PSA-Hoco

[Anonymous]

Not everyone has a friend group. Have your kids reach out to the kids they know to make sure that if they want to go, they have someone to go with. If every kid did this, maybe one persons experience would be different.

[Anonymous]

I wish this could be the case. But people don't care. Or they care in theory, but not enough to actually try to include others.

[Anonymous]

It's not grade school. I am sorry if your kid doesn't have a friend group. My teens each went to homecoming one time. They hated it and said it was a lame waste of money.

I only had one kid go to prom, and she went exactly once. It's not the 80s-90s anymore, not everyone attends, and it's not a big deal at all. Please treat it as unimportant as it truly is.

[Anonymous]

Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

[Anonymous]

Hoco is important to some and it is sad that some kids don't feel that they can go because they haven't been included.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Mean parents, mean kids.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, but no.

These schools have enrollments of 2,000 to 4,000 kids.

You expect kids to reach out to the one kid they sit next to spanish class to see if they want to join?

That's just insane, and the fact that you think this should be happening for your kid is concerning. You need to encourage your kid to widen their circle

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Mean parents, mean kids.

Honest question: what's mean about it?

If these kids invite your kid, don't they need to invite everyone else to their pre-party? How would this work at the HS level?

Getting together with your friends is just a normal part of life. Expecting other people to cater to your shy kid is the part that's strange

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

But how would it work? A group of 10-12 kids get together before the dance.

But they are all acquaintances with maybe 4-5 kids each, maybe more. So, now its 50-60 kids invited to this pre-dance party?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Mean parents, mean kids.

Honest question: what's mean about it?

If these kids invite your kid, don't they need to invite everyone else to their pre-party? How would this work at the HS level?

Getting together with your friends is just a normal part of life. Expecting other people to cater to your shy kid is the part that's strange

I just think if each group of friends checked in on others to make sure they were covered and invited the person who wasn't, it would make a difference. Some kids have friends but don't have a friend a group and want to go. What's so bad about adding one kid to this pre-party?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

But how would it work? A group of 10-12 kids get together before the dance.

But they are all acquaintances with maybe 4-5 kids each, maybe more. So, now its 50-60 kids invited to this pre-dance party?

Likely, these acquaintances will have plans!!!!!!!!! But maybe one doesn't. Add him. It's not rocket science to be socially aware.

[Anonymous]

That seems like an odd approach. My son didn't have anyone to go with (his closer friends did not want to), so he reached out to more casual friends from his sports team and asked to join, and they said yes. He had a good time, but I would not have expected them to ask him to join them - they would assume he was going with his closer friend group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

But how would it work? A group of 10-12 kids get together before the dance.

But they are all acquaintances with maybe 4-5 kids each, maybe more. So, now its 50-60 kids invited to this pre-dance party?

Likely, these acquaintances will have plans!!!!!!!!! But maybe one doesn't. Add him. It's not rocket science to be socially aware.

I don't know. I all for being polite but the onus is really on OP's kid to make plans for themselves. This isn't being "socially aware"; this is asking kids to invite dozens of people they don't know to somebody else's house.

Heck, even if my kid wanted to do it, I wouldn't let them. I was fine with the 10-11 kids that I know coming over to my house. I wouldn't want all of them inviting kids they barely know to come over to my house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Mean parents, mean kids.

Honest question: what's mean about it?

If these kids invite your kid, don't they need to invite everyone else to their pre-party? How would this work at the HS level?

Getting together with your friends is just a normal part of life. Expecting other people to cater to your shy kid is the part that's strange

I just think if each group of friends checked in on others to make sure they were covered and invited the person who wasn't, it would make a difference. Some kids have friends but don't have a friend a group and want to go. What's so bad about adding one kid to this pre-party?

It's unrealistic, is my point.

DD's high school has close to 3,000 kids. How many kids are they going to "check in on"?