PSA-Hoco

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hoco is important to some and it is sad that some kids don't feel that they can go because they haven't been included.

Life is hard and we don't have to tailor ourselves to your kids anxieties. That's THEIR problem, not ours.

So tired of being told I have to accommodate other people's dysfunction.

WOW. You have got to be a troll.

DP. Remember, almost every day in this forum we posts like “my teen lies all the time, is this normal?”, or “my teen tells me she hates me every day, is this normal?”. This is is who we’re dealing with here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We all realize that these “kids” are almost full adults, right? And helicopter mommy is trying to make the world what she taught her kid it’d was instead of reality. Hard lesson that will take a long time to fix.

Actually that's incorrect. These kids are 14, 15. The amount of maturing that happens between those ages and being an "adult" is tremendous.

And part of maturing is dealing with your insecurities. If your 14-15 yr old wants to go to homecoming, encourage them to go. Either by themselves, with one friend, with two. Any combination works. They don’t need to be asked by anyone. Just go. It’s filled with hundreds of kids that when there, are all intermingled.

And would it be the end of the world if the people they are friends with asked them if they had plans? According to you, it is. Again, terrible parenting.

Have you talked to your daughter about why her “friends” never include her? There may be more going on behind the scenes.

Probably because your daughter iced her out for no reason.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We all realize that these “kids” are almost full adults, right? And helicopter mommy is trying to make the world what she taught her kid it’d was instead of reality. Hard lesson that will take a long time to fix.

Actually that's incorrect. These kids are 14, 15. The amount of maturing that happens between those ages and being an "adult" is tremendous.

And part of maturing is dealing with your insecurities. If your 14-15 yr old wants to go to homecoming, encourage them to go. Either by themselves, with one friend, with two. Any combination works. They don’t need to be asked by anyone. Just go. It’s filled with hundreds of kids that when there, are all intermingled.

And would it be the end of the world if the people they are friends with asked them if they had plans? According to you, it is. Again, terrible parenting.

Have you talked to your daughter about why her “friends” never include her? There may be more going on behind the scenes.

My daughter has a plan but she easily could have ended up without a plan and here is why. She's heavily involved in an out of school activity and has been for years. She has friends at school to eat lunch with and talk to between classes and get invites for birthday parties but those "school" friends are far more established in the school and have their own network. So I can easily see a scenario where they would have made plans that didn't include her. The PSA is merely intended for people to be aware that people (like my DD) can easily fall through the cracks. It's really not meant to bring out the hate you seem to have for kids that don't have plans.

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Anonymous wrote:We all realize that these “kids” are almost full adults, right? And helicopter mommy is trying to make the world what she taught her kid it’d was instead of reality. Hard lesson that will take a long time to fix.

Actually that's incorrect. These kids are 14, 15. The amount of maturing that happens between those ages and being an "adult" is tremendous.

And part of maturing is dealing with your insecurities. If your 14-15 yr old wants to go to homecoming, encourage them to go. Either by themselves, with one friend, with two. Any combination works. They don’t need to be asked by anyone. Just go. It’s filled with hundreds of kids that when there, are all intermingled.

And would it be the end of the world if the people they are friends with asked them if they had plans? According to you, it is. Again, terrible parenting.

Have you talked to your daughter about why her “friends” never include her? There may be more going on behind the scenes.

Probably because your daughter iced her out for no reason.

Yes I’m sure my 11 yr old daughter did this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We all realize that these “kids” are almost full adults, right? And helicopter mommy is trying to make the world what she taught her kid it’d was instead of reality. Hard lesson that will take a long time to fix.

Actually that's incorrect. These kids are 14, 15. The amount of maturing that happens between those ages and being an "adult" is tremendous.

And part of maturing is dealing with your insecurities. If your 14-15 yr old wants to go to homecoming, encourage them to go. Either by themselves, with one friend, with two. Any combination works. They don’t need to be asked by anyone. Just go. It’s filled with hundreds of kids that when there, are all intermingled.

And would it be the end of the world if the people they are friends with asked them if they had plans? According to you, it is. Again, terrible parenting.

Have you talked to your daughter about why her “friends” never include her? There may be more going on behind the scenes.

My daughter has a plan but she easily could have ended up without a plan and here is why. She's heavily involved in an out of school activity and has been for years. She has friends at school to eat lunch with and talk to between classes and get invites for birthday parties but those "school" friends are far more established in the school and have their own network. So I can easily see a scenario where they would have made plans that didn't include her. The PSA is merely intended for people to be aware that people (like my DD) can easily fall through the cracks. It's really not meant to bring out the hate you seem to have for kids that don't have plans.

Your vitriol for everyone here is frankly shocking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We all realize that these “kids” are almost full adults, right? And helicopter mommy is trying to make the world what she taught her kid it’d was instead of reality. Hard lesson that will take a long time to fix.

Actually that's incorrect. These kids are 14, 15. The amount of maturing that happens between those ages and being an "adult" is tremendous.

And part of maturing is dealing with your insecurities. If your 14-15 yr old wants to go to homecoming, encourage them to go. Either by themselves, with one friend, with two. Any combination works. They don’t need to be asked by anyone. Just go. It’s filled with hundreds of kids that when there, are all intermingled.

And would it be the end of the world if the people they are friends with asked them if they had plans? According to you, it is. Again, terrible parenting.

Have you talked to your daughter about why her “friends” never include her? There may be more going on behind the scenes.

My daughter has a plan but she easily could have ended up without a plan and here is why. She's heavily involved in an out of school activity and has been for years. She has friends at school to eat lunch with and talk to between classes and get invites for birthday parties but those "school" friends are far more established in the school and have their own network. So I can easily see a scenario where they would have made plans that didn't include her. The PSA is merely intended for people to be aware that people (like my DD) can easily fall through the cracks. It's really not meant to bring out the hate you seem to have for kids that don't have plans.

+1 This describes my DD’s situation as well, almost to a tee. She was really grateful to be included in a group of friends that’s much tighter and often hangs out without her. She probably would have gone by herself otherwise, but a lot of kids like to arrive with others, for various reasons.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all realize that these “kids” are almost full adults, right? And helicopter mommy is trying to make the world what she taught her kid it’d was instead of reality. Hard lesson that will take a long time to fix.

Actually that's incorrect. These kids are 14, 15. The amount of maturing that happens between those ages and being an "adult" is tremendous.

And part of maturing is dealing with your insecurities. If your 14-15 yr old wants to go to homecoming, encourage them to go. Either by themselves, with one friend, with two. Any combination works. They don’t need to be asked by anyone. Just go. It’s filled with hundreds of kids that when there, are all intermingled.

And would it be the end of the world if the people they are friends with asked them if they had plans? According to you, it is. Again, terrible parenting.

DP. Of course it wouldn't be the end of the world.

This is an honest question. Are there kids out there whose *friends* aren't aware of what their plans are for every free moment? The reason I ask is that my DD knows what her friends are doing on weekends and evenings (so and so has a meet and will be gone the whole weekend, this other kid is going to a Quinceanera on Saturday, that one is going to the mall with her soccer friends, so on), never mind something like HoCo. Acquaintances, she sometimes knows, and sometimes not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all realize that these “kids” are almost full adults, right? And helicopter mommy is trying to make the world what she taught her kid it’d was instead of reality. Hard lesson that will take a long time to fix.

Actually that's incorrect. These kids are 14, 15. The amount of maturing that happens between those ages and being an "adult" is tremendous.

And part of maturing is dealing with your insecurities. If your 14-15 yr old wants to go to homecoming, encourage them to go. Either by themselves, with one friend, with two. Any combination works. They don’t need to be asked by anyone. Just go. It’s filled with hundreds of kids that when there, are all intermingled.

And would it be the end of the world if the people they are friends with asked them if they had plans? According to you, it is. Again, terrible parenting.

Have you talked to your daughter about why her “friends” never include her? There may be more going on behind the scenes.

Probably because your daughter iced her out for no reason.

Yes I’m sure my 11 yr old daughter did this.

If your kid’s only 11, then I really don’t care what you have to say about any of this. Come back in a few years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all realize that these “kids” are almost full adults, right? And helicopter mommy is trying to make the world what she taught her kid it’d was instead of reality. Hard lesson that will take a long time to fix.

Actually that's incorrect. These kids are 14, 15. The amount of maturing that happens between those ages and being an "adult" is tremendous.

And part of maturing is dealing with your insecurities. If your 14-15 yr old wants to go to homecoming, encourage them to go. Either by themselves, with one friend, with two. Any combination works. They don’t need to be asked by anyone. Just go. It’s filled with hundreds of kids that when there, are all intermingled.

And would it be the end of the world if the people they are friends with asked them if they had plans? According to you, it is. Again, terrible parenting.

Have you talked to your daughter about why her “friends” never include her? There may be more going on behind the scenes.

Probably because your daughter iced her out for no reason.

Yes I’m sure my 11 yr old daughter did this.

If your kid’s only 11, then I really don’t care what you have to say about any of this. Come back in a few years.

I have a 14 yr old son. Try again. But you accused my daughter of this for some bizarre reason. We don’t actually know each other, remember?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all realize that these “kids” are almost full adults, right? And helicopter mommy is trying to make the world what she taught her kid it’d was instead of reality. Hard lesson that will take a long time to fix.

Actually that's incorrect. These kids are 14, 15. The amount of maturing that happens between those ages and being an "adult" is tremendous.

And part of maturing is dealing with your insecurities. If your 14-15 yr old wants to go to homecoming, encourage them to go. Either by themselves, with one friend, with two. Any combination works. They don’t need to be asked by anyone. Just go. It’s filled with hundreds of kids that when there, are all intermingled.

And would it be the end of the world if the people they are friends with asked them if they had plans? According to you, it is. Again, terrible parenting.

Have you talked to your daughter about why her “friends” never include her? There may be more going on behind the scenes.

Probably because your daughter iced her out for no reason.

Yes I’m sure my 11 yr old daughter did this.

Wow, a little off-topic, but you're 11 year old girl probably shouldn't be going to homecoming....

(joking....)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all realize that these “kids” are almost full adults, right? And helicopter mommy is trying to make the world what she taught her kid it’d was instead of reality. Hard lesson that will take a long time to fix.

Actually that's incorrect. These kids are 14, 15. The amount of maturing that happens between those ages and being an "adult" is tremendous.

And part of maturing is dealing with your insecurities. If your 14-15 yr old wants to go to homecoming, encourage them to go. Either by themselves, with one friend, with two. Any combination works. They don’t need to be asked by anyone. Just go. It’s filled with hundreds of kids that when there, are all intermingled.

And would it be the end of the world if the people they are friends with asked them if they had plans? According to you, it is. Again, terrible parenting.

DP. Of course it wouldn't be the end of the world.

This is an honest question. Are there kids out there whose *friends* aren't aware of what their plans are for every free moment? The reason I ask is that my DD knows what her friends are doing on weekends and evenings (so and so has a meet and will be gone the whole weekend, this other kid is going to a Quinceanera on Saturday, that one is going to the mall with her soccer friends, so on), never mind something like HoCo. Acquaintances, she sometimes knows, and sometimes not.

DP. Yes. Strange question.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all realize that these “kids” are almost full adults, right? And helicopter mommy is trying to make the world what she taught her kid it’d was instead of reality. Hard lesson that will take a long time to fix.

Actually that's incorrect. These kids are 14, 15. The amount of maturing that happens between those ages and being an "adult" is tremendous.

And part of maturing is dealing with your insecurities. If your 14-15 yr old wants to go to homecoming, encourage them to go. Either by themselves, with one friend, with two. Any combination works. They don’t need to be asked by anyone. Just go. It’s filled with hundreds of kids that when there, are all intermingled.

And would it be the end of the world if the people they are friends with asked them if they had plans? According to you, it is. Again, terrible parenting.

Have you talked to your daughter about why her “friends” never include her? There may be more going on behind the scenes.

Probably because your daughter iced her out for no reason.

Yes I’m sure my 11 yr old daughter did this.

Wow, a little off-topic, but you're 11 year old girl probably shouldn't be going to homecoming....

(joking....)

I have more than one kid but only 1 daughter. Trying to make this personal is bizarre. You did this! Your daughter did this!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all realize that these “kids” are almost full adults, right? And helicopter mommy is trying to make the world what she taught her kid it’d was instead of reality. Hard lesson that will take a long time to fix.

Actually that's incorrect. These kids are 14, 15. The amount of maturing that happens between those ages and being an "adult" is tremendous.

And part of maturing is dealing with your insecurities. If your 14-15 yr old wants to go to homecoming, encourage them to go. Either by themselves, with one friend, with two. Any combination works. They don’t need to be asked by anyone. Just go. It’s filled with hundreds of kids that when there, are all intermingled.

And would it be the end of the world if the people they are friends with asked them if they had plans? According to you, it is. Again, terrible parenting.

DP. Of course it wouldn't be the end of the world.

This is an honest question. Are there kids out there whose *friends* aren't aware of what their plans are for every free moment? The reason I ask is that my DD knows what her friends are doing on weekends and evenings (so and so has a meet and will be gone the whole weekend, this other kid is going to a Quinceanera on Saturday, that one is going to the mall with her soccer friends, so on), never mind something like HoCo. Acquaintances, she sometimes knows, and sometimes not.

This is the larger point (and what OP doesnt want to accept). She may be "friendly" with other kids but she's not friends with them. Bc the friends (especially the girls) know what everyone else's plans are.

So expecting someone else to intervene is really a weird social mis-step because it would assume that they are better friends than they really are

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We all realize that these “kids” are almost full adults, right? And helicopter mommy is trying to make the world what she taught her kid it’d was instead of reality. Hard lesson that will take a long time to fix.

Actually that's incorrect. These kids are 14, 15. The amount of maturing that happens between those ages and being an "adult" is tremendous.

And part of maturing is dealing with your insecurities. If your 14-15 yr old wants to go to homecoming, encourage them to go. Either by themselves, with one friend, with two. Any combination works. They don’t need to be asked by anyone. Just go. It’s filled with hundreds of kids that when there, are all intermingled.

And would it be the end of the world if the people they are friends with asked them if they had plans? According to you, it is. Again, terrible parenting.

Have you talked to your daughter about why her “friends” never include her? There may be more going on behind the scenes.

Probably because your daughter iced her out for no reason.

Yes I’m sure my 11 yr old daughter did this.

If your kid’s only 11, then I really don’t care what you have to say about any of this. Come back in a few years.

I have a 14 yr old son. Try again. But you accused my daughter of this for some bizarre reason. We don’t actually know each other, remember?

Of course we don’t. Don’t be so literal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hoco is important to some and it is sad that some kids don't feel that they can go because they haven't been included.

Life is hard and we don't have to tailor ourselves to your kids anxieties. That's THEIR problem, not ours.

So tired of being told I have to accommodate other people's dysfunction.

We already knew you were an ass. No need to come back and tell us over and over again.

NP, but is anyone else seeing the irony in the posters asking for kindness calling the other posters "ass"

Do F off. I don't owe you kindness when you come here and call kids who might be struggling socially at 14 and 15 dysfunctional. A kind thing to do, what I do, is to try to include them and show them they can be loved. I don't owe you a kindness for being an ass to them. So yes, you are an ASS. And you deserve to be called out for it.

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