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Would you rat out the neighbor’s kid?
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Anonymous
| ^ me again. I like my solution. It's a way of telling on them without telling on them and telling them youaren't getting in the middle |
Anonymous
| This is exactly why the experts say teen’s brains are not fully formed. If the girlfriend simply parked down the street, nobody would be the wiser. Yes, I would be truthful. |
Anonymous
| If it was that important to the mom, she would have bought a Ring doorbell. |
Anonymous
| MYOB |
Anonymous
| I mean, I wouldn't lie for the kid. |
Anonymous
I totally would. They specifically asked you and it would be wrong to lie about it. |
Anonymous
| You don’t know why she is asking. Maybe the girls parents are frantically looking for her. I would never independent text a neighbor to tell them that. But, if they directly asked me “is a blue Toyota Prius in our driveway” I would say “yes”. Or “not right now but I believe I saw it around 5am”. |
Anonymous
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Just delete her text. You're not her employees and it is rude to include you in their crap like this.
I agree she should get a RING camera if she wants to know. Its not like the kid had 200 drunken bros there to party and they trashed the house. I'd tell them if that happened. |
Anonymous
| Of course you tell the truth. How is this even a question. You’re a parent, not the kids buddy. |
Anonymous
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You have to be factual.
I noticed the car when I went to the gym at 5am, and I see it's still there at X time. Choose your words carefully. No interpretation. Your husband is one of those stupid people who interpret requests and think they're doing favors for people by omitting truths or outright lying. It's a really, really bad habit because he's not that smart and most times will guess wrong on why people actually want to know. - parent of teens who would want to know. ALL the parents of teens would want to know. |
Anonymous
I don't think the neighbor should have put you in this awkward position, especially if you're friendly but not close. It's not a question of safety like "I got an alert from our alarm company. Do you see any smoke coming out of our house?" or something practical like "I'm expecting an important package. Do you see a package in front of my door?" I don't think you should feel any obligation to respond. Your neighbor's disciplinary issues with their son is not your business and they shouldn't have involved you. |
Anonymous
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It's not ratting out. It's reporting on the welfare of a minor and it's CRITICAL to tell what you know. As the parent of a 19 and 14 year old son and daughter, I have to tell you that we want to keep them safe. It's not about having sex or partying. They will do those things if they want to regardless of what parents want. But we want to know where they are, with whom, so we continue to instill safe habits in our young people, whose brains are still developing, and who are liable to be impulsive and not think through consequences very well. Maybe this girl's parents are frantically looking for her, and will be relieved to know she's with ber boyfriend. You don't know anything about what's going on here. Tell what you know. It's the first rule of building a safe community. |
Anonymous
Exactly. I would text back at around 10 am you were trying to sleep in and unless it is an emergency not to text so early. |
Anonymous
| Who doesn't have a Ring camera these days? |
Anonymous
+1 |