” would suggest the opposite…

Bolded quote did not specify spanking, but overall “threats and punishment” i.e. this person is clearly a gentle parent who does not discipline their child. We can all see how that turns out.

But as an aside, the vast majority of “data” re spankings and behavior 1) conflate spanking with beating and 2) confuse correlation and causation.

You’re making a lot of excuses for being a child abuser. No matter how you rationalize it you’re still a monster.

LOL

Sorry you’re triggered because you’re too unintelligent to understand what you’re even arguing about. And that your kids are brats.

You are obviously a bully. It’s no surprise you hit your kids.

Says the jerk who calls a random stranger a monster. Stop projecting and get some therapy.

You’ve admitted to beating your children. I have never beaten my children That’s what makes you a monster. You’re a bully because, without any information, you say people’s kids are brats You don’t discipline your kids, that’s all the information I need and say they’re unintelligent. I said that YOU (not your kids) are unintelligent. Thanks for the confirmation.

But, none of this surprises me for someone who perpetrates and defends domestic abuse.

Talk about projecting and needing therapy.

Seriously, get help. You’re completely unhinged.

You are a master abuser, pp. The relentless gaslighting, darvo tactics, doubling down and justifying your actions are top tier narcissist/psycho behavior. I and several other posters here are survivors of abuse who have broken the cycle. The abuse we suffered left us with superpowers. One of which is spotting abusive people, whether on the street or on a message board. eff off, psycho!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There’s a problem here with conflating parents lashing out and hitting or kicking or beating kids as an act of anger (because one didn’t sweep the kitchen adequately), and a very moderated, deliberate, judicious spanking that is delivered after the parent has considered a punishment and discussed the behavior and consequences with the child.

There’s a problem with thinking that kids need any sort of corporal punishment in order to be taught how to behave in the first place. How is it that so many of us can possibly raise well behaved kids without threats and punishment while others swear that it’s not possible? We are living proof that it’s possible so I will never accept that a parent must use this sort of violence ever. All it leads to is unnecessary abuse.

We’d need to meet your kids first before lending this statement any credibility. All of the evidence would suggest that you’re more than likely raising rude, entitled little shits.

There’s absolutely no evidence that spanking improves the behavior of a child. In fact “all of the evidence” would suggest the opposite…

Bolded quote did not specify spanking, but overall “threats and punishment” i.e. this person is clearly a gentle parent who does not discipline their child. We can all see how that turns out.

But as an aside, the vast majority of “data” re spankings and behavior 1) conflate spanking with beating and 2) confuse correlation and causation.

You’re making a lot of excuses for being a child abuser. No matter how you rationalize it you’re still a monster.

LOL

Sorry you’re triggered because you’re too unintelligent to understand what you’re even arguing about. And that your kids are brats.

You are obviously a bully. It’s no surprise you hit your kids.

Says the jerk who calls a random stranger a monster. Stop projecting and get some therapy.

You’ve admitted to beating your children. I have never beaten my children That’s what makes you a monster. You’re a bully because, without any information, you say people’s kids are brats You don’t discipline your kids, that’s all the information I need and say they’re unintelligent. I said that YOU (not your kids) are unintelligent. Thanks for the confirmation.

But, none of this surprises me for someone who perpetrates and defends domestic abuse.

Talk about projecting and needing therapy.

Seriously, get help. You’re completely unhinged.

You are a master abuser, pp. The relentless gaslighting, darvo tactics, doubling down and justifying your actions are top tier narcissist/psycho behavior. I and several other posters here are survivors of abuse who have broken the cycle. The abuse we suffered left us with superpowers. One of which is spotting abusive people, whether on the street or on a message board. eff off, psycho!

Superpowers?! I think you are only a mastur bater.

[Anonymous]

Yes, 52 years old. From Virginia Beach.
It was fine. I had absolutely no issues with it.

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Anonymous wrote:There’s a problem here with conflating parents lashing out and hitting or kicking or beating kids as an act of anger (because one didn’t sweep the kitchen adequately), and a very moderated, deliberate, judicious spanking that is delivered after the parent has considered a punishment and discussed the behavior and consequences with the child.

There’s a problem with thinking that kids need any sort of corporal punishment in order to be taught how to behave in the first place. How is it that so many of us can possibly raise well behaved kids without threats and punishment while others swear that it’s not possible? We are living proof that it’s possible so I will never accept that a parent must use this sort of violence ever. All it leads to is unnecessary abuse.

We’d need to meet your kids first before lending this statement any credibility. All of the evidence would suggest that you’re more than likely raising rude, entitled little shits.

There’s absolutely no evidence that spanking improves the behavior of a child. In fact “all of the evidence” would suggest the opposite…

Bolded quote did not specify spanking, but overall “threats and punishment” i.e. this person is clearly a gentle parent who does not discipline their child. We can all see how that turns out.

But as an aside, the vast majority of “data” re spankings and behavior 1) conflate spanking with beating and 2) confuse correlation and causation.

You’re making a lot of excuses for being a child abuser. No matter how you rationalize it you’re still a monster.

LOL

Sorry you’re triggered because you’re too unintelligent to understand what you’re even arguing about. And that your kids are brats.

You are obviously a bully. It’s no surprise you hit your kids.

Says the jerk who calls a random stranger a monster. Stop projecting and get some therapy.

You’ve admitted to beating your children. I have never beaten my children That’s what makes you a monster. You’re a bully because, without any information, you say people’s kids are brats You don’t discipline your kids, that’s all the information I need and say they’re unintelligent. I said that YOU (not your kids) are unintelligent. Thanks for the confirmation.

But, none of this surprises me for someone who perpetrates and defends domestic abuse.

Talk about projecting and needing therapy.

Seriously, get help. You’re completely unhinged.

It’s very obvious you’re an abuser and a bully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was spanked regularly. 62. As we got older it was a belt which really hurt. We were actually pretty well behaved kids but my mother had a short fuse and alcohol abuse issues and it didn’t take much to set her off.

Needless to say we did not spank our kids.

It sounds like you were beaten with a belt. That’s not being spanked.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was spanked regularly. 62. As we got older it was a belt which really hurt. We were actually pretty well behaved kids but my mother had a short fuse and alcohol abuse issues and it didn’t take much to set her off.

Needless to say we did not spank our kids.

It sounds like you were beaten with a belt. That’s not being spanked.

Hitting your kids is abuse no matter how you phrase it. There is no situation where an adult striking a CHILD is not abuse. Get that through your hard head.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was spanked regularly. 62. As we got older it was a belt which really hurt. We were actually pretty well behaved kids but my mother had a short fuse and alcohol abuse issues and it didn’t take much to set her off.

Needless to say we did not spank our kids.

It sounds like you were beaten with a belt. That’s not being spanked.

Hitting your kids is abuse no matter how you phrase it. There is no situation where an adult striking a CHILD is not abuse. Get that through your hard head.

We don't care what you think.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was spanked regularly. 62. As we got older it was a belt which really hurt. We were actually pretty well behaved kids but my mother had a short fuse and alcohol abuse issues and it didn’t take much to set her off.

Needless to say we did not spank our kids.

It sounds like you were beaten with a belt. That’s not being spanked.

Hitting your kids is abuse no matter how you phrase it. There is no situation where an adult striking a CHILD is not abuse. Get that through your hard head.

We don't care what you think.

Who’s “we”? Society at large has rejected corporal punishment. You are on the fringe.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was spanked regularly. 62. As we got older it was a belt which really hurt. We were actually pretty well behaved kids but my mother had a short fuse and alcohol abuse issues and it didn’t take much to set her off.

Needless to say we did not spank our kids.

It sounds like you were beaten with a belt. That’s not being spanked.

Hitting your kids is abuse no matter how you phrase it. There is no situation where an adult striking a CHILD is not abuse. Get that through your hard head.

We don't care what you think.

Who’s “we”? Society at large has rejected corporal punishment. You are on the fringe.

Like Harris voters?

[Anonymous]

I was spanked — even sometimes with a belt — and while I did t like it at the time I don’t look back and consider it abuse. I know my parents loved me and were just trying to stop me from doing stupid things. It wasn’t vengeful.

[Anonymous]

I was spanked with a metal spatula or wooden spoon. But it was as a punishment when you d done something pretty bad that I knew was wrong. And I only got three swats each time. Still hurt and left a mark for a bit.

Age 52, from the upper Midwest.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but it was a half century ago and times have changed. My parents were wonderful so I don’t fault them. My father would put a towel over his lap because we’d often pee on him so it wasn’t fun for him either.