PSA-Hoco

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mean kids have mean parents, nothing new.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mean kids have mean parents, nothing new.

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So the onus is completely on other kids to be mind readers not for the fringe kid to extend themselves a bit to ask their friends what their plans are since they want to go?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mean kids have mean parents, nothing new.

Nobody is condoning or advocating for mean behavior.

You are asking for an entire community to cater to your kid, and those that are pointing out the problems with that approach you label as mean.

You need to encourage your kid to use their voice and widen their circle of friends. But tbh, HoCo is probably the wrong time to do that.

maybe this is an opportunity to suggest they join a new club, or other afterschool activity

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am not even talking about the socially awkward kid but my own kid (who had plans for Hoco) didn't even ask some of her own friends if they had made plans. It turns one didn't have plans and was left out. How difficult would it have been for her to check on her friends and to include the ones that didn't get attached to a friend group? Just a kinder world.

Why couldn't that child check in with her friends and see what everyone was doing if she wanted to go some badly?

Speaking as a former "fringe kid" OP and people who think like her are not doing their " fringe kids" any favors.

I don’t have a “fringe kid”, I have good kids who include the “fringe kids.” What a weird assumption.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am not even talking about the socially awkward kid but my own kid (who had plans for Hoco) didn't even ask some of her own friends if they had made plans. It turns one didn't have plans and was left out. How difficult would it have been for her to check on her friends and to include the ones that didn't get attached to a friend group? Just a kinder world.

Why couldn't that child check in with her friends and see what everyone was doing if she wanted to go some badly?

Speaking as a former "fringe kid" OP and people who think like her are not doing their " fringe kids" any favors.

I don’t have a “fringe kid”, I have good kids who include the “fringe kids.” What a weird assumption.

Me again. DP, btw.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Your kids probably conceal a lot of things from you because you are so callous. They know any outward show of weakness will be met with your it's-a-dog-eat-dog-world brand of judgment. Ask me how I know.

Jesus H. That's quite a leap.

I'm just saying OP's plan is completely ridiculous given logistics, size of high schools, and teen social skills.

My kids can invite whoever they want to their HoCo group. But I would never ask them to invite someone that they don't know or don't want there.

I wouldn't do that myself (nor would most of you), so I don't know why we would ask our kids to do that.

You are being purposely obtuse to justify your mean-girl behavior.

Oh goodness. NP. Your child should initiate plans with other kids and acquaintances!! Your kid would be miserable tagging along with kids they didn’t know. We all have had a turn being third wheel; it sucks.

Don’t expect charity. It’s much more fun to get your own group of like minded friends where you can be yourself.

[Anonymous]

Op I was the socially awkward kid. Your suggestion sounds like a nightmare.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Your kids probably conceal a lot of things from you because you are so callous. They know any outward show of weakness will be met with your it's-a-dog-eat-dog-world brand of judgment. Ask me how I know.

Jesus H. That's quite a leap.

I'm just saying OP's plan is completely ridiculous given logistics, size of high schools, and teen social skills.

My kids can invite whoever they want to their HoCo group. But I would never ask them to invite someone that they don't know or don't want there.

I wouldn't do that myself (nor would most of you), so I don't know why we would ask our kids to do that.

You are being purposely obtuse to justify your mean-girl behavior.

Oh goodness. NP. Your child should initiate plans with other kids and acquaintances!! Your kid would be miserable tagging along with kids they didn’t know. We all have had a turn being third wheel; it sucks.

Don’t expect charity. It’s much more fun to get your own group of like minded friends where you can be yourself.

Again, this isn't about tagging along with kids you don't know but making sure your friends all have people to go with. Some may not. That's the point of the OP

[Anonymous]

There’s probably a middle ground here. I’ve sometimes encouraged my kids to reach out — oh, is Larla gojng with anyone? Maybe she could join your group? It’s weird to do it with someone you barely know but for someone that is adjacent to the friend group, it’s a nice gesture. It’s never a bad idea to encourage kids to think with generosity and kindness. Sometimes they forget.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mean kids have mean parents, nothing new.

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So the onus is completely on other kids to be mind readers not for the fringe kid to extend themselves a bit to ask their friends what their plans are since they want to go?

DP. It's just a nice idea. Something that most kids wouldn't necessarily think to do. I don't understand the hostile reactions. Obviously don't do it or make your kids do it if you're not comfortable, but why react aggressively to this idea?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Your kids probably conceal a lot of things from you because you are so callous. They know any outward show of weakness will be met with your it's-a-dog-eat-dog-world brand of judgment. Ask me how I know.

Jesus H. That's quite a leap.

I'm just saying OP's plan is completely ridiculous given logistics, size of high schools, and teen social skills.

My kids can invite whoever they want to their HoCo group. But I would never ask them to invite someone that they don't know or don't want there.

I wouldn't do that myself (nor would most of you), so I don't know why we would ask our kids to do that.

You are being purposely obtuse to justify your mean-girl behavior.

Oh goodness. NP. Your child should initiate plans with other kids and acquaintances!! Your kid would be miserable tagging along with kids they didn’t know. We all have had a turn being third wheel; it sucks.

Don’t expect charity. It’s much more fun to get your own group of like minded friends where you can be yourself.

Again, this isn't about tagging along with kids you don't know but making sure your friends all have people to go with. Some may not. That's the point of the OP

+1 this should not be difficult to understand. The knee jerk defensive of some of you is really telling. Don’t worry, nobody’s suggesting some random kid should come and upset the perfect symmetry of your pics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

What a shining example of empathy and inclusion! What a wonderful example for your kids. And why our country is full of such a bunch of a$$holes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mean kids have mean parents, nothing new.

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X a million.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Your kids probably conceal a lot of things from you because you are so callous. They know any outward show of weakness will be met with your it's-a-dog-eat-dog-world brand of judgment. Ask me how I know.

Jesus H. That's quite a leap.

I'm just saying OP's plan is completely ridiculous given logistics, size of high schools, and teen social skills.

My kids can invite whoever they want to their HoCo group. But I would never ask them to invite someone that they don't know or don't want there.

I wouldn't do that myself (nor would most of you), so I don't know why we would ask our kids to do that.

You are being purposely obtuse to justify your mean-girl behavior.

Oh goodness. NP. Your child should initiate plans with other kids and acquaintances!! Your kid would be miserable tagging along with kids they didn’t know. We all have had a turn being third wheel; it sucks.

Don’t expect charity. It’s much more fun to get your own group of like minded friends where you can be yourself.

Again, this isn't about tagging along with kids you don't know but making sure your friends all have people to go with. Some may not. That's the point of the OP

+1 this should not be difficult to understand. The knee jerk defensive of some of you is really telling. Don’t worry, nobody’s suggesting some random kid should come and upset the perfect symmetry of your pics.

The kid might even be fat! PPs' cameras won't even have a wide enough lens! The horror! What if they wipe their acne bacteria on a PP's towel!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mean kids have mean parents, nothing new.

+1

So the onus is completely on other kids to be mind readers not for the fringe kid to extend themselves a bit to ask their friends what their plans are since they want to go?

DP. It's just a nice idea. Something that most kids wouldn't necessarily think to do. I don't understand the hostile reactions. Obviously don't do it or make your kids do it if you're not comfortable, but why react aggressively to this idea?

Because the kids who don’t do it are MEAN with MEAN parents. Totally ridiculous. Get it now?