Men dating younger women gives me the ick

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you people, don't be so judgmental. as long as legal age, who gives F?

We all judge on something. Why do you care if we don't like seeing a 50 or 60 year old with a 24 year old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 36F married to a 36M, two children. All of our friends and associates (mainly lawyers and other professionals) are in similar age appropriate relationships.
Recently I’ve observed a man we know from university, who has aged poorly due to stress of running his own law firm, posting his new younger (mid 20s ish) girlfriend all over social media. She looks like his little sister or niece and it gives me the ick. He is always posting photos of her in revealing clothing hanging all over him like she’s some trophy.
Older women dating younger men don’t seem to give me the same feeling. I’m wondering why that is? Is it because biologically there is much less likely to be children resulting from that type of match, while older men can impregnate younger women with their inferior sperm and have kids well past the age they should become fathers?
Is it because I feel bad for these attractive young women who should really be able to find a decent looking successful man their own age, and instead are settling for an older version?
Or am I having some sort of deep seated insecurities because this woman is younger and prettier than me? To be fair, I am not bad looking and still in decent shape after two kids. I’ve also never had any romantic interest in this man posting on social media.
Fascinating! I suppose I will see more of this type of situation as we get older.

I mean, who cares about your feelings or that it gives you the “ick”, whatever the hell that means. Your feelings are not valid or anything. So weird you felt the need to share them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care what adults do with each other. At some point, you have to take responsibility for your decisions - including who you date.

If you, at 21-22, want to date someone who is 40+, that’s on you. I don’t understand this trend of infantilizing women.

It isn't infantilizing women but, if you understood that you don't have the same life experience at age 23 than you would understand. Not to mention if there has been any dysfunction in their family which causes them to seek out father figures.

[Anonymous]

There *is* a tipping point with ageless relationships.
One key is to know and feel the age of your partner' s soul. You know what I mean?
Another key is to embrace each other's desire and hunger for what each brings to the party.
Ultimately, judgment of any loving relationship based upon age, income, status, etc. is nothing more than a Western moralist ideology.
That being said,.there *is* a tipping point (I believe...just me...)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 36F married to a 36M, two children. All of our friends and associates (mainly lawyers and other professionals) are in similar age appropriate relationships.
Recently I’ve observed a man we know from university, who has aged poorly due to stress of running his own law firm, posting his new younger (mid 20s ish) girlfriend all over social media. She looks like his little sister or niece and it gives me the ick. He is always posting photos of her in revealing clothing hanging all over him like she’s some trophy.
Older women dating younger men don’t seem to give me the same feeling. I’m wondering why that is? Is it because biologically there is much less likely to be children resulting from that type of match, while older men can impregnate younger women with their inferior sperm and have kids well past the age they should become fathers?
Is it because I feel bad for these attractive young women who should really be able to find a decent looking successful man their own age, and instead are settling for an older version?
Or am I having some sort of deep seated insecurities because this woman is younger and prettier than me? To be fair, I am not bad looking and still in decent shape after two kids. I’ve also never had any romantic interest in this man posting on social media.
Fascinating! I suppose I will see more of this type of situation as we get older.

I mean, who cares about your feelings or that it gives you the “ick”, whatever the hell that means. Your feelings are not valid or anything. So weird you felt the need to share them.

dp If you don't find the topic worthy than you don't have to read it or comment on it. Just move along!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 36F married to a 36M, two children. All of our friends and associates (mainly lawyers and other professionals) are in similar age appropriate relationships.
Recently I’ve observed a man we know from university, who has aged poorly due to stress of running his own law firm, posting his new younger (mid 20s ish) girlfriend all over social media. She looks like his little sister or niece and it gives me the ick. He is always posting photos of her in revealing clothing hanging all over him like she’s some trophy.
Older women dating younger men don’t seem to give me the same feeling. I’m wondering why that is? Is it because biologically there is much less likely to be children resulting from that type of match, while older men can impregnate younger women with their inferior sperm and have kids well past the age they should become fathers?
Is it because I feel bad for these attractive young women who should really be able to find a decent looking successful man their own age, and instead are settling for an older version?
Or am I having some sort of deep seated insecurities because this woman is younger and prettier than me? To be fair, I am not bad looking and still in decent shape after two kids. I’ve also never had any romantic interest in this man posting on social media.
Fascinating! I suppose I will see more of this type of situation as we get older.

I mean, who cares about your feelings or that it gives you the “ick”, whatever the hell that means. Your feelings are not valid or anything. So weird you felt the need to share them.

dp If you don't find the topic worthy than you don't have to read it or comment on it. Just move along!

Naw, sometimes I need to put bishes in their place.

What’s with this idiotic “the ick” phrasing, anyway? So puerile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have too much time on your hands if you care who others date. Just being candid. How does it impact you? It doesn't. You CHOOSE to be offended. People date who they want. It doesn't impact your life or way of living. Find something productive to care about.

Spot on!

You revived an old thread to say “spot on!”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Old women dating young men is puke worthy.

Just thinking about saggy boobs is nasty.

Saggy boobs- young women can also have saggy boobs.

Saggy balls, and saggy man tits. That’s specially reserved for the elderly.

[Anonymous]

49 year old man
Dating 23yr old med student. She is smart sexy and super young!
Not a sugar baby!
She can’t get enough of me 😈

The only people who have ageist problems and ick seems to be middle aged and unattractive women.

The hot middle aged women could not give a fcuk because they are dating the 20yr old boy toys anyway

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:49 year old man
Dating 23yr old med student. She is smart sexy and super young!
Not a sugar baby!
She can’t get enough of me 😈

The only people who have ageist problems and ick seems to be middle aged and unattractive women.

The hot middle aged women could not give a fcuk because they are dating the 20yr old boy toys anyway

You are peak hotness. But how is she going to feel when she’s 38 or 45?

I am your gf years down the road with kids. I married my husband with a 19 year age gap. Have had young men recently (open with husband not digressing this thread), so agree on that point too. lol. I technically don’t care.

Honestly 40 year olds men and women who are in shape are hot!! We as a society need to get that 40 isn’t what it use to be.

But it can work down the road and not at the same time. Like if the women hits her midlife crises (me) she’s not going to love that age gap anymore. Sorry but true! And even for the men. What if he also decides love my older woman but wow those women my age look better now? I also think it’s an issue of the couple but it soo depends. Although OP’s example is a small gap. 10 years isn’t that much??

[Anonymous]

Sounds like…. none of your business.

But thanks for sharing 🙄

[Anonymous]

Yes, older men with much younger men are creepy.

But you are describing a mid-20s woman dating a mid-30s man. So, 25 and 35-ish? That's not creepy. 10 years when both partners are 25+ is fine. They're both adults.

So, yes, it's you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, older men with much younger men are creepy.

But you are describing a mid-20s woman dating a mid-30s man. So, 25 and 35-ish? That's not creepy. 10 years when both partners are 25+ is fine. They're both adults.

So, yes, it's you.

*older men with much younger women is creepy. (Also older men with much younger men, but that isn't what the OP is talking about).

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your insecurity. Why else would you spend so much energy thinking about it when it doesn't affect your life actually at all?

[Anonymous]

Eh. I don’t think it’s necessarily ick. Usually when I see this dynamic, the older person just got divorced and is looking to feel young again, the young person just graduated college and is looking to feel “grown-up”.

Very, very rarely do they work out. They mess around for a few months and usually the younger person decides they’d rather have someone their own age, without all the baggage.

I went through this at 23. Dated a 45 year old, recently divorced man. It was exciting because he seems so mature and I thought he’d be everything men my age weren’t. But pretty quickly I got tired of his body (he was in decent shape, but 45 is still 45), I realized most 45 year olds aren’t even all that mature, and I definitely did NOT want the drama that would have come with being a stepmom to his kids. So we had fun, then I found a guy my own age.

If I got divorced (I’m 40), I could see myself having a fling with a 20 year old. But ultimately I’d get bored pretty quickly and want someone on my level.