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Were you spanked as a child?
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Anonymous
| Yes, from New York. White, jewish family. |
Anonymous
| Yes, child of immigrants. Mostly with a belt that left welts on my legs. My dad made my brother kneel and beat him with an iron. Total abuse and I never forgave my father and had an only okay relationship with my mom. My husband was too. We do not spank our kids, working to not yell at them. How do you all do it. I have teenagers and it's hard! |
Anonymous
I heard a pretty famous family therapist say he can tell which families didn’t spank when he meets families with teenagers. Not because it’s the actual spanking but because it’s a good barometer on families who are generally not good at disciplining their kids, and teaching right from wrong. Sounds like you missed the boat on training well-behaved kids. |
Anonymous
| I was but it wasn't a regular occurrence. I'm from the suburbs NW of Baltimore. |
Anonymous
| No. I am from rural Virginia, born in the 60’s. My parents both agreed not to spank their children because they both felt their parents used physical punishment unfairly and as a result of their own shortcomings. My siblings and I did not spank our children either. My siblings and our children have all been well behaved and successful. |
Anonymous
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I don't remember ever being spanked. I was sent to my room, sometimes with the "I'm very disappointed in you" or the "I love you but I really hate your behavior" talks.
My little brother was spanked exactly once, for running into the street. 1960s, West Coast |
Anonymous
| Yes, Age 61, Massachusetts (Catholic family) |
Anonymous
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Yes, but I was mostly slapped in the face. By my mother only (dad was working all the time).
When my sister and I were (in her words) “hysterical,” we would get grabbed by the hair, asked to bend over the bathtub and be showered on the head with cold water. My mother does not remember this. Grew up in France (to immigrant parents). |
Anonymous
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Yes.
Child of immigrant parents. Mother did a ton of spanking and hollering - actually the hollering was probably worst than the spanking. Father was super strict and made tons of verbal threats. I feared him. As for our own kids .. no spanking. Tons and tons of talking. Howard county Maryland. |
Anonymous
My Chevy Chase mom - same. |
Anonymous
| Yes, 45, Philadelphia Catholic family. Corporal punishment had also been pervasive in the church and parochial schools so it was all my parents knew. Still, I consider it abuse. I can’t imagine even thinking about physically disciplining my children. |
Anonymous
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Yes. Rarely. I always knew why. The last time was for something someone else did. If my mom hadn’t been a boomer, she probably would’ve apologized. DH was spanked as well. I’m from the Midwest and he is from the South.
We spanked a few times, and just basically agreed it was stupid. |
Anonymous
| I was, but I can count them on one hand as my mom was a teacher (so had other methods she used to correct us -- time outs, taking away privileges etc) and my dad was anti-spanking. The one spanking I remember is one where I almost killed my younger sibling and, as an adult looking back, I should have gotten more than spanked for that. I am Black, mid-50s, from the South. |
Anonymous
OH! And I got an apology once for a spanking. My parents really did try to be better than their parents. |
Anonymous
| Yes, Europe. Parents and grandparents too. I also soanked my child. He is one of the best behaved and most polite teens too. |