Would you rat out the neighbor’s kid?

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the car isn’t there. It was there, it isn’t there now. So you could say “”Let me check…no, I don’t see that car.” Or you could say “I saw it a few hours ago but it’s gone now”.

It’s unfair to put you in this position and. Sophomore is too young to be left overnight imo.

I was doing overnight babysitting by that age. 15/16 is old enough to stay home without mommy and daddy.

Seeing as how this 15-ish year old had a girl over, overnight, against the rules, seems like in this case it is actually not old enough to make mature and responsible decisions.

You have no idea what the rules are and no idea if she was there overnight. This is why you just answer yes or no to the question

Oof. Why are you trying to defend a 15 or 16 year old kid having a girlfriend overnight when the parents are gone? Do you have children? Are they young and you think 15 is "almost an adult?" Are they teens are you are just a bad parent? Are they older and you forget what this age was like? I am genuinely curious.

Reading comprehension . I said OP should tell the truth and not make made up judgments about what the rules may or may not be. Some people are assuming the rule is that the girl can’t be there and they want to help the boy break that rule which I think is ridiculous and immature. I said, just answer the question and don’t try to pretend to know why they’re asking. Maybe the girl is missing.

Huh? This thread is about the PP who said 15/16 is old enough to be alone overnight. PP said it is not in this case, seeing as how the girl WAS there at 5am which is not a reasonable time for a teen to be at another teen's house. Of course she might be missing, but that's not likely. What's far more likely is that the mom is concerned the kid did something shady. If there were no problems and this was smooth sailing, no one would be texting asking about cars. I mean, come on. It's not responsible parenting to leave a 15/16 yo alone overnight for a number of reasons.

Um actually this thread is about whether or not OP should answer truthfully about what car is in front of her neighbors house when asked directly. And I’m saying yes of course she should. She doesn’t have to bother her brain about any reasons behind the question or extrapolate any assumptions about the kid or the girlfriend or the parenting choices. Just say yeah the car is there.

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Anonymous wrote:I would respond at 10a with the correct answer at 10a with a "sorry missed this earlier"

If you guys aren't close, she shouldn't be involving you in this.

This is what I would do but wait until late afternoon to reply. Make sure your texts have notifications off in the future, so people don’t see when you read them. I have a teen son and teen daughter and think it’s unfair they put you in this situation.

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to get a ring camera if she cares that much. It’s not fair to ask you to spy on her kid.

Which is why OP isn’t spying. She’s just answering a question about a vehicle in her driveway, yes or no. If this becomes a recurring thing I’d probably be with you and tell the neighbor that you don’t feel comfortable keeping an eye on her house while she is away (which makes you sound petty and like a bad neighbor but, it’s your choice and she should respect it). But she is asking one question, one time, that you have the answer to! You won’t even have to stand up and look out the window, or put forth any such effort! You just have to type “yes” and close your phone! This is hardly an imposition.

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I would ignore the text.

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I would tell the truth.

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I would tell.

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Anonymous wrote:The wife affirmatively asks , you answer the question honestly.

This. If she didn’t ask I would stay out of it but you have to answer honestly.

No you don’t. The idea that one has to answer any question posed to them is ludicrous.

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You need to answer honestly so your neighbors know you have their back and their kid knows not to pull hijinks when his parents are away because the neighbors are watching.

You aren’t a kid, “not ratting out a kid” is something other kids have to worry about. Adults act like adults

[Anonymous]

OP here!

7:35 AM - Neighbor texts.
7:40 AM - Husband texts a photo of their house back with the car still there.
7:42 AM - Neighbor texts back "thanks, don't want to be grandmother yet."

Sorry I didn't get back to this thread to update until now.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the car isn’t there. It was there, it isn’t there now. So you could say “”Let me check…no, I don’t see that car.” Or you could say “I saw it a few hours ago but it’s gone now”.

It’s unfair to put you in this position and. Sophomore is too young to be left overnight imo.

I was doing overnight babysitting by that age. 15/16 is old enough to stay home without mommy and daddy.

Seeing as how this 15-ish year old had a girl over, overnight, against the rules, seems like in this case it is actually not old enough to make mature and responsible decisions.

You have no idea what the rules are and no idea if she was there overnight. This is why you just answer yes or no to the question

Oof. Why are you trying to defend a 15 or 16 year old kid having a girlfriend overnight when the parents are gone? Do you have children? Are they young and you think 15 is "almost an adult?" Are they teens are you are just a bad parent? Are they older and you forget what this age was like? I am genuinely curious.

Reading comprehension . I said OP should tell the truth and not make made up judgments about what the rules may or may not be. Some people are assuming the rule is that the girl can’t be there and they want to help the boy break that rule which I think is ridiculous and immature. I said, just answer the question and don’t try to pretend to know why they’re asking. Maybe the girl is missing.

Huh? This thread is about the PP who said 15/16 is old enough to be alone overnight. PP said it is not in this case, seeing as how the girl WAS there at 5am which is not a reasonable time for a teen to be at another teen's house. Of course she might be missing, but that's not likely. What's far more likely is that the mom is concerned the kid did something shady. If there were no problems and this was smooth sailing, no one would be texting asking about cars. I mean, come on. It's not responsible parenting to leave a 15/16 yo alone overnight for a number of reasons.

Um actually this thread is about whether or not OP should answer truthfully about what car is in front of her neighbors house when asked directly. And I’m saying yes of course she should. She doesn’t have to bother her brain about any reasons behind the question or extrapolate any assumptions about the kid or the girlfriend or the parenting choices. Just say yeah the car is there.

Exactly. They asked a question - just answer it.

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Maybe the girls parents are looking for her and lying would make it worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here!

7:35 AM - Neighbor texts.
7:40 AM - Husband texts a photo of their house back with the car still there.
7:42 AM - Neighbor texts back "thanks, don't want to be grandmother yet."

Sorry I didn't get back to this thread to update until now.

Get ready for the egging of your house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here!

7:35 AM - Neighbor texts.
7:40 AM - Husband texts a photo of their house back with the car still there.
7:42 AM - Neighbor texts back "thanks, don't want to be grandmother yet."

Sorry I didn't get back to this thread to update until now.

Of course this is what it was about.

Kid should not have been left alone.

My own parents were like this: they'd give excessive freedom and not actively "parent" then act all put off and as if they cared when teens acted like teens. So irresponsible and selfish of the adult parents. 15 is still a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here!

7:35 AM - Neighbor texts.
7:40 AM - Husband texts a photo of their house back with the car still there.
7:42 AM - Neighbor texts back "thanks, don't want to be grandmother yet."

Sorry I didn't get back to this thread to update until now.

at 7:37 your husband said stay out of it, and 3 min later he was the one to text a photo back? you guys should have stayed out of it. why would they leave a 15 yo they didn't trust alone. Now you are involved in his upcoming punishments. and you're not even close?

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on top of it. when the kid denies, the parents will pull out the photo you guys sent. awk