Would you rat out the neighbor’s kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the car isn’t there. It was there, it isn’t there now. So you could say “”Let me check…no, I don’t see that car.” Or you could say “I saw it a few hours ago but it’s gone now”.

It’s unfair to put you in this position and. Sophomore is too young to be left overnight imo.

I was doing overnight babysitting by that age. 15/16 is old enough to stay home without mommy and daddy.

Seeing as how this 15-ish year old had a girl over, overnight, against the rules, seems like in this case it is actually not old enough to make mature and responsible decisions.

Exactly. This one is not ready and his parents don't trust him. But, they didn't care and wanted to head out anyway. Now they are making it the neighbor's problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A couple on our street is out of town and their HS sophomore is home.

The wife just texted (7:30 AM) to ask if there’s a particular car at their house. It’s the girlfriend’s car and it was there when I left for the gym at 5 AM.

My husband says we don’t tell. I think we should. What would you do?

Stay out of this. Do not communicate with those folks in any manner.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the car isn’t there. It was there, it isn’t there now. So you could say “”Let me check…no, I don’t see that car.” Or you could say “I saw it a few hours ago but it’s gone now”.

It’s unfair to put you in this position and. Sophomore is too young to be left overnight imo.

I was doing overnight babysitting by that age. 15/16 is old enough to stay home without mommy and daddy.

Seeing as how this 15-ish year old had a girl over, overnight, against the rules, seems like in this case it is actually not old enough to make mature and responsible decisions.

You have no idea what the rules are and no idea if she was there overnight. This is why you just answer yes or no to the question

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t lie to the neighbor. They own the house. They are responsible for what happens there.

[Anonymous]

I would respond at 10a with the correct answer at 10a with a "sorry missed this earlier"

If you guys aren't close, she shouldn't be involving you in this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A couple on our street is out of town and their HS sophomore is home.

The wife just texted (7:30 AM) to ask if there’s a particular car at their house. It’s the girlfriend’s car and it was there when I left for the gym at 5 AM.

My husband says we don’t tell. I think we should. What would you do?

Stay out of this. Do not communicate with those folks in any manner.

Police: “so we have on record that the parents of the missing girl haven’t known her whereabouts since 24 hours ago. Last known sighting was at Starbucks on Rt 50 at 4pm. We have here on record that her parents asked if the child’s car was at seen at her best friends house or her boyfriends house that night. I have on record here that you answered no, the car was not there, when your neighbor asked you. Is that correct?”
OP : “well no, actually, it was here. We just didn’t want to get her boyfriend in trouble for getting laid”.

[Anonymous]

I’m glad I have better neighbors than the average DCUM poster. Good grief. This is part of building community. I have neighbors that I barely know on a friend level but have looked out for their kids, grabbed a package, taken over wrongly delivered mail etc and didn’t think twice.

Three weeks ago a neighbor’s 12 year old daughter was locked out of the house while her parents were still at work she knocked on our door because she had to go to the bathroom. I bet many of you wouldn’t have opened the door for the kid.

If you aren’t willing to answer this simple text, don’t expect these neighbors to do a damn thing if your house is on fire or breaking in.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the car isn’t there. It was there, it isn’t there now. So you could say “”Let me check…no, I don’t see that car.” Or you could say “I saw it a few hours ago but it’s gone now”.

It’s unfair to put you in this position and. Sophomore is too young to be left overnight imo.

I was doing overnight babysitting by that age. 15/16 is old enough to stay home without mommy and daddy.

Seeing as how this 15-ish year old had a girl over, overnight, against the rules, seems like in this case it is actually not old enough to make mature and responsible decisions.

You have no idea what the rules are and no idea if she was there overnight. This is why you just answer yes or no to the question

Oof. Why are you trying to defend a 15 or 16 year old kid having a girlfriend overnight when the parents are gone? Do you have children? Are they young and you think 15 is "almost an adult?" Are they teens are you are just a bad parent? Are they older and you forget what this age was like? I am genuinely curious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the car isn’t there. It was there, it isn’t there now. So you could say “”Let me check…no, I don’t see that car.” Or you could say “I saw it a few hours ago but it’s gone now”.

It’s unfair to put you in this position and. Sophomore is too young to be left overnight imo.

I was doing overnight babysitting by that age. 15/16 is old enough to stay home without mommy and daddy.

Seeing as how this 15-ish year old had a girl over, overnight, against the rules, seems like in this case it is actually not old enough to make mature and responsible decisions.

You have no idea what the rules are and no idea if she was there overnight. This is why you just answer yes or no to the question

Oof. Why are you trying to defend a 15 or 16 year old kid having a girlfriend overnight when the parents are gone? Do you have children? Are they young and you think 15 is "almost an adult?" Are they teens are you are just a bad parent? Are they older and you forget what this age was like? I am genuinely curious.

Reading comprehension . I said OP should tell the truth and not make made up judgments about what the rules may or may not be. Some people are assuming the rule is that the girl can’t be there and they want to help the boy break that rule which I think is ridiculous and immature. I said, just answer the question and don’t try to pretend to know why they’re asking. Maybe the girl is missing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The wife affirmatively asks , you answer the question honestly.

This. It’s a very specific question with an easy answer.

Agreed. You can just say "yes", no details needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since the wife/mom is asking, yes, I'd just answer the truth. I would not seek out the parents to deliver this information, but I see nothing wrong with being honest.

This.

[Anonymous]

Some of you are truly evil and stupid.

Of course you answer to the best of your knowledge, and immediately. These are minors.

SHAME ON THE POSTERS, AND OP'S HUSBAND, WHOSE FIRST REFLEX IS TO HIDE.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the car isn’t there. It was there, it isn’t there now. So you could say “”Let me check…no, I don’t see that car.” Or you could say “I saw it a few hours ago but it’s gone now”.

It’s unfair to put you in this position and. Sophomore is too young to be left overnight imo.

I was doing overnight babysitting by that age. 15/16 is old enough to stay home without mommy and daddy.

Seeing as how this 15-ish year old had a girl over, overnight, against the rules, seems like in this case it is actually not old enough to make mature and responsible decisions.

You have no idea what the rules are and no idea if she was there overnight. This is why you just answer yes or no to the question

Oof. Why are you trying to defend a 15 or 16 year old kid having a girlfriend overnight when the parents are gone? Do you have children? Are they young and you think 15 is "almost an adult?" Are they teens are you are just a bad parent? Are they older and you forget what this age was like? I am genuinely curious.

Reading comprehension . I said OP should tell the truth and not make made up judgments about what the rules may or may not be. Some people are assuming the rule is that the girl can’t be there and they want to help the boy break that rule which I think is ridiculous and immature. I said, just answer the question and don’t try to pretend to know why they’re asking. Maybe the girl is missing.

Huh? This thread is about the PP who said 15/16 is old enough to be alone overnight. PP said it is not in this case, seeing as how the girl WAS there at 5am which is not a reasonable time for a teen to be at another teen's house. Of course she might be missing, but that's not likely. What's far more likely is that the mom is concerned the kid did something shady. If there were no problems and this was smooth sailing, no one would be texting asking about cars. I mean, come on. It's not responsible parenting to leave a 15/16 yo alone overnight for a number of reasons.

[Anonymous]

If the mom is this worried to have to text a neighbor who she isn't close with, she shouldn't have left her kid.

If the girl is reported missing, the police should be at the neighbors house right now.

I wouldn't want to be in the middle of this shi "Ms. Johnson told me Jessica's car was here at 5a. you're grounded for the next 2 months"

[Anonymous]

She needs to get a ring camera if she cares that much. It’s not fair to ask you to spy on her kid.