Would you rat out the neighbor’s kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:your assumption that the kid isn't allowed to do this and that is why the mother is contacting you may be right, but I am just pointing out you don't know why the neighbor mother is asking - could be the GF's parents haven't seen her at home and are worried and she's missing, etc.

i would ask, "why do you ask" and let the parents deal with it if they say "b/c he's not allowed to"

This is so illogical. What kid is going to fib about their girlfriend actually being at the house when she is allowed to be there. Yeah the son is lying and saying the girlfriend is at the house when the girlfriend isn’t there….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The wife affirmatively asks , you answer the question honestly.

I think this is the answer. I wouldn't volunteer the info up, but when a neighbor asks ... I think you help by answering. It's a child, so this isn't really meddling.

But I get the DH's pov also. Not sure there is one right answer here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The wife affirmatively asks , you answer the question honestly.

This. It’s a very specific question with an easy answer.

+1

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would rat them out.

[Anonymous]

Why does it matter if this kid is 15 or 16? It's irresponsible parenting either way. The point is: the parents abdicated their responsibility. Shameful parenting, and crappy to put the detective work on a neighbor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the car isn’t there. It was there, it isn’t there now. So you could say “”Let me check…no, I don’t see that car.” Or you could say “I saw it a few hours ago but it’s gone now”.

It’s unfair to put you in this position and. Sophomore is too young to be left overnight imo.

These are not your friends OP; they are reaching out to you to be a narc.

For all you know, they will turn it on YOU. As in you texted them to tell them a strange car is in the driveway.

They will say to their DS, our neighbor Renee reached out to us, concerned that there was a blue honda in the driveway even though they know we are not home and they were concerned.

Do you want to be that person OP?? They should ask their kid, who they raised, if the gf is over.

Or, don't read the text. Read it later. Then let neighbor know you just saw it and there are/not cars in the driveway.

p.s. they are jerks for putting you in the middle of this!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just delete her text. You're not her employees and it is rude to include you in their crap like this.

I agree she should get a RING camera if she wants to know.

Its not like the kid had 200 drunken bros there to party and they trashed the house. I'd tell them if that happened.

lol! This happened at my BF house backing to a golf course when we were 15. Did not trash the house, but they were a lot of teens who crashed over that night. Yes, the neighbors told her parents. Thank goodness texting did not existing back then

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What kind of parents have teens but no security cameras? In the year of our lord, 2024?

Hell to the naw!

The only place in our house without cameras is inside of bedrooms.

Not all of us want to make our homes a surveilence state.

And yet they text the neighbors. Cannot have it both ways.

[Anonymous]

Text back: Why don't you ask your son?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The wife affirmatively asks , you answer the question honestly.

+1
You're not don't anything wrong by answering a simple question.

Of course OP not doing anything wrong but the asker IS. It’s not for neighbor to monitor the son. The parents left and did not hire neighbor to babysit. If parents want a question answered, ask the son. If the son isn’t answering and need welfare check, the parents should call police. Way out of line to ask neighbor to be monitoring kid.

In my neighborhood, this would be no big deal. We are all friendly and happy to help out.

[Anonymous]

PP. Also, for me it's different than asking about a package on a porch or a garbage can, when no-one is at home, then of course as a neighbor I would help. Here they should be communicating with their son and leave neighbors out of it. It sounds passive-aggressive to want your neighbors spying on your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The wife affirmatively asks , you answer the question honestly.

This.
You clearly do not have a special relationship with this child to warrant any loyalty or responsibility toward them due to any extenuating circumstances.
Unless you suspect a situation in which the child is in danger from their parents with an honest answer, why is this a hard decision?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just delete her text. You're not her employees and it is rude to include you in their crap like this.

I agree she should get a RING camera if she wants to know.

Its not like the kid had 200 drunken bros there to party and they trashed the house. I'd tell them if that happened.

You have no idea what "it's like." Maybe the owner of the car is bad news for some really serious stuff that could be equally as bad as, or worse than 200 drunken bros partying -- for which the neighbors probably would have called the police and the parents would find out anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who doesn't have a Ring camera these days?

I don't.

[Anonymous]

Be a good neighbor, help them out.