Would you rat out the neighbor’s kid?

[Anonymous]

A couple on our street is out of town and their HS sophomore is home.

The wife just texted (7:30 AM) to ask if there’s a particular car at their house. It’s the girlfriend’s car and it was there when I left for the gym at 5 AM.

My husband says we don’t tell. I think we should. What would you do?

[Anonymous]

To add: We’re old and are friendly with these neighbors, but don’t socialize with them. We don’t have any kids at home.

[Anonymous]

I’d stay out of it and let the neighbors figure it out.

[Anonymous]

MYOB

[Anonymous]

The wife affirmatively asks , you answer the question honestly.

[Anonymous]

Since the wife/mom is asking, yes, I'd just answer the truth. I would not seek out the parents to deliver this information, but I see nothing wrong with being honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The wife affirmatively asks , you answer the question honestly.

This. If she didn’t ask I would stay out of it but you have to answer honestly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The wife affirmatively asks , you answer the question honestly.

This. It’s a very specific question with an easy answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A couple on our street is out of town and their HS sophomore is home.

The wife just texted (7:30 AM) to ask if there’s a particular car at their house. It’s the girlfriend’s car and it was there when I left for the gym at 5 AM.

My husband says we don’t tell. I think we should. What would you do?

If they ask a specific question, why wouldn’t you answer it
Truthfully? That’s not getting into anything.

Or are you planning on lying. You’re a grown woman not a 16yo - why would you compromise your integrity to cover for a kid, because that’s what you’d be going.

[Anonymous]

I wouldnt tell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A couple on our street is out of town and their HS sophomore is home.

The wife just texted (7:30 AM) to ask if there’s a particular car at their house. It’s the girlfriend’s car and it was there when I left for the gym at 5 AM.

My husband says we don’t tell. I think we should. What would you do?

If they ask a specific question, why wouldn’t you answer it
Truthfully? That’s not getting into anything.

Or are you planning on lying. You’re a grown woman not a 16yo - why would you compromise your integrity to cover for a kid, because that’s what you’d be going.

You quoted the post, but didn’t read it. OP isn’t the issue. OP’s husband is.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like the car isn’t there. It was there, it isn’t there now. So you could say “”Let me check…no, I don’t see that car.” Or you could say “I saw it a few hours ago but it’s gone now”.

It’s unfair to put you in this position and. Sophomore is too young to be left overnight imo.

[Anonymous]

Of course you tell the truth. I might jokingly tell the kid “don’t throw any parties while your parents are away, she has all the neighbor’s phone numbers!” As a quick reminder that things aren’t always secret in neighborhoods.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the car isn’t there. It was there, it isn’t there now. So you could say “”Let me check…no, I don’t see that car.” Or you could say “I saw it a few hours ago but it’s gone now”.

It’s unfair to put you in this position and. Sophomore is too young to be left overnight imo.

I was doing overnight babysitting by that age. 15/16 is old enough to stay home without mommy and daddy.

[Anonymous]

your assumption that the kid isn't allowed to do this and that is why the mother is contacting you may be right, but I am just pointing out you don't know why the neighbor mother is asking - could be the GF's parents haven't seen her at home and are worried and she's missing, etc.

i would ask, "why do you ask" and let the parents deal with it if they say "b/c he's not allowed to"